Notivational Notes

Listen to when you need to step back and reconnect with yourself💚

Before you say YES to one more thing, ask yourself if it’s worth the extra weight it might mean having to carry🏋️‍♂️

Last week I had to do some reflecting and admit life needed to SLOOOOOW DOWN a bit and that’s okay! Let’s all be kinder to ourselves and not feel so bad when we need to admit we need to take on a little less🐢

Wring our that sponge my fellow people pleasers🧽 I relate to the people in my life by taking in whatever it is they might be feeling. This is something I’ve always worn as a badge of honor. Being able to understand, relate and help my friends is a huge part of what makes me ME! But, this becomes a slippery slope for me, or in this case, a sopping wet sponge. Sometimes I absorb the feelings of so many people around me that I often can’t clearly distinguish my feelings from everyone else’s. Shifting away from this is TOUGH because I don’t ever want to lose the close connections I have, but I know it’s through this work that will help me help myself, while also helping others🖤

Remember this every time! You’re the only one who knows what you should say NO to. No one else. Just you👊🏼

Instead of telling our feelings to GO AWAY, what if we embraced them? Allowing ourselves to sit with how we feel will reveal new truths about ourselves. It’s in these reflective moments where real growth takes hold.

It’s easy (really easy) to get comfortable not confronting something or someone. Being silent means we literally don’t have to do anything. Getting comfortable in this spot means no one will ever hear our ideas because we’re too afraid of being confronted about what we really think. It’s this type of hiding that keeps us from getting to know ourselves better. It keeps from real growth💪🏼

I didn’t misspell that😏 by learning to say NO, I’ve noticed it’s not as scary as I thought. I’ve found I’m less resentful, far less passive aggressive and much more in tune with what I actually want to say YES to. As a people pleaser, the very idea of saying NO is straight up terrifying at first, but with small steps and practice, it gets easier💙

Stand firm in your NO💪🏻

Do whatever you can to avoid disappointing yourself!

Why do we people please? Because being seen as good makes us feel safe and worthy. One of the things I have to remind myself of OFTEN is that you can say no to something and still be good. I’ll admit...quarantine has given me a long break from being faced with those moments as often as I used to be, so I’m a little nervous to see just how rusty I’ve gotten😑 here’s to hoping I can coach myself through the moments where I struggle to say no just because I don’t want to feel like I’m letting anyone down! Here’s to hoping I just don’t let myself down this time💙

It’s not selfish to tell yourself the things you need to hear. We should be telling ourselves how proud we are of what we’ve done, how far we’ve come and how happy we are that we’re our own person. We don’t need to look for this type of validation from others when we can find it first in ourselves💙