Blooming In Process

✨ When life doesn’t look like what you prayed for… ✨

Disappointment hits differently when you’re trying to live right. When you’ve obeyed God, worked hard, loved well—and still feel like your life hasn’t caught up to your faith.

But here’s what I’ve learned as both a believer and a therapist:

We often tie our worth to achievement instead of alignment. In social psychology, this is called “achievement-based identity”, when our sense of value depends on external success instead of internal peace. Spiritually, this can lead us to confuse progress with proximity, thinking God’s silence means distance, when in reality He’s deepening our roots. 🌱

Sometimes, obedience doesn’t look like forward motion, it looks like staying still, trusting, and not quitting.

God’s idea of success isn’t the house, the job, the perfect family photo, or the business milestone.

It’s your yes when no one’s clapping.
It’s your faithfulness when you feel forgotten.

It’s your trust when you can’t trace Him.

📖 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6

So if you’re a couple, a parent, or a family waiting on God, remember this: success in the Kingdom is measured by obedience, not outcome. 💛

Keep building. Keep believing. God hasn’t forgotten your name.

Three years ago… I stepped out in faith and released 90 Days to Embrace God’s Plan for Your Life with — October 7, 2022. ✨

I actually missed the anniversary last week 😅 but I couldn’t let this moment pass without giving God glory. What started as a dream in my heart has now reached over 20,000 readers around the world. 🌎

Every week, I still receive messages and testimonies from women sharing how this devotional helped them heal, trust God again, and rediscover their purpose. 💛 That’s the kind of impact only He can do.

If you’ve never read it (or want to gift it to someone walking through a new season), you can grab your copy here:
👉 https://amzn.to/3WEmglM

Here’s to more lives transformed, more hearts surrendered, and more women embracing God’s plan. 🙌

Some seasons don’t look like growth.
They feel like loss.
Like pullback.
Like being cut.

And if you’re not careful, you’ll call it failure, when heaven calls it preparation.

In my garden, tomatoes don’t grow full and sweet by accident.
I have to prune the branches that look healthy…
but aren’t producing fruit.

It hurts the plant.
It looks like less.
But it’s the only way more fruit comes.

Jesus said it plainly:

“Every branch that bears fruit He prunes, that it may bear more fruit.” (John 15:2)

Pruning isn’t punishment.
It’s alignment.
It’s God removing what drains you so what matters can thrive.

The world sees decline.
God sees destiny.

If this is your pruning season,
don’t manufacture fruit to keep up appearances.
Don’t rush the process.
Don’t call yourself a failure.

This season won’t last forever.
And the fruit that comes from it?
You won’t have to force it.
God will make sure it grows.

We’ve been asking the wrong question, and it’s keeping us stuck.

“What is God’s will for my life?” sounds spiritual, but it still centers us. Our plan. Our preferences. Our path.

The better question? What is God’s will?, and then adjusting our lives to fit His answer.

When we flip the question, we flip the posture. From trying to recruit God into our plans… to actually following His. That’s where peace lives.

Share this if someone in your circle needs this reminder today.

Reading her story but more or so seeing her decline over the past few years, is very telling on how the spirit of deception works. It’s a slow walk. Breaking you down, piece by piece making you believe that Christ is not the way. One traumatic moment after another….listen…suffering in Christ is hard as any suffering is hard. A few things to know:

🌱 Seasons change! There is a time and place for every season! Depression sets in with the belief “it will always be this way” Not on Gods watch or based on his Word.
🌱 What you want and Gods Will may look different. Be prepared for His plans looking much different.
🌱Stay close to the community of believers. This is where the local church shines! Find a BIBLE teaching church…this is key. Not all leaders are healthy leaders and this is the plan of the enemy to feed into the deception. Don’t give up on finding the right church.
🌱 People are flawed. Expect to be disappointment at some point. Forgive, learn, adjust and keep on seeking God with your whole heart.
🌱 Seek out professional help (Licensed therapist…heavy on the licensed part) as needed. Not everything is a crisis but seeking help when you feel stuck is essential. So much help out there.
🌱Fight against self isolation. This is usually the first sign that the seed of deception is growing. It’s okay to take a moment but find community.

Listen…if no one has told you, you are sooo very valuable. Don’t forget it and don’t let ANYONE make you feel less than. You are needed and wanted. Hang in there yall.

🌱The Power of Sharing Your Faith: A Message That Changed My Perspective🌱

I talk about an incredible weekend at church where we heard two powerful messages from this weekend. I share a story that really stuck with me from Dr. Mullof’s sermon about Penn & Teller and how a kind stranger gave Penn a Bible.

The atheist comedian was moved by the gesture, realizing that this person genuinely believed in their faith and didn’t want him to go to hell. This sparked a reflection on how important it is to share the gift of the Gospel with others, and how it would be cruel not to tell people about salvation if you truly believe in it.

I also recommend checking out The Diary of CEO podcast on Christianity, as I believe God is calling His people to surrender their lives to Him.

Watch what you come into agreement with. 🧠 Agreement isn’t just spiritual, it’s deeply psychological.

The thoughts you keep accepting? They quietly become beliefs. Your beliefs shape your identity. Your identity drives your behavior.

This isn’t just therapy talk.

Scripture said it first:
📖 “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” — Proverbs 23:7
📖 “Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” — Romans 12:2
📖 “Take every thought captive.” — 2 Corinthians 10:5
Not every thought that shows up deserves a seat at the table.

Some thoughts are visitors, not residents, and you get to decide the difference.

Protect your mind. Guard your heart. Be intentional about what you call true.

Sometimes it’s not the enemy blocking us… it’s our own insecurities leading us away from what God is actually doing in our lives.

If you want to stay in alignment with God’s will (not just your will), here are 3 anchors to keep your heart steady:

1️⃣ Check your insecurities.
Not every emotion is truth. Ask God to search you and reveal what’s driving your decisions.
📖 Psalm 139:23–24, Proverbs 4:23

2️⃣ Pray before you move.
Your next step should be birthed out of prayer, not pressure.
📖 Philippians 4:6–7, James 1:5

3️⃣ Use wisdom & discernment.
When you slow down and listen, God will make the path clear.
📖 Proverbs 3:5–6, Proverbs 2:6

God is already moving in the earth, your job is to stay aligned, not anxious.

You don’t have to be led by insecurity when you can be led by the Spirit. 💛

I see you. Holding it all together on the outside while you’re barely breathing on the inside.

You’ve gotten so good at the smile, haven’t you? So practiced at saying “I’m fine” that sometimes you almost believe it yourself.

But God already knows. He sees the 3am thoughts you can’t shut off. The tears you swallow back down. The weight sitting on your chest that nobody else notices.

And He’s not asking you to keep performing strength you don’t have.

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” - Matthew 11:28

Laying it down doesn’t mean you have all the answers or that you’re suddenly “over it.” It just means you stop pretending you’re okay when you’re not. You tell Him the truth, the raw, ugly, messy truth, and you let Him sit with you in it.

You whisper it in the car. You cry it out in the shower. You write it in your journal at 2am. However it comes out, just let it out.
Because the silence? It’s killing you softly. And He never asked you to die that way.

You weren’t made to carry this alone, love. Let Him have it.