Guided PACE Community

If you are looking for a place to go deeper, work with other Christian women on stuck patterns please join us in March. Space is limited. Registration closed Feb 28th.

Are you feeling tired? 😴 Yeah, I understand. Sometimes it can feel like trying to see through a windshield covered in bug crap. 🚗💩 Yeah I get it, the fog is real. As a Christian, I've realized that knowing true things doesn't always align with experiencing the abundant life on the inside. 🙏🌟

That's why I want to invite you to something special. In just over a week, Travis and I are hosting an online workshop on the 22nd at 7:30pm ET. 🌟🎉 This workshop will help everyone, including ourselves, establish healthy rhythms in five key areas of life: Physical, Spiritual, Emotional, Relational, and Vocational.

By joining us, you'll walk away with a clear path to nourishing your soul and bringing it back to life, just as Jesus has promised. 🌿❤️ We'll be asking some really good questions that we often overlook about what our souls truly need.

Your soul thrives in unique conditions that our culture doesn't always facilitate. That's why we need to step out of the grind and hustle and learn to live in rhythm. Let's kick off 2024 by walking with a curious freedom. 🚶🕊️ the Easy Yoke by the side of Jesus.

Please join us for this workshop. Jan 22nd 7:30pm ET. If the $15 cost is a hindrance, just message us, and we'll gladly provide you with a code. 💙🙏

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/788710292717?aff=oddtdtcreator

The Way of Jesus: A Workshop on Healthy Soul Care Rhythms Join us for a lively, interactive workshop on healthy soul care practices and disciplines as we look at the life of Jesus.

If you have an avoidant attachment, your reaction to stress and conflict is to “move away.” This can show up in any number of behaviors, and one big one is getting quiet. Usually this is because you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and/or as if no matter what you say it won’t be right. The downside of course is that all your partner sees is you going away.
Give this some thought and see if it fits. If so, have a conversation with your partner. Shine some light on it. Try letting your partner in on what they might not otherwise be able to see. ❤️

*I regret that I have to say this every time I make a post about avoidant attachment, but anybody who makes negative comments about those with avoidant attachment, overtly or stealth, will be removed from the account. It is no more difficult to be in a relationship with someone with an avoidant attachment than it is with an anxious attachment, but those with anxious attachment are more vocal about it.

It was such as blessing to be featured on this podcast today and I pray it helps weary souls find rest, balance, and hope.

Travis and Jessica will truly help you to regulate your emotions this crazy time of year. Listen right here!
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1rKR1Z9b96pvXG3ugthhcS?si=6HSibh_6Qb6kvrEMJ2vE4w

Reposted from The Secure Relationship
It is just so important we understand this!
The need for emotional safety is as real as the need for physical safety, is a critical element of healthy relationships and secure attachment, and can be learned and mastered with the right information and working at it. This Secure Relationship account has loads of advice on how to get there ❤️

Hey friends, it has been one year since I began taking clients using the Guided PACE Program. 🌱🌿🌲 I am touched and honored to walk along side couples as individuals in their journey toward wholeness. Experiences of marital conflicts, parenting challenges, and individual traumas lead my clients to seek coaching services. My specialized training in attachment theory, an Enneagram & Marriage coaching certification, as well as the nueroscience 🧠 education of Polyvagal Theory has given me endless tools and practices to help in making big shifts internally.
❤️ My amazing husband Travis and some dear friends helped me along the way. Friends that encouraged me were Meredith, Rissa, Courtney, Sarah Hock, Debbie, Jasmine, Sarah McCrory, Angela and Christa to name a few. Your belief in me goes a long way. Then, Julie, Ryan, and Danny who helped with the program edits and videos. 🌻 None of this was created alone.
🤓 My Guided PACE program serves as a reference tool for clients to remember what their work is. And My God, the lover of all souls, who sees and knows, walks alongside all of us to guide and direct us toward the “state of Shalom.” It is the ultimate collaborative process!!
🗣️ I was recently encouraged to share more about what I do on social media because I understand many of you have no idea. I don’t get real specific here. But what the heck, It’s ok if it is not your thing. 🙋🏻‍♀️ However, you might know someone who needs an ally on the journey toward wholeness. 🤗 An ally who is grounded in prayer and some solid theories that will help them get into the driver seat of their own emotions and experiences. Maybe I could be that for them. 🤷🏻‍♀️
🙌🏻 I always give people a 🆓 30 minute discovery zoom session to see if we are a good fit. And if you are a friend here, and share this post, I will gladly give you a whole hour for your enneagram assessment, or whatever you need completely free. ➡️ I really don’t do this for $$.
I completely believe it is my calling to share the things that ✝️ God has equipped me with to become emotionallly regulated and believe truth, not the automatic constructs of my personality. Any small amount of money I do make allows me to stay home, keep learning, write more resources and give more back.
📧 Just email me at…
[email protected]
👩‍💻Or visit my website at…
https://guidedpace.com/coaching/
Note: Danny Smith, featured testimonial below, was such an encouragement as I developed this program pilot with the vision for reaching underresourced adults in the foster care system. Danny continues to help people in the very same way in some of the work he does.

Hey friends, it has been one year since I began taking clients using the Guided PACE Program. 🌱🌿🌲 I am touched and honored to walk along side couples as individuals in their journey toward wholeness. Experiences of marital conflicts, parenting challenges, and individual traumas lead my clients to seek coaching services. My specialized training in attachment theory, an Enneagram & Marriage coaching certification, as well as the nueroscience 🧠 education of Polyvagal Theory has given me endless tools and practices to help clients to make big shifts internally.
❤️ My amazing husband Travis and some dear friends helped me along the way. 🌻 None of this was created alone.
🤓 My Guided PACE program serves as a reference tool for clients to remember what their work is. And My God, the lover of all souls, who sees and knows, walks alongside all of us to guide and direct us toward the “state of Shalom.” It is the ultimate collaborative process!!
🗣️ I was recently encouraged to share more about what I do on social media because I understand many of you have no idea. I don’t get real specific here. But what the heck, It’s ok if it is not your thing. 🙋🏻‍♀️ However, you might know someone who needs an ally on the journey toward wholeness. 🤗 An ally who is grounded in prayer and some solid theories that will help them get into the driver seat of their own emotions and experiences. Maybe I could be that for them. 🤷🏻‍♀️
🙌🏻 I always give people a 🆓 30 minute discovery zoom session to see if we are a good fit. And if you are a friend here, and share this post, I will gladly give you a whole hour for your enneagram assessment, or whatever you need completely free. ➡️
I completely believe it is my calling to share the things that ✝️ God has equipped me with to become emotionallly regulated and believe truth, not the automatic constructs of my personality. Any small amount of money I do make allows me to stay home, keep learning, write more resources and give more back.
📧 Just email me at…
[email protected]
👩‍💻Or visit my website at…
https://guidedpace.com/coaching/

When we realize that our bodies were created to protect us from emotional hurts and other types of trauma, then we realize why these protective parts seem to run the show. We can actually work with these defenders and remind them we are in fact safe to step forward, be brave and trust others.

Here are some simple tools that help your nervous system settle closer to a ventral (safe and social) state.
To watch examples look here at a video… https://youtu.be/WLJRsWiLYao

Awareness of patterns can be simply mapping the Polyvagal Basic States in the nervous system along the vagal nerve. What each feels like. Then you can access regulating tools to move up the ladder toward the ventral state.