Misty Roses Healing

Release the illusion of what you think reality is.

For what is reality, but what you have decided is real from the thoughts you have about reality.

Is not reality then, just reflections of what you are thinking and less what is real?

Why then is the thought of the worst thing that can be happening to you more believable than the thought of the best thing that can be happening to you?

The truth is the thought that is believable is the one you chose to believe in.

Ultimately, it is you and your belief that makes any thought a real thing.

This means as you believe in a thought,
your thought leads to your state of being,
your state of being leads to your choices,
and your choices leads to your actions.

And the moment you make a choice; is the moment your thought has become your reality.

Your thoughts become your reality when you feed it your belief.
Which thoughts you choose to feed with your belief is up to you.
And no matter how you have chosen in the past, you can always make a new choice now.

This means that no matter the state of your current reality, you have the power to change it through the power of one little thought fed by your belief in it.

And you may be tempted to think “What can one thought possible do to change my reality?”

But realize that when a plane takes off being only one degree off course, that same plane when it lands is miles off from its final destination.

Do not underestimate the power of one little thing.

Because one little thing can be the tipping factor in your favor.

What is one little thought that when you think it, it makes you feel a little lighter, a little brighter, and a little more hopeful?

Now hold that little seed and feed it your belief. Then start to look for things in your life that look like that seed and the feeling it inspires in you. These are the bread crumbs leading you to the reality your heart desires. And yes, you can do this.

Not being ourselves

The pain we experience in not being ourselves
isn't because we are not the people we want to be. We already are that person. It is innate in us the way a child just are themselves.

We suffer because we resist being that person when someone else may see us. And so we box that person up and become what we think we should be instead.

And the pain we experience isn't because someone who sees us may judge us, the pain is because we judged that we could not be us.

Though we blame the other person for why we are not being ourselves, really the reason is we used them to judge ourselves and from that judgement denied ourselves the right to be us.

We already are the people we want to be. We just have to start choosing to be that person no matter who sees and no matter the circumstances.

Every time we choose to be ourselves, we reinforce the belief in ourselves. And every time we deny ourselves, we reinforce the lie that we can't be who we want to be.

Whether we belive in ourselves or deny ourselves the choice is ours. And we are not stuck with only the one choice we made. We can make a new choice at any time.

I know it's scary being vulnerable. But the alternative is to live in the chronic pain of self denial. And the world is drowning in pain.

Who knows the impact you will have as the person you already are inside. Have courage and know that the world is waiting for you to be who you feel to be in your heart. Let the world be changed by the presence of you.

The racing mind of anxiety

There's a quote: The mind is a faithful servant or an awful task master.

The mind is a gift and is capable of incredible things. Which way the mind expresses is vastly influenced by choice but also by the need to protect. If we can understand some functions of the mind, we can better receive the gifts it offers.

We all know the way the mind protects you called fight, flight or freeze. This has been expanded on in many ways. But there's another way the mind protects us by protecting the body.

When we feel feelings that are overwhelming to us and we have a physical response that causes our body to feel in danger, the mind will distract from the feeling by creating busyness within the mind. These racing thoughts, however stressful, feels less threatening than the feelings we don't want to feel.

It is through this means of distraction that the mind is trying to make the body feel safe. This is why when life stops being naturally busy and you find yourself in a state of quiet or relaxation, you may begin to have a heightened state of anxiety. It's because when life gets quiet we now have the opportunity for unexpressed feelings to come to our awareness.

The proportion of anxiety based thoughts will be indirect proportion to the intensity of the feelings we don't want to feel. The more intense the feelings, the more intense the anxiety of the mind.

However counterintuitive this appears, it is a means of the mind to protect the body from feelings that are interpreted as dangerous, harmful or painful.

A way to support the release of this mind based anxiety is to create a way for the body to engage with feelings without feeling in danger from them. In essence it's creating a safe environment to microdose feeling feelings in a decreased way to allow the body to obtain safety through familiarity.

By microdosing the feelings in a safe way repetitively you create a known outcome that the body can trust, thereby creating the body's capacity to engage with the feelings without interpreting them as dangerous.

There are many ways to do this but ultimately the way that will work is the one you feel guided towards and that offers the ability to create safety in the experience.

This obviously is not the whole story on anxiety and why we experience it. It's just one component of the complex dynamic of it. But hopefully this information can be helpful in supporting your way forward to resolving it.

Please remember that you're not alone and there's nothing wrong with you because you experience anxiety. Anxiety is just that, an experience.

So if you're struggling, reach out to someone you trust. You don't have to be in the experience alone. Let those you love, love you by supporting you when you need it. And the more we are willing to talk about it, the more others will know that they are not alone either.

"Stress is caused by being "here" but wanting to be "there," or being in the present but wanting to be in the future." - Eckhart Tolle

“Go within. Use the inner body as a starting point for going deeper and taking your attention away from where it’s usually lodged, in the thinking mind.” - Eckhart Tolle