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10/16/2025
Feelings are NOT Facts.
Remember to separate your feelings from facts. When you drive with your feelings as factual truths, you head for a relational collision. Something can feel real but NOT be the truth of the situation.
You may know this truth cognitively but when under pressure or feeling stress, do you act as if how you feel about a person or situation is a fact?
It's very common to react when you "feel" the facts of a situation in a negative way. You want to stop the pain you are feeling and you react from that wounded place.
What if I told you that you could learn to pause when you feel the pain and learn to separate your feelings from the facts of the situation and then respond (instead of react) accordingly? I WILL teach you how to build the ARK and rise above feelings. You acknowledge but you won't live there anymore.
Instead of allowing your emotions to steer you towards relational collisions, envision a world where you confidently navigate with clarity and emotional freedom.
Picture this: You're faced with a situation where your feelings are at odds with the reality of a relationship. Perhaps your husband gives in to his ex-wife but fights you on parenting. You believe if he really loved and knew you, he wouldn't.
Instead of reacting impulsively, imagine pausing and recognizing the truth: Your husband loves you and he gives in to her to save YOU from drama she'll bring if she doesn't get what she wants.
By embracing this reframe, you unlock a new way of engaging with others—one rooted in understanding and authenticity. Gone are the days of feeling trapped by emotional turmoil or resorting to defensive reactions. You'll learn to ride out the emotional floods of others.
If you're ready to break free from the cycle of emotional reactivity and embrace a more mindful approach to communication, let's connect.
If you are ready, here's my link to schedule a call: https://calendly.com/heatherhetchler/intro-call-20-min or sign up for an exclusive coaching program for the month of May. Link in bio for ARK mentoring.
I can't wait to work with you and help you break FREE! Finally.
You ready to brew some positive thoughts and get rid of the bitter aftertaste of your current stepmom brew?
Do you ever feel like an outsider in your own home, caught in the whirlwind of stepfamily dynamics? 💭
You're not alone in wondering why it seems like your husband doesn't see what's happening, or grappling with the complex emotions towards your stepchildren.
It's a journey many stepmoms navigate, tinted with love, frustration, and hope for harmony.
If you're wading through these thoughts and longing for a lighthouse amid the chaos, it's time for a change.
Introducing the ARK mentor group - your sanctuary to learn, share, and transform your stepfamily experience. 🌟
DM me "ARK" for a beacon of support and start your journey from treading water to swimming with confidence. 💬✨
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11/26/2023
If you are done feeling done in your stepmom role, it's time to join The Art of Reframing Small Group!
Tomorrow is the final day to grab THE deal!
Get $100 off the program, receive a FREE individual call in December, enjoy 2 FREE months in our supportive community, and join the stepmom inner circle for FREE with access to all NEW resources! 🎉✨
Don't miss out on this transformative opportunity to connect with other stepmoms, experience powerful friendships, and embrace the accountability that leads to transformative growth. It's time to do the work that works and experience peace in the pieces.
You CAN and WILL learn how to stop ruminating and start enjoying life. 💖
Click the link in the bio or go to www.reframingrelationships.com/smallgroup and use code: BLACKFRIDAY Comment below or send me a DM if you have any questions or want more info. Hurry, this offer won't last!
If you are one of the first 12 to register - you get an extra BONUS!⏰
11/22/2023
Feeling lost, alone, and frustrated in your stepmom role? I've got the perfect solution, just in time for Black Friday! ✨🌟
Introducing our exclusive Black Friday offer: $100 off The Art of Reframing for Stepmoms Small Group Mentoring Program plus two months of FREE membership in the Art of Reframing Community. 🎉💃
This limited-time deal gives you six weeks of live group coaching, two individual coaching calls, the empowering book, access to a supportive community, and so much more. 📚🤝
But that's not all! You'll also receive two FREE months in our exclusive Reframing Community, a space where you can connect with other incredible women who have gone through the program and continue to learn and grow together. 🌈👭This is a space where truth, encouragement and support reign. Where monthly group coaching takes place, questions continue to be answered and support is available 24/7.
Spaces are limited, so don't miss out on this opportunity to unlock the tools and support you need to thrive in your stepmom journey. This offer is valid through November 26th.
It's time to reframe and reclaim. For the first 12 women to register I'll throw in ONE FREE Individual coaching call from now through Dec. 30! That's a $90 value!
What are you waiting for? Give yourself the gift of peace this holiday season and start the new year off learning tools to help you untangle your emotions and thrive.
Ready to transform your stepmom experience? DM me or click the link in our bio to secure your spot! Go to reframingrelationships.com/smallgroup and use code: BLACKFRIDAY to get all the deals.
Small groups start Jan 3rd!
Let's embark on this incredible journey together. ✨💕
11/21/2023
If you've ever felt the stress of blending your stepfamily, I want you to know that you're NOT alone. 🤗 At Reframing Relationships, I'm privileged and honored to help countless stepmoms just like you navigate the tough terrain of stepfamily dynamics.
From dealing with rejection from stepkids to feeling like an outsider, we're here to walk beside you. 🚶♀️✨ Join our Art of Reframing Small Group and discover the power of reframing your experiences as a stepmom. Let's conquer these challenges together!
💪🏼 Share your biggest surprise as a stepmom below❤️👇🏼
DM the word Peace if you are ready to unload the guilt and stress and embrace the joy and peace!
11/13/2023
"Hey there, lovely ladies! It's time to shine and embrace every moment with joy! ✨"
As a communication consultant and coach at Reframing Relationships, I am honored to walk alongside incredible women like you who are navigating the complex journey of life, remarriage, and blended families. I believe that through understanding, support, and love, we can create nurturing and thriving relationships that stand the test of time.
Fun fact about me: I'm embracing this new chapter with open arms and a sense of wanderlust. With the nest empty, my spouse and I have traded textbooks for travel guides and PTA meetings for strolls down new roads. Balancing work and travel, we have been busy exploring the world one destination at a time. My two favorites this year: Barcelona and Budapest (Sopron). From tasting local dishes to discovering hidden gems, there's something exhilarating about rediscovering myself and connecting with my husband through travel. Andy surprised me with a trip to my great grandfather's village (Sopron, Hungary) last month and it was pretty special to walk the streets and visit the squares he once traveled.
Let's connect and uplift each other!
Drop a ❤️ in the comments if you're also navigating the joys and challenges of motherhood/stepmotherhood, remarriage, or blended families. Are you an empty nester?
Feel free to share your favorite piece of advice or any specific topics you'd like me to cover in future posts. Together, we can build a supportive community where we can grow and learn from one another. Tag a friend who would love to join this amazing journey too! 🌟💖
09/28/2023
Some stepfamilies unblend. Some never blend.
It happens. You are not to blame.
While blending is always the goal - it is often not the experience.
Stepmom sister, you don't have to carry the burden of ensuring your family blends or doesn't unblend. Don't believe the lie that if you or your spouse would have prayed more the outcome would be different. Prayer is 100% important and necessary and it's our lifeline to God yet it doesn't dictate every movement of your family.
🌟 A hard truth: many stepfamilies unblend. If you know, you know. 🤷♀️ There's a growing epidemic where adult children are taking space from family, and we're seeing it in stepfamilies too. It's time we talk about it. 💬
Just because a stepchild steps away, does not mean you messed up or your marriage isn't good or godly.
You are not a bad stepparent, and it is not your fault if your stepkids are distant. 🚫 There are so many factors at play, and it's crucial to understand that these dynamics are complex. 🤯
We all want our stepfamilies to blend, and we want to believe it will happen. And we want to believe that we will never unblend but the truth is we are all humans and that makes life messy.💑 Please don't believe for a moment that you are a bad Christian or that you didn't pray enough if your family isn't blended, or if it unblended. 🙏
Stepfamily dynamics are influenced by a multitude of factors, and it's not a reflection of your worth or your faith. 🌈 It's time we talk about this so that stepcouples experiencing this LOSS don't go through it alone.
The truth is if a young adult wants space, the mature thing is to have a healthy conversation and for the adults to "listen" and not defend or engage. Yet, often, that conversation never occurs. A stepparent/parent has no opportunity to listen and mend. It's happening. A lot.
In the coming weeks, I'm going to talk more about how to navigate this.
Let's support and have open conversations, and remember that love and understanding can go a long way in healing the complexities of stepfamily life. ❤️
Please share. Thoughts on this? What do you want to know?
09/26/2023
It's true. The complexities of stepfamily life break a woman.
It's also true that the same woman who was broken by stepfamily dynamics CAN rebuild!
A stepmom who chooses to take the pieces and rebuild will emerge stronger, more resilient and understanding of her needs and can experience emotional freedom like never before. And she can rebuild especially when guided and surrounded by other stepmoms working towards the same goals of rising up!
🌼A stepmom who chooses to become comfortable with others not liking her....
🌼A stepmom who can allow her no to be no without explanation....
🌼A stepmom who can set and enforce a boundary to protect her peace....
🌼A stepmom who prioritizes her marriage and understands the difference between right and responsible...
🌼A stepmom who recognizes she cannot control the words and actions of others.....
is a woman who knows she does not have to react and that her worth comes from God and it's okay if someone chooses not to like her.
She learns the tools to rebuild and this time she knocks down the myths that if only she were more godly that her stepfamily would be perfectly blended.👋
Are you a stepmom who is ready to rise and rebuild from the broken pieces ? 💪
It's time to transform your experience and learn how to navigate the pieces you have no control over 💕
Join me and fellow stepmom sisters as we kick off another small group. Let's dive into practical tips, empowering stories, and supportive community that will help you thrive in your blended family journey. 🌟
Get ready to emerge stronger, smarter and more supported than ever. Let's go.
Link in bio to sign up for next small group!
Share comments or questions below! ⬇️
08/03/2023
🌟 The Power of Perspective: Blessing Detectives 🕵️♀️✨
Life is like a canvas, and the lens we choose to view it through can shape our entire experience. 🎨👓 We have two choices: focus on the negatives, or become blessing detectives and seek out the good. 🕵️♀️💖
🔍 When we fixate on the negative aspects of life, it can cloud our vision and drain our energy. We might find ourselves drowning in stress and anxiety, unable to see the silver linings amidst the challenges. But there's another way! 🌈💪
💡 Becoming blessing detectives means training our minds to see the positive even in difficult situations. It's like putting on special glasses that reveal the beauty and goodness around us. 🕶️✨
🌺 Choosing to focus on the good empowers us to find solutions rather than dwelling on problems. It fills our hearts with gratitude and shifts our outlook from scarcity to abundance. The impact of this choice is remarkable! 🌼🌟
💫 So let's challenge ourselves to be blessing detectives, seeking out the good in every moment and person we encounter. Together, we can transform our lives and the lives of those around us with the power of our perspective through God's lens of truth. 🌟💖
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