Barb Schmidt

Do you want to know the secret to living a happy, more peaceful, ease-filled life?

✨Be mindful and attentive to the words you say!

When you say hurtful, critical, and judgmental words to people and yourself, it affects your mood, energy, and your brain.

Here are some studies on how your brain reacts to negative self talk and stress:

✨The brain treats negative self-statements as actual threats.
✨ Chronic stress and persistent negative thinking can weaken immune function and are associated with reductions in overall brain volume in areas tied to emotional regulation.
✨ Negative self-talk can make you feel stressed, sad, and even lead to mental health problems like depression.

The old adage that your words and actions matter is real! Your Words and actions will change you.

Next time you feel the urge to say something negative or harmful ask yourself:

✨Is what I’m about to say true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?

Remember by being mindful of your words you are actually taking good care of your brain and your happiness. 🥰

This might sound harsh but…
Mean and disrespectful people have no place in your life💗

✨ We when you endure rudeness and meanness you are training yourself to believe you are not worthy of standing up for yourself.

As a child I was taught to be “nice” which will cause you to be a doormat to harmful behavior😮‍💨

✨ By “putting up” with disrespectful behavior you are telling people that it’s okay with you. 😔

The shift from “being nice” to valuing your worth and emotional wellbeing looks like this:
✨ Showing up with compassion and confidence
✨ Choosing the right people who have earned your energy and efforts
✨ Setting boundaries when disrespect is happening
✨ Standing up against cruelty & rudeness
✨ Always advocate for your wellbeing

Remember: you cannot change or fix others, it’s not your job, but you can always speak up in support of yourself and others who are being harmed ❤️‍🩹

Sending love,
Barb Schmidt

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There’s no excuse for abuse.

“Hurt people hurt people” but that’s not an excuse.

It’s our responsibility to heal. It’s our responsibility to break the cycle.

You don’t have to endure harm just because the other person has a traumatic past and is unhealed. Their healing isn’t your responsibility.

Drop a ❤️ if you agree…..

I spent too many years of life trying to please people and make them happy or like me.

✨ I checked myself into treatment for bulimia at 28 years old and one of the first things my therapist Joyce said to me was this:
“Barb do you like everyone? I said, “No, of course not.”
She replied, “Then why are you trying to have everyone like you?” 🔥

✨ I sat silent for a few minutes. Joyce was a genius therapist for me. She went straight to the core of my insecurities.

Today in a situation where I’m trying to people-please, or if I’m feeling insecure, I pause, take a few breaths, and remember what Joyce said to me over 40 years ago.

As humans we’re going to feel insecure from time to time, so the key to life is being aware when it’s happening, and remember you are always worthy just as you are. You never need to please others to get their love or approval.

You are enough. Be unapologetically you. Your power lies in liking yourself, let others dislike you, and keep on walking. 👣 Sending you love 🥰

Hard Truth: When people minimize your pain it’s a form of gaslighting😮‍💨

When someone asks, “Was it really that bad?” They’re saying, “Well let’s decide if your feelings are valid!”

✨Feelings are not facts. Feelings are not right or wrong. Feelings are meant to be felt, acknowledged, and then they move through us✨

When we experience something painful, the last thing we need is to feel ashamed. 😳

✨Support is needed.
✨Compassion is needed.
✨Encouragement is needed.
✨Community is needed.

Often we simply need a kind ear from someone to listen.

✨We all want to be seen, heard, and know we’re not alone. I see you.
Sending love 😘