The Chain Reaction

You don't need more discipline.

Most of the people I work with have plenty of discipline.

They're successful.
They're capable.
They're getting things done.

But they're exhausted.

They're overthinking simple decisions.
Reading the same email three times.
Losing hours to distraction.
Lying in bed tired but unable to switch off.

And because they're still performing, they assume they're fine.

They're not fine.

They're burning energy in places they don't realize.

That's why I start with a time and energy audit.

Before we change anything, we figure out where your time and energy are actually going.

Because once you see the leaks, everything starts making a lot more sense.

I burned out at 24.

Dream job. Dream city. Everything I'd worked toward and I was falling apart from the inside.

I was doing everything right. So I pushed harder. That was the worst thing I could have done.

It wasn't overnight. It was years of absorbing pressure, overriding my body, and performing at a high level while everything underneath was breaking down. Anxiety. Chronic stress. IBS. Overthinking that never stopped.

I thought the answer was more discipline. It wasn't.

So I quit. Moved back home. And stopped trying to fake my way out of it.

I signed up for a 10-day silent meditation course. No phone. No conversation. No escape from my own mind. I didn't go because I believed in it. I went because I was out of options.

And for the first time I started understanding my mind. Not managing it. Understanding it.
I didn't have a mindset problem. I had a nervous system problem.

8 years later I work with leaders, founders, and high performers across some of the world's most demanding environments. Different people. Different industries. Same pattern underneath.
High functioning on the outside. Overloaded and running on empty on the inside.

They don't need more discipline or a better morning routine. They need to understand their nervous system because your nervous system is your operating system. It drives how you think, lead, sleep, and make decisions.

If you're succeeding on the outside and exhausted on the inside, you're in the right place.

Follow if you're ready to do something about it.

Letting employees go is tough

So is giving critical feedback, breaking hard news, and sharing unwelcome updates like tighter deadlines

Difficult conversations are a universal challenge, a test of emotional intelligence that leaders often grapple with.

Picture this: waltzing into a difficult chat feeling calm, at ease and confident
This is what EI offers.

EI isn’t just about understanding and managing your own emotions but also recognizing and empathizing with other people’s emotions.

That’s the EI magic, my friends.

It’s the secret sauce for turning awkward convos into smooth moments

In the world of leadership, EI isn’t just a buzzword;

it’s the only way forward,

the game-changer,

and it changed this leader’s game.

What makes it easier for you to navigate conversations?

Overthinking your decisions cramping your leadership style?

Do you consider every possible option, with your thoughts running in a million different directions, and asking all the “what-if’s”? 😵‍💫

After hours of stewing, you either haven’t made a decision or you reluctantly made one that makes you feel queasy. 😬 

You’re not alone. 👥

This is a common challenge I hear from . 🗣️📢

Let me tell you why this happening. 👇🏽👇🏽

You’re getting caught up in all the emotions that go along with making decisions. 🥴

Most leaders have no idea this is getting in the way!

Without developing your , you’ll inevitably keep spinning around in circles and/or question yourself any time you’re faced with a decision. 🤯

💪🏽 🧠 Building your emotional intelligence (yes this includes your own emotions) helps you see clearly and make confident & informed decisions.

🦻🏽Stay tuned for more on Emotional Intelligence including micro-practices you can use immediately to make decision-making simple! 💥

Leadership is a juggling act.

Prioritizing your day can feel like pulling teeth.
Picture this, it’s a regular day…

5 meetings, 45 Slack messages and 18 emails later it’s 5:45 pm -

you’re stuck bouncing between projects, your to-do list seems to have grown longer, and that dinner with the fam? Pretty sure you won’t make it

Distractions are the silent thieves of productivity and calm minds.

We often don’t realize we’re being pulled in different directions.

Running from one task to another without making real progress.

It can feel like you’re under a mountain of bricks.
Here’s the scoop: the first step to come out from under those bricks is to recognize you’re under the bricks.

Emotional Intelligence helps us do this.

Let’s break the cycle.

Stay tuned for more on emotional intelligence and managing distractions so you can make it to your dinners with a calm mind and time to spare!

Thank you to ATB Financial and CEO Curtis Stange for prioritizing the well-being and mental health of your employees👏👏👏

Today I had the pleasure of facilitating a Meditation Micro-lesson and Practice to 270+ employees at ATB.

270+ employees! A testament to the wonderful, supportive culture ATB has built, not only offering this session but also encouraging attendance and participation.

Shoutout to some of the rockstars who organized ⭐

This week’s reminder 🗓️

🎮 The Remote Control of Life 🎮

🚨 🚨 🚨 PSA, there's a control myth lurking around!

It comes into play most often when we feel overwhelmed and frazzled.

Have you ever snapped back at your partner because of an annoying comment they made? We're usually quick to blame the person for making us snap! 🙄

Maybe you had 2 back-to-back meetings and the first one didn't go so well...you showed up extra spicy in the second. It's easy to justify our sour mood...it was because of the 1st meeting! 😡

These are the   👆

We think we have control over the things we don't actually have control over, yet we fail to recognize and harness the things we DO have control over. 🤯 

What are the things we can control? Check out the new blog post (Link in bio > Blog) so you can bust the myth. You'll be more cool, calm and in control 😎

Did you know mindfulness can help you BIG time during your workday?!

Here’s how…

It’s so easy to stall in our tracks and focus on the outside… whether you’re

> waiting for someone to apologize ⏰
> seeking a “good job 👍🏼” from your manager, or
> looking for energy from that 3rd cup of coffee ☕️

…we often forget that what we’re searching for is already inside us…we just need to give it to ourselves. 👀

>> Create your own closure - an apology will only do so much 💥
>> Big yourself up and flex your confidence muscle - manager’s words can be fleeting 🙌🏼
>> Find what energizes you that’s not in a cup or a fridge - maybe a lil dance party! 💃🏼 🕺🏾

Everything you need, you already have. 🙂