Dear Spouse

DEAR HUSBAND...

1. If you want your wife to make love to you often, then take care of her heart. You cannot mistreat your wife and hurt her then expect great and frequent s*x

2. If you want your wife to respect you, then you have to do respectable and admirable things. You cannot dishonour her and shame her then expect her to excuse your gross misbehavior with a blanket respect. She can't submit to torture

3. If you want your wife to feel safe with you and open up to you, then you have to stop emotionally and physically abusing her. You cannot instil fear and wonder why she protects herself from you

4. If you want your wife to enjoy intimacy with you, then you have to maintain oral and body hygiene. You cannot expect your wife to enjoy kissing you and playing with your p***s yet you smell of sweat, you don't shower, don't brush your teeth and smell of miraa, w**d or alcohol

5. If you want your wife to stop complaining, then you need to stop repeating the same wrongs. She complains because she has to call you out when you do wrong since she believes you can be better

6. If you want your wife to be financially transparent with you and to stop making financial decisions behind your back, then you need to start showing financial responsibility. As long as you keep being reckless, she will save and invest without your knowledge to protect her future and that of the children

7. If you want your wife to brag about you to people, then do things that make her proud. She cannot pretend that you are a great man yet you are not

8. If you want your wife to stop nagging and being moody, then you need to make time to spend with her and make her feel special. A woman nags and becomes grumpy when she feels neglected. A loved up wife glows

9. If you want your wife to stop fighting your friends, then you need to stop surrounding yourself with the wrong friends and allowing your friends to pull you away from your family. You wife is just protecting you

10. If you want your wife to be proud to be your wife, then you have to do things that make her say "Yes" to you daily. Don't expect her to be satisfied with the title of wife just because she wears your ring, has a marriage certificate or has your child/children

11. If you want your wife to help you and support you, then you need to have a vision and share it with her. A woman can only be a helper to a man who knows where he is going and gives her room to build with him

TYPES OF DATES EVERY
COUPLE SHOULD TRY

1. PICNIC DATE
There is something special and free about the outdoors. Pack up some food and drinks and a leso, find a spot and have fun.

2. WALK DATE
Make time to just take a walk as you bond. Walk for long as you hold hands, laugh, bump shoulder to shoulder. You need no money for this.

3. ELEGANT DATE
Go all out. Gentleman, ask her out to an expensive, classy venue. Give her a chance to dress up. She will feel special, smiling as you romance her; she wearing her fashionable dress.

4. DANCE DATE
Find a place where good music is played or dance is taught and go there as a couple. Salsa, lingala, afro, twist, benga; go to a place where you will sweat, groove and get down.

5. IMPROMPTU DATE
Dates don't have to be pre-planned. Be spontenous sometimes, drop everything and go somewhere as a couple for some quality time.

6. MOVIE DATE
Go to the cinema. Movies bring out emotions.

7. DOUBLE DATE
Go out on a date with another couple close to you. This will give you a chance to celebrate love and talk couple to couple. Your love will grow stronger.

8. COMPASSION DATE
There are many people in society to bless. You and your partner, find a children's home, an elderly home, a hospital or someone in need and together go spend time with them. God will bless your love.

9. CANDLE-LIGHT DINNER DATE
There is something romantic about looking into each other's eyes in dim candle light. Make it special. Romance is sweet.

10. SPECIAL MOMENT DATE
This is when you celebrate big as a couple a special moment like Birthday, Anniversary, Graduation or Promotion. Never forget these moments.

11. MAKE-UP DATE
If things between you two haven't been going well. Make effort to save your love by planning a good date. A date provides a good setting to allow you two to talk and get back to deep love.

12. LUNCH DATE
Since you work at different jobs, sometimes meet up and have a couple's lunch for an hour or so.

13. OLD LOVE DATE
Dates are not for young love only. Sadly, as lovers stay in a relationship/marriage, the dates become fewer as they go through the motions. No matter how long you've been together, step outside your everyday responsibilities and go for a date to rekindle and sustain the excitement.

14. SPORTS DATE
Is your favorite football club, rugby team, basketball team, golfer playing? Is it the safari rally, athletics? Go out for dates as a couple where you can scream, cheer and go wild. You two will connect more.

15. FRIENDS DATE
Have a barbeque, hook up with friends, throw a party. Organize something as a couple where your love will be celebrated in the presence of close friends.

16. TRAVEL DATE
Pack your bags and travel. Break the monotony and as a couple drive, fly, sail to a place you've never been. Experience new attractions together. Your love will never be boring this way.

16. STAY AT HOME DATE
Lock yourself in the house. Not to work or do chores. But to switch off everything including phones and concentrate on each other. Cook together, eat together, bath together, make memories for two.

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Attention fellow brothers:

If you’ve been dating a woman for years and have no intention of marrying her, please let her go.

You’re holding someone’s future wife hostage and preventing her from finding true happiness and love.

There’s a BIG difference between a man who just wants to remain your boyfriend and a man who has plans to be your HUSBAND.

A real man commits to building a future together.💍

He got married this weekend... His mother called me in the morning of the wedding on Friday to tell me the shoes I bought her are so comfortable she will wear them all day... She ended the call with I love you Makoti. His sister also wore a dress made by my tailor😢 she said it's for a graduation party when we went to take measurements.... Today the bride was delivered to my Mother in law's house😂 oh no sorry his mother's house.
He is coming back to joburg tomorrow or at least that's what the plan was when he left on Thursday.... We speak once or twice every day and I still haven't brought myself to ask him if he still insists my dreams and visions could be speaking in riddles when I kept seeing him marrying another woman.
Edit:We are not married but have been dating for a couple of years and his whole family knows me.
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DEAR MARRIED MEN,

åNobody will tell you this but I will;
If you want to go far in life, love your wife, take good care of her, make her happy and her prayers will open doors for you.

åRemember when things go down healthwise or financially for you, only your wife will feed you and will be there for you. Most of your friends and side chicks will abandon you!

åAnd lastly, that lady you think is better than your wife, it's because she is not living with you. Bro, invest in your woman!
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Class dismissed 🥂

One scoop of cement a day to strengthen your heart!! 🫶🏻

Philippians 4:6-7

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

Loving your spouse doesn't mean you'll wake up every morning excited to be and to see your spouse. The reality of marriage is that some days you wake up and look at your spouse and wonder what you were thinking when married him or her. Disappointments are real in marriage. Hurts are unavoidable in marriage. But true love is shown by the way you treat your spouse in moments when he or she least deserves it. It is when you decide to treat him or her with respect and courtesy even when you're disappointed with him or her.
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Class dismissed 🥂

Going to bed angry can be the result of a small, one-time disagreement or a sign of a larger issue within the relationship. When you go to bed angry, there's a chance you may get poor sleep and that the disagreement may linger. Still, there can be times when it's best to get some sleep before continuing the discussion🤫