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Why do I use words like “uncomfortable,” “weird,” or “activated”?🧠💛

Why do I use words like “uncomfortable,” “weird,” or “activated”?

Because these sensations don’t come with a learner history, and your prefrontal cortex might not know what to do next and that’s actually wonderful news! 🧠✨

In my latest post, I share how noticing these sensations, co-regulating, and using simple tools can help you respond instead of react, and build more self-awareness and independence.

👉 Check out the full post on my blog [link in bio].

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Telling someone “You’re safe” might actually feel like gaslighting — at least at first. 🌀

Discover why safety isn’t declared, it’s built — and how trust and presence help the body truly feel secure.

Read the full post on the blog. ✨

https://elizabethcambier.com/safety-isnt-declared/




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✨ Waiting vs. Dwaiting ✨

“Waiting” is one of those words my clients have heard a thousand times by the time they reach young adulthood. “You just have to wait.” But what does that actually mean?

We all know that waiting feels easier when we’re doing something so I came up with a new word: Dwaiting. 💡

Dwaiting = Doing while waiting.

Now when I give feedback, we can ask:
👉 “Did you wait… or did you dwait?”

It instantly turns a moment of frustration into a meaningful conversation and a great learning opportunity. 💬💫

Your body speaks before your mind.
Notice it. Name it. Trust it. ✨

One of my favorite parts of my work is helping people tune into their own body cues. ✨
Noticing when your voice gets a little higher, when your hands start moving and touching, or when your body contracts or expands with certain emotions, these are powerful signals.
Our body often speaks before our mind does. Learning to name and talk about what the body is doing can help us better understand the influences behind our thoughts and behaviors.

It’s been such a joy in session this month. One of my clients is finally landing in a felt sense of “I.” After years of deferring to others or hinting at what he might want, he’s now saying, “I want” and “I think”, from what he calls his own “place of power.” 💬✨

We’ve spent months slowing down, listening to his body, and exploring the mind-body connection. Now, he’s starting to name what he truly likes and wants. That kind of shift is powerful. 🔥

A personal share, from my own place of power: I love water. 💧 It’s not just a preference, it’s a lifeline. Learning to speak from my heart and advocate for myself has been life-changing. I hope he, too, begins to advocate for what he loves, to know it, name it, and stand in it. 💛

💭 Let’s Talk About “Fading Support”

In some behavior programs, there’s a concept called “prompt fading” —
It’s when adults slowly pull back support so a person “learns” to do things on their own.

But here’s the thing 👇

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🚨 For many of the kids I work with, this feels like abandonment.
They can feel when support is being pulled — but not why or when.
It’s not empowering. It’s confusing and often scary.

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💔 I’ve seen this lead to more anxiety, not less.
Because when people don’t feel safe,
they don’t feel capable either.

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It’s like learning to ride a bike…
But instead of joy when someone lets go —
It’s panic: “Where did they go?”

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Here’s how I do it differently:
✨ I’m honest.
✨ I tell them when I’ll be stepping back.
✨ I let them know where I’ll be if they need me.

That way, when they look up —
they’re not afraid.
They know they’re not alone.
They know they’re ready.

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🌱 Trust is not built by disappearing.
It’s built by showing up and being clear.
That’s real support.

🔑 One of the most powerful things I teach my clients?
How to have a relationship with their amygdala.

✨This little part of the brain is essential for survival—it scans for differences and sounds the alarm. But sometimes, it jumps in fast and strong, hijacking our response before the prefrontal cortex (our thinking brain) can weigh in.

Here’s what I guide my clients to do:
1. Notice what your amygdala is saying
2. Thank it for trying to protect you
3. Make a plan using your wise mind

✨It’s not about shutting it down—it’s about staying in connection with both parts of the brain.

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