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Dear Crucial Skills,

I was unexpectedly called into a meeting with senior leaders and colleagues who criticized a new process I had introduced. The conversation became heated, and I felt unprepared, cornered, and reactive, especially as they challenged the process without notice or supporting facts. Feeling overwhelmed, I agreed to their request despite believing the approach was inappropriate. Although they later apologized, I’m still upset and unsure how to move forward, given that they ultimately got what they wanted. How should I handle this now?

Signed,
Mistreated

Dear Mistreated,

Workplace interactions can be tough, and this situation is no exception. I’m sorry you’re feeling mistreated, and I respect you for reaching out for help in a tricky situation. I’ll be candid, though—what follows may not be exactly what you’re hoping for, because it will ask you to look at your own role, not just theirs.

As I consider your situation, I see two things happening that lead to an outcome. First, senior leaders and colleagues didn’t behave as well as they could have. Second: you didn’t behave as well as you could have. The outcome was that a decision was made that presumably sits well with them but not with you. Since the outcome derived from the intersection of their behavior and your behavior, let’s consider both of those inputs.

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Caught Off Guard, and Trying to Recover | Crucial Learning Since the outcome derived from the intersection of their behavior and your behavior, let’s consider both of those.

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Dear Crucial Skills,

My introverted daughter tends to avoid social interactions by giving people the silent treatment. Recently she’s been doing this with our housemate. How can I help her develop healthier ways of managing social relations?

Signed,
Worried

Dear Worried,

First, let me touch on the label you used to describe your daughter: introverted. I would caution you against pigeon-holing her into such a label. When we give someone a label, we often also assign corollary traits to them as well (e.g. awkward, unfriendly) many of which can be incorrect. In addition, if your daughter is told she’s introverted, she may begin to believe those traits are true, too.

Besides, introversion is not the issue here. Needing to be alone sometimes, preferring smaller social circles, or processing emotions internally is often perfectly healthy.

The concern here is not that your daughter is reserved—it’s that she withdraws from communication when it feels uncomfortable. In Crucial Conversations, we teach that when conversations stop feeling safe, dialogue breaks down and relationships suffer. Now, if your daughter has a history of trauma from interacting with one or more persons, other remedies such as therapy will often be needed. But for those children who just need a little more help feeling comfortable talking to others, here are a few suggestions:

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Helping Kids Feel Safe to Have Conversations | Crucial Learning My introverted daughter tends to avoid social interactions by giving people the silent treatment. Recently she’s been doing this with our housemate. How can I help her develop healthier ways of managing social relations?

Are you relying on AI too much in a bubble for confirming your every move?

In an article published by Yahoo, Joseph Grenny, cofounder of Crucial Learning and coauthor of Crucial Accountability, said, “AI in and of itself is not ‘bad,’ but it’s only one solution to help you get the results you need, not the whole solution….AI doesn’t remove people problems, it amplifies them. If anything, communication, judgment and accountability matter more with AI, not less.”

Grenny said leaders still need to encourage their teams to “speak up, collaborate and follow up on tasks and not assume work gets done just because AI is involved. While AI can provide insight, it’s the quality and health of our interpersonal relationships that will decide how effective those insights will be.”

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To boost conversations at work, lean into rituals DEAR READER: Are you relying on AI too much in a bubble for confirming your every move? According to a recent study by Stanford, AI is overly agreeable when it doles out interpersonal advice, which ca...

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Enjoy a heartfelt and thought-provoking story from the late Kerry Patterson in honor of upcoming Mother’s Day in this week's Crucial Skills:

"I was looking for lead pennies in the change drawer Grandpa kept at the front of his grocery store when Chuck hurled his massive bulk through the front door. Chuck’s body wouldn’t let him come in gently. His misshapen feet forced him to lean forward at a tilt that propelled him quickly and precariously across the floor until his cane eventually brought him to a halt.

“A pack of Luckies!” Chuck shouted to my grandfather who, having heard Chuck’s rumbling arrival, was now standing behind the counter. The two men exchanged friendly banter as Grandpa rang up twenty-three cents on the cash register and handed Chuck two cents in change. I watched as Chuck gingerly leaned on the counter for support, rifled through his right front pocket, pulled out a wooden match, dragged it across the back of the cash register, and then put the flame to one of the ci******es he had just purchased."

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Kerrying On: Thanks, Mom | Crucial Learning A story about the value of tough love.

We often convince believe the Fool's Choice: the false dilemma that you must choose between speaking up or keeping a friend.

But staying silent doesn't mean the problem goes away - it only morphs into actions such as avoidance and retribution.

With the right skills you can speak up AND maintain a relationship. Learn more with our Crucial Conversations courses and resources at https://cruciallearning.com