Rachel Eleojo

Part 3 (Final): A Valuable Woman Is Known by Her Decisions — And What She Refuses to Settle For

If there’s anything that truly sets a valuable woman apart, it’s not just what she says yes to —
It’s what she refuses to settle for.

Because at some point in her journey, she realizes this:

Not everything that looks good is good for her.
Not every “God-fearing man” is her assignment.
Not every opportunity is her open door.
Not every compliment is confirmation.

A valuable woman becomes selective — not out of pride, but out of purpose.

She’s not desperate to be chosen — because she already knows she’s called.
She’s not afraid to say “This doesn’t align with my future.”
She’s not afraid to walk away — not because she’s heartless, but because she’s healed.

She no longer fears being misunderstood for being intentional.
She no longer keeps toxic people just to feel needed.
She no longer sacrifices her peace to keep the wrong people close.

She’s not bitter — she’s just done betraying herself to feel loved.

So she refuses to settle.

🚫 For relationships that confuse her identity
🚫 For friendships that thrive on gossip or competition
🚫 For apologies with no change
🚫 For a marriage that looks good but lacks purpose
🚫 For a life that’s full of noise but empty of peace

Because every time she lowers her standard, she compromises her design — and she’s done with that.

She has cried enough.
She has learned enough.
She has grown enough.

Now, she chooses better.
Because she knows better.

This is the final truth:

A valuable woman is known by her decisions —
The ones she makes, and the ones she refuses to make.
The things she says yes to, and the things she lovingly walks away from.

Not every response needs her energy.
Not every man deserves her vulnerability.
Not every opportunity requires her yes.

Because her value is not in her availability — it’s in her alignment.

And now, her life is no longer about proving anything.
It’s about protecting what she carries.

She’s not perfect — but she’s intentional.
She’s not loud — but she’s rooted.
She’s not desperate — she’s decided.

So if you’ve read all three parts of this series, here’s what I hope you never forget:

💎 You are not valuable because of what the world says —
You are valuable because of who you are becoming.

And who you are becoming is shaped by your decisions.

So choose wisely.
Love deeply.
Walk boldly.
Wait patiently.

And never forget who you are.

✅ This concludes the series: “A Valuable Woman Is Known by Her Decisions.”
If these words spoke to you, share them with another woman who needs to be reminded of her worth.



Rachel Eleojo 2025

🌸 PART 2: A Valuable Woman Is Known by Her Decisions — Especially in the Tough Moments

If there’s one thing we must understand, it’s this:

Good decisions don’t just happen.
They come from intentional living.
They come from knowing your worth and choosing to protect it — especially when it’s hard.

Because life will test everything you say you believe.

There’ll be moments where you feel tired of waiting…
Where loneliness tries to convince you that “this one is good enough”…
Where attention feels like love, and pressure looks like direction.

But this is where a woman’s value shows — not in how she looks, but in how she chooses.

A valuable woman doesn’t just make wise decisions when life is sweet.
She makes them when things are blurry.
When she’s still healing.
When she’s being tempted to go back to what God already told her to leave.

She reminds herself:

> “I don’t make decisions from my wounds.
I don’t move just because someone showed up.
I don’t settle because others are getting married.
I don’t say yes until I’m sure — not just about him, but about me.”

She knows healing comes before union.
Clarity before commitment.
Peace before performance.

She doesn’t give her body to someone she’s still deciding on — because she understands that touch without trust always leads to regret.

She doesn’t manipulate people just because she can.
She doesn’t rush into friendships, partnerships, or marriages without discernment.

She checks:
– Is this in line with God’s will?
– Am I choosing out of fear or faith?
– Will this decision bring peace or confusion?

She walks with wisdom, not emotions.
She listens more than she reacts.
She prays before she agrees.

She doesn’t need to prove anything to the world.
She just wants to honour God and honour her future.

So yes, once again:

A valuable woman is not known by her appearance.
She is known by her decisions.
And her most powerful decisions often happen in private — where only God sees.

Check out the part 3

Rachel Eleojo 2025

🌸 PART 1: A Valuable Woman Is Known by Her Decisions

Let me speak from my heart — because lately, I’ve been so burdened.

It’s painful what society is turning womanhood into.

These days, all it takes to be called a “real woman” is a long wig, sharp makeup, designer bags, and a borrowed attitude from celebrities who are still figuring life out themselves.

And the world claps for it.

But when I look closer — especially in movies, social media, and even real-life relationships — I see women making decisions that break my heart.

Here’s one that troubles me deeply:

You see a woman who hasn’t even said “yes” to a proposal.
She’s still thinking. Still healing. Still uncertain.
Yet she’s already sleeping with the man proposing.

How can someone be unsure of your heart but sure of your body?

How does a woman give physical access when her soul is still undecided?
That’s not strength. That’s not confidence. That’s confusion.

And this is why I’ve come to one conclusion:

👉🏽 You know a high-value woman by the decisions she makes.

Not by her clothes.
Not by her followers.
Not by the loudness of her voice or the sharpness of her look.

But by her decisions.

A valuable woman carries wisdom.

She bears the fruits of the Spirit — love, patience, kindness, self-control.
She’s not just spiritually deep when it’s convenient — she lives by it.

She sees people she could manipulate, men she could use to get what she wants — and she chooses not to.

In her relationships, she owns her wrongs.
She says “I’m sorry” not because she’s weak, but because she’s too strong to let pride sit in her chest.

She doesn’t marry because someone is simply available — she marries because there is purpose.

She learns — not just for herself, but to grow others, to make impact, to build a home, a life, a legacy.

She doesn’t settle for what looks good.
She waits for what is good.

Because in the end:

💎 A woman’s value is not in her appearance — it’s in the way she chooses.
Every choice is a reflection of her maturity, her honour, and her walk with God.

This generation doesn’t need louder women.
We need wiser women.
Healed women.
Purpose-driven women.

Women who know that value is not in how you’re seen — but in what you do when no one’s watching.



Watch out for part 2

Rachel Eleojo 2025

Signs That You Are an Intentional Person in Your Relationship

See ehn, relationship no be by vibes and cruise o! If you want something serious and meaningful, you must be intentional. Being intentional means you’re not just going with the flow or leaving things to chance—you are deliberate about your actions, words, and decisions. So, how do you know if you’re truly intentional in your relationship? Let’s check!

1. You Don’t Just “Dey,”You Plan for the Future
If all your conversations with your partner are just about food, movies, and social media gist, my dear, what are you doing? Intentional people talk about the future—marriage, finances, purpose, and even parenting styles. You don’t just exist in the relationship; you both know where it is heading.

2. You Communicate, Not Just Gist and Laugh
See, intentional people don’t just send “Good morning, my love” and “Have you eaten?” every day. You actually communicate. If something is bothering you, you talk about it. You listen when your partner shares their concerns. You don’t just keep malice or expect them to read your mind—because, my dear, nobody is a mind reader!

3. You Set Boundaries and Stick to Them
Ehn-ehn, this one is important. If you are serious about your relationship, you won’t allow nonsense. You know what is acceptable and what is not. Maybe it’s about how you both relate with the opposite s*x, social media habits, or even personal time. You set boundaries and respect them because you understand that discipline strengthens love.

4. You Are Growing, Not Just Loving
Love is sweet, but love without growth is just vibes. If your relationship is all about “I love you, I miss you,” but there’s no personal growth, you need to check it. An intentional person challenges their partner to be better—spiritually, mentally, financially, and even physically (yes, gym no go kill you).

5. You Apologize When You’re Wrong
Pride has ended many beautiful relationships. If you’re intentional, you won’t allow ego to destroy something good. When you offend your partner, you won’t be forming “I don’t like saying sorry.” No! You will apologize and make things right. Love is not a wrestling match—humility wins.

6. You Invest in the Relationship
You don’t just expect love to be sweet without effort. You read books, listen to sermons, attend relationship seminars, and even pray together. You don’t just wait for things to happen; you make them happen.

7. You’re Faithful, Not Testing the Market
Ahh, let’s not lie, some people are in a relationship but still keeping one leg outside. If you are serious, you are not entertaining distractions. Your heart and attention are in one place. You’re not forming “Just friends” with that person you know deep down is shaking your loyalty.

8. You Pray About the Relationship
My dear, if you’re not praying about your relationship, what are you doing? Being intentional means involving God in your decisions. You ask for wisdom, direction, and grace to love your partner the right way. Because let’s be honest, love alone is not enough—you need divine guidance.

9. You Support Their Dreams
An intentional person doesn’t feel threatened by their partner’s success. You are their number one cheerleader, encouraging them to achieve their goals. Whether it’s school, career, or ministry, you push them to be their best self.

10. You Handle Conflicts Maturely
Disagreements will come, but how do you handle them? Do you fight like WWE champions or sit down and resolve issues like adults? Intentional people don’t let small quarrels destroy their relationship. You talk, understand, and find solutions instead of forming “I’m done” over every small issue.

If you tick most of these boxes, congratulations—you are truly intentional about your relationship! But if you’re seeing yourself in some of the bad habits, e be like say you need to adjust small. Love is sweet when both partners are serious about making it work.

So, over to you—how intentional are you in your relationship?

Rachel Eleojo 2025

A Kingdom Marriage Poem

Blessed are the couples whose Lord is their King,
Whose hearts to Him in devotion cling.
Their love ascends like an offering of praise,
Drawing strength from God for all of their days.

The Lord stands firm, their steadfast guide,
Through life's tempests, He's by their side.
When storms arise, His voice they hear:
"Fear not, beloved, for I am near."

Together they face life's trials with grace,
Each hardship refining, building their faith.
No room for worry, no cause for despair,
Their Father reigns; He answers their prayer.

Daily they seek Him, their faces aglow,
Reflecting His glory wherever they go.
Hand in hand, they fulfill His call,
Faithful servants, surrendered all.

Their children, holy arrows in His quiver,
Warriors of light who make darkness shiver.
Trained by the Master, they rise and shine,
Destined to walk in His grand design.

In their union, purity stands tall,
Grace and forgiveness weave through it all.
The enemy flees, no foothold to claim,
For love abides in Jesus' name.

God's perfect will remains ever true,
Bringing His children together anew.
For those who wait on His timing and plan,
Trust in the Lord, the Ancient of Man.

Be still and know, your testimony is near,
His purpose is unfolding—do not fear.
Blessed is the marriage where He is adored,
A reflection of heaven, a covenant restored.

—Agada Gift Rachel, 2025

Living Beyond People's Opinions: Growing in God's Way

When we’re improving ourselves and following God's path, there will be moments when others misunderstand us. It’s even more difficult when these people are within the church, but how gracious and freeing it is to let go of resentment.

Instead of feeling disappointed, we should remember that we are living for God, not for the opinions of others. God sees your heart and every effort you make to grow. That’s what truly matters. Even if people don’t understand you, don’t let their opinions shake your confidence in what God is doing in your life.

Setting boundaries is important. This doesn’t mean shutting people out but protecting your peace. Don’t allow their misunderstandings to define your worth or path. One mistake to avoid is letting others’ opinions drown out God’s voice. Keep your focus on Him and continue to walk in love and grace.

“Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”— Galatians 1:10

You are doing this for God's glory, not for anyone else's approval.

Focus on Your Why
Kylie is my oldest and dearest friend, and like so many of my friends, she frequently runs in marathon races. I am not sure if I am living vicariously through them, but I seem to have amassed many friends who love to run long distances. One thing I love about Kylie is the fact that she follows the same ritual in every marathon race she enters. As soon as the starting gun fires, she says aloud, “Kylie, all you have to do is finish.”

Throughout the race, she says this to herself at least one hundred times. She does not try to beat everyone, she does not compare her pace to the speed of everyone else in the race, she simply sets her own pace and runs her race. And most importantly, she wants to get to the finish line.

It’s such a great lesson for us all. If our goal is to be conformed and transformed into the image of Jesus, then becoming more like Jesus is our goal. Running our race, the way Jesus wants us to run our race, is our goal. Therefore, we’re not out to beat anyone else; we’re not out to be better than anyone else; we’re doing our best to be more like Jesus.

If we inadvertently get our eyes off the ultimate prize—Jesus—our eyes will fall on other things like people, status, and self-gratification, and we will get off balance and off track. If we take our eyes off the goal, we will quite possibly develop a mentality that things are not moving fast enough. That we’re not being rewarded or acknowledged soon enough. And we might even unintentionally uproot ourselves and walk out of our purpose.

To be honest, during some of the greatest challenges of my life and hardest times of ministry—those times when I found myself thinking, Why am I doing this? and had twenty legitimate reasons to quit—I’ve had to get myself refocused on the ultimate goal of when and why God called me. That is what has sustained me in my darkest hours. It’s the why that helps me keep running when the how makes no sense.

Maybe this is where you’re wrestling today. Perhaps part of the answer is to refocus on your why. More of the answer could be to not get distracted with short-term things that will gratify our immediate wants, so we can finish our course and attain our prize. Let’s refocus our eyes and hearts and minds to be on Jesus. Let’s purpose to finish our course and the ministry we’ve received from Jesus, as Luke wrote, so we can testify to the gospel of God’s grace.

Prayer
Jesus, my purpose is to finish my course and the ministry I have received from You. Please help me reach this goal. Help me keep my eyes on You, the ultimate prize. In Your name, amen.

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