The Shadow Wedding

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Bringing Light to the Dark Side of Getting Hitched

A Shadow Wedding is an intimate ritual held before a regular "light" wedding in which all manner of difficult material between the couple is welcomed. It provides a consecrated place for partners to give voice to their darker sides, along with any doubts and fears about committing to lifelong partnership. Through the process of creating and participating in a Shadow Wedding, partners choose one another with eyes wide open, seeing both the beautiful and the ugly in their beloved.

Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person 05/30/2016

Great article by Alain de Botton in the NY Times about marrying your partner's shadow: http://www.nytimes.com/2016/05/29/opinion/sunday/why-you-will-marry-the-wrong-person.html?mwrsm=Facebook&_r=0

Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person Embrace a philosophy of pessimism. Every human will disappoint you, and you’ll do the same to them.

06/12/2015

Woah -- Sam Mettler's Shadow Wedding sizzle reel is amazing! Sorry we can't show it to you right now, because he's shopping it to networks in NY next week. But it's very possible that Shadow Wedding reality docu-series could become a, well, a REALITY. Say a prayer that our relationship work gets seen by millions.

03/06/2015

We've signed a contract with Mad Jack Entertainment to shop a Shadow Wedding reality docudrama series to the networks! Sam Mettler at Mad Jack created the Emmy-award winning show "Intervention." We think he's an ideal match for our work.

Sam is excited to co-create an impactful show and optimistic that a network will want it. Next up: Creating a 3-minute "sizzle reel" this month to present to the networks that shows us working with an engaged couple.

07/29/2014

The Steve Harvey Show contacted us to talk about Shadow Weddings in a 20-minute segment this September. Sadly, it would involve us traveling to Chicago with Jessica 8 months pregnant -- and on the weekend of the baby shower. Family comes first!

Timeline photos 11/18/2013

Perhaps ONE aspect of the shadow….

Speaking The Unspeakable: ‘Shadow Weddings’ Before The Big Day 11/05/2013

Woo hoo! Our interview with Here and Now (on NPR) aired this morning. You can listen to our nine minutes of fame at:
http://hereandnow.wbur.org/2013/11/05/shadow-weddings-benson

Speaking The Unspeakable: ‘Shadow Weddings’ Before The Big Day Jessica Wolk Benson and Jim Benson want people to adopt another wedding ritual, on top of the typical toasts and traditions. A "shadow wedding" is the dark side to the wedding's light.

10/17/2013

Looks like we're getting interviewed by NPR next week. We've got an ally in the media! We'll keep you posted.

Shadow Wedding blog | My new Web site 05/26/2012

Our recent blog post has burbled to the surface! http://www.shadowwedding.com/blog/

Shadow Wedding blog | My new Web site We are emerging from a hunkered-down Winter, the indoor and solo kind that’s filled with individual endeavors and commitments. Since the launch of our website in January, these other demands sent the Shadow Wedding project to the cold territory of the back burner, where it’s waited patiently for som...

03/16/2012

Know a truth-seeking couple with an upcoming wedding this summer or fall? Now would be the time to tell them about The Shadow Wedding!

Shadow Wedding: Bringing Light to the Dark Side of Getting Hitched 01/02/2012

Do you know any engaged couples dedicated to their own — and each others' — personal growth? We'd love them to know about our unique form of pre-marital coaching. Send them the link: http://shadowwedding.com/. Thanks and blessings!

Shadow Wedding: Bringing Light to the Dark Side of Getting Hitched A Shadow Wedding is an intimate ritual held before a regular "light" wedding in which all manner of difficult material between the couple is welcomed. It provides a consecrated place for partners to give voice to their darker sides, along with any doubts and fears about committing to lifelong part...

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