Amanda Davies

Visibility means becoming unrecognisable to the people who think they already have you figured out 👀

That’s exposing.

When you step out of the spiritual closet, and start putting your new work, creative ideas, and ambitions into the world, people who already know you will likely see a different side of you.

- You may be more opinionated than they expected.

- More ambitious.

- Bolder.
- Weirder.
- More woo.
- More willing to take up space.

…and suddenly, the old version of you doesn't quite fit their narrative anymore.

That's when things get interesting.

That's when you get all jammed-up.

That's when you start spinning.

😉

I unpack this in Episode 118: "The Roles We Play, and The Shadows Beneath Them".

This is the territory I’ll be exploring deeply over the coming weeks as we move towards the launch of Shadow Medicine which starts 14 September.

Together we’ll explore the hidden parts that slip out sideways, the unconscious patterns, the things we’ve learned to edit out, and what happens when they start asking to be seen...

“Just out here becoming my best self”… 👇

Yeah, this one sets off my spidey-senses.

BEST SELF is one of the most overused terms in the self-improvement industry... and although it’s super well-intentioned, it almost always points to something along the lines of becoming:

More confident
More resilient
More polished
More organised
More successful

Etc.

👉 So here's the big question:

What if we're spending years perfecting the conscious self we know… while the most interesting parts of us remain completely out of sight?

Many of the traits you’ve spent years polishing (with the help of your favourite celebrity coach 😉), may be the ones that helped you become successful, lovable, safe, needed or respected.

They’re real and, of course, they’re yours...

But what did they leave out?

:: The wildness behind the nice one.

:: The vulnerability behind the capable one.

:: The powerful authority behind the agreeable one.

:: The bold desire behind the good one.

… and here's where this gets really interesting:

👉 What remains out of sight psychologically, often becomes what remains out of sight in our lives more generally.

👉 The parts of you that are difficult to access on the inside, can also be the parts you struggle to express, embody and make visible on the outside.

…and yet those hidden parts may be carrying the very qualities your life is asking you to bring forward.

(Especially in your business, career or relationships).

🌚 This is the terrain I guide you through.

There’s medicine in going beneath who you think you are and bringing more of what’s there into the light.

I started unpacking all of this in Episode 118 of my podcast: "The Roles We Play, and The Shadows Beneath Them".

… and over the next few weeks, I'm going deeper into this territory as I lead into Shadow Medicine, my live 6-week journey beginning September 14.

This is where it gets interesting.

You call them Baddies... 👇

I call them Psychologically Significant women.

... and I've worked with them for almost two decades.

(Btw, true baddies never fully understand they're a baddie at first) 😉

Anyway, I've learned a thing or two about feminine psychology and power.
.. and I've noticed certain women seem to have an outsized psychological impact on the spaces they enter 🤸

You see, when you lead, walk an unconventional path, or take up space, you inevitably become a screen for other people's shadow projections and unfinished business.
.. and these projections don't just drop in out of nowhere.

🌀 We are literally all swirling around in collective myths, and cellular-level stories of feminine power, authority, and what women are allowed to be.

So when a woman steps outside of, or pushes the edges of those inherited roles, she WILL awaken admiration, envy, longing, disdain, or resistance in others.

(... the nuance is, you will have your projections too, of course. No one is immune to shadow work).

I think one of the deeper initiations of feminine leadership is learning to recognise all of this... without becoming inflated by admiration, or allowing resistance to rock you, or send you into hiding.

What have you noticed? 👇

The hidden initiation of leadership 👇

The moment you become visible, people begin unconsciously assigning you roles:

- The heroine who will save them.
- The wise woman who should have all the answers.
- The long lost mother who should coddle them.
- The loud-mouthed clown who is too much.
- The witch they fear.
- The threat who needs to be brought back down, because she's arrogant af.

Can you hold that?

The reality is, these projections are shaped by generations of inherited stories about women, power, visibility, and authority 🗣️

The initiation is learning to stand tall and be seen regardless.

⚡️ To be the lightening rod of other people's projections and stories, without collapsing.