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May is Mental Health Awareness Month—a time when conversations around emotional well-being surface in our communities, workplaces, and media. But there’s one conversation that still lingers on the margins: men’s mental health.

We live in a culture that teaches boys early on to "man up," "shake it off," and “figure it out on your own.” The lessons are often unspoken but loud:

Don’t cry.
Don’t talk about it.
Don’t ask for help.
Instead, the messages are clear: your value comes from what you produce. How much money you bring in. Whether you’re strong, reliable, and unfazed. You are measured by your output, not your inner world.

By adulthood, many men find themselves emotionally malnourished—carrying stress, shame, and grief with nowhere to put it. They're expected to be providers, protectors, and partners… but were never taught how to process emotion, nurture a child, or even care for themselves.

And for Black men, the weight is even heavier.

The Double Burden

For Black men, this conditioning is compounded by a legacy of racial trauma and generational survival. We are often taught to be “twice as good” just to get half as far. We’re expected to be strong in the face of injustice, composed under pressure, and unwavering despite discrimination.

We carry the trauma of systems that were never designed with us in mind—systems that over-police, under-diagnose, and almost never offer care that feels safe or culturally competent.

We’re not just resisting vulnerability because of ego or pride. We’ve learned that showing emotion can be dangerous. That asking for help can be met with judgment or abandonment. That healing spaces were not built for us.

What We’re Not Taught

Many men—especially Black men—were not taught:

How to sit with sadness.
How to name anxiety.
How to care for our bodies without judgment.
How to be emotionally present for our partners.
How to parent with softness as well as strength.
We were taught to grind, provide, and endure.

And the result?

We suffer. Silently.

Men are less likely to seek therapy. More likely to experience substance abuse. More likely to die by su***de. Black men, in particular, face higher rates of misdiagnosed or undiagnosed mental health conditions, and are far less likely to receive adequate treatment.

A New Definition of Strength

But here’s the truth: taking care of your mental health is not weakness. It’s wisdom.
And we’re seeing a shift.

Across the country, barbershops are becoming therapy spaces. Podcasts and men’s circles are giving voice to suppressed emotion. And here in Whatcom County, our Sankofa Wellness Project is creating sacred space for Black men to begin the healing process—together.

We believe it's time to redefine what it means to be a man.
To center wholeness over hustle.
To teach boys and men that being nurturing, emotionally intelligent, and vulnerable is not only okay—it’s necessary.

How You Can Support

Whether you are a man carrying this silent weight, or someone who cares about one, now is the time to take action.

Normalize therapy and emotional conversations.
Check in on your brothers, fathers, friends, and sons.
Donate to or support organizations creating healing spaces for men.
Encourage rest, softness, and community—not just productivity.

Mental Health Awareness Month is not just about awareness. It’s about changing the narrative.

Because when men are supported, whole, and emotionally healthy—everyone benefits. Families strengthen. Communities heal. Cycles break.

It’s time.

To learn more about our work or to support holistic healing for Black men, visit https://www.bconnected.info/copy-of-ways-to-give.

Two Nations: Irrevocable, Undaunted by Damani Johnson

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Join us in celebrating Indigenous Peoples' Day as one people as we come together in healing and unity, centering young Indigenous people who are committed to addressing today’s most pressing issues.

We will enjoy a delicious salmon dinner to begin our time together. Blackhawk Singers will provide powerful song and dance. And we are honored to have Ta’Kaiya Blaney, award-winning actress, singer, speaker, and environmental activist from Tla A’min Nation in B.C., as our keynote speaker. Lummi Nation School youth leaders will also share in a panel discussion.

October 14, 2024
5-8 p.m.
Lummi Nation School
2334 Lummi View Dr.
Bellingham, WA 98226

This event is sponsored by the Community Consortium for Cultural Recognition. Many thanks to the partner organizations who contributed to this celebration including:

Affiliated Tribes of Northwest Indians
Alaska Gold Seafood
Bellingham Public Library
Bellingham Public Schools
Bellingham SeaFeast
Bellingham Technical College
Children of the Setting Sun Productions
City of Bellingham
Northwest Indian College
PeaceHealth
Western Washington University
Whatcom Community College
Whatcom County Health and Community Services

All are welcome to join us for this celebration! Lummi Nation School is fully accessible. For additional accommodations, including interpretation and translation services, contact Chris Roselli ([email protected]) in advance of the event.

For more information, please visit www.wwu.edu/ipd

https://www.dvcommission.org/events/mmiwp-summit

Whatcom County Summit on Missing & Murdered Indigenous Women & People — Bellingham-Whatcom County Commission on Sexual & Domestic Violence Registration Now Open This is an all-day event from 8:30 am - 4:30 pm. We will post an updated agenda as soon as possible. This is a free  event. Lunch will be provided, as well as a light breakfast, snacks, coffee and tea.