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https://www.cnbc.com/amp/2025/08/03/child-psychologist-parents-who-are-good-at-handling-tantrums-use-7-phrases-with-their-kids.html

I've studied over 200 kids—parents who are 'really good' at handling tantrums use 7 'calming' phrases Child psychologist Reem Raouda, who has studied more than 200 child-parent relationships, says that parents who are good at handling — or preventing — kid tantrums are mindful of their words. Here are the "powerful" and "calming" phrases that will calm any situation.

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When children are upset we get intense behaviour and harsher words. It is challenging to know what to say and how to respond when kids are angry and hurtful. It is normal as a parent to take it personally and feel equally upset with your child. Our impulse may be to reprimand them, set a boundary and tell them how revolting what they are doing and saying is. But the reality is that whilst we see anger on the outside, on the inside is shame, hurt, disconnection, isolation and pain. We do not want to meet our childs pain with more pain by creating more disconnection and space in the relationship with them. We want to be their safe anchoring amidst their stormy emotions. I know many people may be reading this and think, “I cannot let my child get away with this sort of behaviour. I won’t let them talk to me or anyone like this”. The reality is that this way of thinking is old fashioned. It breds more shame and pain. There is never a time in anyone’s childhood when they acted in the wrong way, that experiencing more pain, punishment and shame from a parent helped them feel better, learn the right skills to manage their anger and feel good about themselves. If we want to discipline our children, we must realise discipline is the art of learning through boundaries, love and connection. We have all said things we regret and did not mean when angry. What were we really feeling on the inside? At that moment we did not have the regulation skills or words to properly articulate what was happening for us. When we can see our childrens true intentions and feelings, the hidden messages below the surface, we can be responsive parents rather than reactive. This way we can help our children learn the skills to regulate their emotions, de-shame their words and help bring them back after a big emotion so that we can help them feel connected too, and give them the right tools to manage in the future. #anger #angry #helpme #child #innerchild

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Self-esteem does not come from other people, it comes from within you. You increase your kids self-esteem by giving them something to be proud of. What can they be proud of? How nice they are, their good behavior, the friendship that they have with you, how they treat people … that's what builds high self-esteem. When you set yourself up as a leader, their self-esteem happens organically. Kids of leaders tend to have high self-esteem, they tend to like themselves. Also, if you're the source of them liking themselves and having high self-esteem, they wanna please you. It's like, win win win, win. Looking for the first step to start parenting as a calm leader today? Check out my FREE BratBusters Behaviour Board, linked in my bio. Then, if you’re interested in learning the tools I teach for parenting like a calm leader, check out the BratBusters Bootcamp, linked in my bio. ` ` ` #ParentingJourney #ParentingWisdom #ParentingSolutions #ParentingGoals #ParentingAdvice #MindfulParenting #ParentingCommunity #ParentingInspiration #ParentingResources #ParentingEmpowerment #ConfidentParenting

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