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1. I don’t sacrifice my needs in order to not be “too much” for people
2. I don’t sacrifice healthy relationships for people who are determined to create chaos & drama
3. I don’t sacrifice staying quiet to keep unhealthy people comfortable
4. I don’t sacrifice my opinion of me for their opinion of me
5. I don’t sacrifice my dreams for their limits of what they think is possible or what I deserve
6. I don’t sacrifice rest in order to not feel “lazy” or guilty
7. I don’t sacrifice my mental health for their happiness
8. I don’t sacrifice being vulnerable with safe people just because they weren’t safe or capable
9. I don’t sacrifice taking care of myself because they neglected me
10. I don’t sacrifice my self worth for their criticism & blame

You get to choose how you treat yourself now, even if you couldn’t then. It takes work to unpack how you were treated & re-learning how you deserve and need to be treated but it’s worth it. Teaching your nervous system it’s safe to be cared for in bigger ways is a journey & if you are tired of figuring it out alone, let’s work together. I’ve been on this journey personally for a long time & know first hand what it takes to re-write these patterns and I’m happy to share and support you.
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Not therapy. Content based on my own personal views, experiences & study.

1. Guilting you for not answering their calls & texts immediately and not visiting regularly... even though they aren’t going out of their way to contact you.

2. Convincing you that love means suffering through other people’s crappy behavior, chaos & poor treatment of you because you’re supposed to be the “bigger person.”

3. Comparing you to siblings or others to trigger shame and compliance.

4. Teaching you that disappoointing them comes with consequences.

5. Making you feel ungrateful any time you speak up about being hurt.

6. Ignoring your successes or accomplishments in life to make you feel small or insignificant.

7. Making you feel cruel for having boundaries or needing space.

8. Using illness, injury or their emotional needs in order to keep you trapped and loyal to them.

9. Making you feel guilty for growing up and having your own relationships or family.

Unlearning guilt is learning how to sit with their discomfort and growing your tolerance for their unhappiness when it means prioritizing your own well being.

It’s allowing the body to process what has felt dangerous & hurtful in the past so it begins to feel safe enough to put itself first.... even when it’s going to rock the boat.

If you’re looking to heal from a toxic family, this is the right place. You can comment “Toxic” for a free guide and if check out my bio for info on healing in private sessions.

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Not therapy. Content based on my own personal views, experiences & study.

Comment “TOXIC” for the free guide on breaking toxic family rules 🖤

If you learned that it was safer to constantly be “on” so you could handle other people’s emotions or take care of their needs before your own… you may be the eldest daughter… or you may be the child who had to grow up too fast without having a chance to get their own needs cared for first.

Being stuck in these family patterns can be a lifelong coping mechanism for your nervous system and your mind when it never feels safe enough to feel what you need to feel and put yourself first.

If this is you, my account is for you. I get it and it doesn’t have to be a lifelong experience.

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Not therapy. Content based on my own personal views, experiences & study.

Comment “TOXIC” for the free guide on breaking toxic family rules 🖤

If you grew up feeling like everything was your fault, it’s time to write the truth.
You weren’t too much.
You were carrying too much.
Start unpacking it here.

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Not therapy. Content based on my own personal views, experiences & study.

Comment “Journal” to get the Inner Child Journal to get the questions I ask during sessions to uncover your childhood wound & get practical tools for working through your childhood trauma.

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Not therapy. Content based on my own personal views, experiences & study.

1. Someone is genuinely kind to you — and your body gets stressed or tight.
Because love never came without a price tag in your house & you’re waiting for the catch.

2. You get triggered when YOU’RE the one being celebrated.
Because your wins were never celebrated or used to raise the bar on you.

3. You dissociate mid-conversation with people you love. Being fully seen was never safe so your body goes into survival mode.

4. You can’t receive help without it twisting you up inside. You spiral into guilt because it’s not safe to be a burden, weak or needy.

5. Your body braces right after things go well.
Because it never seemed to last and it’s easier to not get your hopes up.

6. You feel shame — not guilt — when you set a boundary. You learned that loving people meant not having boundaries.

7. You’re triggered by your own needs.
Because being a burden meant people might leave or get mad.

8. Silence feels like punishment.
Because in the past it was. So when someone is quiet or withdrawn you get afraid.

9. Your own success triggers you. You learned that it wasn’t safe to outshine your family.

10. Watching someone else’s mother be loving destroys you. The grief of what you missed out on and the way you were treated hits you like a wall.

11. Your own good parenting triggers you.
Your body finally knows what was missing. And how long you went without it.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

Comment “TOXIC” for the free guide on breaking toxic family rules 🖤

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Not therapy. Content based on my own personal views, experiences & study.