Magic is Key

Step 1: Stop mistaking intensity for rightness.
If you feel most obsessed with the man who is least available, that is the drive talking, not destiny. Fisher’s research shows the brain’s reward system becomes even more active when we can’t have what we want.

Step 2: Stop trusting your checklist and meet him in person.
Your list may predict who you like in a photo, but research shows it does not predict who you are drawn to face to face. Your real response only shows up when you are in the room with him.

Step 3: Notice whether he notices.
Watch how he responds to the small things you share, like a passing comment or a funny moment. In John Gottman’s research, couples who stayed married turned toward these small bids for connection 86% of the time, while couples who divorced did so only 33% of the time.

Step 4: Give real attraction time to grow.
Fast chemistry is a snap judgement, and the man you overlook on the first date may be the one you fall for later. Research found that people largely agree on who is attractive when they first meet, but after a few months of getting to know each other, that agreement disappears.

Love was never meant to be found with your head alone.

Love is not ours to command or control and love is the foundation of our existence. It is our birthright, it already is ours! One of the first pieces of coaching I move through with my clients is not just knowing that love is already within you and already yours, but how to experience that as your truth in day to day life. It seems like a small shift in perspective but in actuality it changes everything in a big way!

What is finding and keeping love really about?

Are you too complete to attract love?

When was a time when you were afraid, moved through the fear and found something wonderful and exciting on the other side?

For me it was my first solo trip to California. I had worked myself into being terrified of flying despite having flown frequently all my life. The second in command of the airplane came to talk to me, stewardesses brought me medication because I was hyperventilating, and the man sitting next to me gave me his window seat. Up in the sky, several hours later, I saw Greenland from above. The country from which my name is from. I fell in love. My heart opened, my fear disappeared and now I am planning a trip. Might take me another year or two with small kids, aging dogs, and an awesome life partner to get there. Why? I plan to break through more fear, because I will be making the trip on my own. See you someday soon,

PS: Is this about love? Yes! I know so many women who fear a relationship. They are afraid of becoming dependent on someone, afraid to loose themselves, afraid to compromise. Whether it is a relationship, a trip, initiation, a new job, we all have things we fear and we all have voices within that try to stop us from doing that which we know will reward us in ways we cannot imagine.

Do you have an experience like this?

Which one of these makes you want to stick around for more?

More and more highly educated women are facing single life despite desiring to be with someone special. The apps don’t make it easier. Across all our research we have found that most women find them to be harmful for their mental health and the dating isn’t usually great. Because the apps don’t actually want you to find the love of your life, they want you to stay on the app!

So they keep swiping, and the loneliness they were trying to solve increases a bit every time. But a partner for life does not come from another round of swiping (well, sometimes they do!). A good egg comes from doing the inner work first, so that when someone awesome does show up, you are actually available for it.

What are your thoughts on all those dating apps?

Why do I go out to the countryside of Norway to practice Seidr in a group of 13 experienced witches?
I know I’m not alone in feeling ‘other’ and like there is nowhere that I truly belong. Always there is a yearning somewhere within. Even know, as I am here, immersed in ancient magic practice, I yearn, I hunger. For the woods, for a life I’ve never lived, for my children, for fulfillment. And. I feel normal.
Here amongst the witches I can listen and feel like my experience of the world, the self, and reality is normal. The little girl I once was who still lives within me rejoices. If only she would have known.