Dr. Fae

🌟Finding Meaning in a Global Life: An Existential Support Group 🌟

Are you feeling a bit lost or overwhelmed in the Foreign Service shuffle? You’re not alone. Many of us grapple with questions about purpose, identity, and what it means to truly live when you change jobs, houses, and communities every few years.

Join the new Online Existential Discussion Group—a safe space where you can explore these deep questions with others who “get it” over 6 weeks. This isn’t just another therapy session and it’s not a self-righteous one-up competition to see who is the most resilient; it’s a genuine gathering of individuals seeking to connect, share, and do something different together. The facilitator, dr. fae frederick, is a licensed psychologist and an EFM. She’s invested thousands of hours working with FS folks and expats and she’s bringing the most common themes from her clients' struggles to this group.

What to Expect:
🌟Exploring Life’s Big Questions: We’ll dive into the basics of existentialism and see how it connects to your own nomadic FS life, helping you face and embrace your search for meaning amongst the ever changing landscape.

🌟Staying True to Yourself: We’ll talk about what it really means to hold onto who you are while everything around you changes, and how to live authentically as who you are now, not who you were when you joined the service.

🌟Dealing with Anxiety and Uncertainty: Moving or going through big changes IS stressful. We'll talk about how to work with that anxiety when you can and how to sit with it when there’s nothing left to do about it - except maybe cry a little and get back to the PCS checklist.

🌟Finding Meaning Through Tough Times: We’ll explore how challenges, especially adjusting to new cultures, can lead to personal growth and new insights and how sometimes it just sucks. There will be NO gratitude journaling.

🌟Building Connections: We’ll discuss how to build strong networks, even if you're far from family and friends. Single serving friends have a place in our communities!

🌟Creating Your Own Purpose: Finally, we’ll look at practical ways you can bring more meaning into your life and make choices that reflect what truly matters to you. Well, we’ll get started with some plans and ideas at least - it’s just 6 weeks.

Insurance Coverage: This group is reimbursable by insurance, making it accessible for more of our community members. You will need to pay at the time of service and then submit your superbill to your insurance provider.

Confidentiality Matters: What’s shared in our group stays in our group, providing a secure environment for open dialogue. You can read more about this in the link below.

Interested in learning more? Additional information about confidentiality, risk to clearances (don’t worry there is none), cost, and a survey to share your available meeting time are all in here.

group — Online Therapy International In today's fast-paced and often chaotic life, it’s common to feel a sense of disconnection or uncertainty about our purpose. Many of us grapple with profound questions about identity, meaning, and what it means to truly live, especially with added layers of frequent moves to different cultures. If...

An upcoming resource for my Foreign Service folks.

Worried about retirement savings? Concerned about funding your child's college education? Whether you check your accounts obsessively or avoid them altogether, money can be a major source of stress.

Join EFMs Patrick Gaffney (Economist) and dr. fae frederick (licensed psychologist) for an insightful (and free) webinar on achieving financial health in the Foreign Service. Discover how your mindset about money affects your mental well-being and get practical tips and resources to ease your financial anxiety. Patrick and I have been talking about these pain points of our friends and clients for years and we've finally gotten our act together to offer some intersectional advice.

If there's interest, we’ll offer future seminars on retirement planning, college savings, home buying, and navigating bidding when differential pay is a factor.
Don’t miss out! Register through the Google form to secure your spot and share your feedback on preferred topics and times. A recording will be available for registrants for a limited time after the session.

https://forms.gle/Yw2Cw8LE7uRRfcQc9

We’re hosting this event in collaboration with Available Worldwide Network (AWN). AWN is a community-led platform providing professional development, personal connection, and social support for the partners of the US Foreign Service and other agencies serving at US Embassies, Consulates and Centers abroad. If you or someone you know is an EFM who could use some extra support (or any support) in career, accountability, or community, check out AWN. It’s less than $5/mo to join and it’s my favorite EFM community - I do a couple of free talks per year because everyone is so engaged and kind. You can learn more about them and everything they offer here https://availableworldwide.net/awn/

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https://app.heartbeat.chat/availableworldwidenetwork/events/6B9ED9

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Dr. Fae is a licensed therapist and "trailing spouse". She works with adults around the globe who want to create a more meaningful life for themselves, no matter where they are. Head to your inbox now to read this month's issue! If you aren't receiving our newsletter, give us a try, by clicking the link in our bio or https://www.diplodash.com/links to subscribe. Make sure to confirm your subscription or it won't take effect. Thank you again for your support! com/drfaefrederick

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