Coming Into Focus Podcast

💜 Curious to know what attachment style you might trend towards? 💜

I truly believe that we should be taught this information as early in life as possible. Unfortunately, we are not, and a lot of this info that could be extremely helpful in navigating all of our relationships isn’t figured out until we’re pretty deep into these patterns/strategies.

In the video I share a quick question that I ask at the start of working with any new couple. This one question is often all I need to ask in order to get a good feel for what attachment “strategy” someone tends to lean towards.

I like to refer to these more as strategies , rather than “styles.” Because, at the end of the day, that’s essentially what they are - just strategies we’ve learned to attempt emotional regulation in the face of relational conflict, as well as something we hope maintains the connection.

Sadly, when we lean more toward the insecure side of attachment, the strategies often backfire and get us stuck in cycles of distress that eventually end up eroding the relationship.

In a coming post, I’m going to discuss these what these strategies look like a little more in depth, as well as break down the cycle of distress and even share a cool little diagram that gives a detailed look at said cycle.

💜 If you want to share any insights this provided, please do so in the comments. And, if you don’t feel comfortable sharing, I’d still love to hear if you’re enjoying the content and would like more of it! Thank you!! 💜

I made a post about this earlier this morning, but I figured I would also add this video to explain things in a more succinct way.

If you would like something that’s a little more tangible, and something that you can go back and reference, please go check out my last post and save it so you know where to find it later.

I’m going to be explaining what this all means for our adult romantic relationships as the week progresses. So, make sure that you turn notifications on or go and interact with several of my posts so that the algorithm knows you want to see this stuff and Instagram will keep bringing my posts up in your feed.

If you find this info helpful, please let me know in the comments let me know if you have any questions that I can answer.

❤️This is solely for educational purposes, and this does not constitute a therapeutic relationship.❤️

Such a rad event on the beach last Saturday.

I’ve never been to anything quite like this before! Started with yoga on the beach led by the one and only with providing the background musical vibes.

After the yoga, as the sun set, it turned into a full on dance party like I’ve never seen or been a part of, with DJ sets by the amazing .blu and the incredible ! And we all danced our faces off until we could barely walk out of there.

Huge thanks to .love and (sweatshirt is from them) for putting on so many mind-blowing community events!

Addiction is a maladaptive coping mechanism. Plain and simple.

It’s a very complex biopsychosocial problem. But, at the end of the day all of us probably have some sort of addiction, even if it’s just our doom scroll time, and it’s primary purpose is either to drive up good feelings in some way, or to help escape bad feelings in some way.

More often than not, it’s tied to some sort of trauma and deep pain, even if that pain is largely unconscious. Often when I’m working with someone that has a loved one with an addiction I like to tell them, “Addiction is not trying to feel good all the time, it actually trying not to feel bad all the time.”

What are your thoughts on this? Please let me know if your experience is different from this! I’d love to discuss.

Sorry about the 🏍️!

Starting this Sunday I will be picking a theme each week to make some educational posts about 📚

Please drop a comment or DM me directly if you prefer, and let me know something you’d like to explore together! 📽️

There’s a reason I posted that little game on my Instagram the other day if you saw it. And it’s related to how Instagram’s algorithm works, and I was running a little test. And the test actually worked and it did what I thought it was gonna do.

I’m working on a little project right now and I’m not gonna share too much information about it. But I know an ungodly amount about Instagram and the algorithm, and how all this works. So I’m gonna start giving some free little pointers… and here’s your first one!

Who already knew about this? Let me know if this is something of interest to you.

Anyone with a business is completely missing out on an invaluable, free marketing tool if you’re not using your socials properly!

Something in the works coming very soon!

I mean, it’s not like I really don’t know anything (I’m still, unfortunately, a bit of a know it all) . But, if you really think about how much infinite knowledge and wisdom there is in the world, let alone all the parts of you that have yet to be unearthed and pulled from the shadows… how could you really say that you know anything? What is truth? What is reality? Is this the Matrix? 🫠😅

I guess this is what happens when you have a 7 Hour drive after a five day, consciousness expanding, identity cracking, retreat in Mammoth Mountain with .exp & .foundation

But, also, does anyone out there actually feel like an adult? 🤷‍♂️

About the group I posted yesterday in my stories… this is a mindfulness group not a photography group. Photography is the tool for teaching mindfulness. So that’s why I was saying you don’t need a camera, you just need your phone. 🚨Check my stories for the poll I put up about this 🚨

If you’re curious what the podcast is about!

*I filmed this on the way to record, but am actually just now posting it after recording… and it was fu***ng amazing! Can’t wait to edit this one up and get it out there for you!*

‼️ This coming episode will feature my friend, MENTOR (😜 kidding - you had to be there), manifestor it to my generator, and all around DOPE ASS HUMAN, ‼️

I made a meme. Probably delete later since I’ll ruminate all night on whether all the people with avoidant attachments hate me now.

It’s all just jokes, folks 😘