OAASIS Oregon

Learning the language of “needs” is crucial to having a happy life and happy relationships. For survivors of abuse and dysfunction, having needs was shamed and even dangerous, so we chose to not have needs. This doesn’t work so well and leads to a crisis for many of us.

Making curiosity a practice. ❤️

Our Co-Executive Director, Mel Phillips, was recently a survivor artist presenter at ’s Reclaim/Reclaima event. Check out the terrific work of SARC in our community!

We were so happy to have been a part of this terrific event through SARC Oregon!!!

Our Co-Executive Directors, Mel Phillips, was one of the survivor artist presenters for this night.

Please check out the amazing work SARC does in our communities!

A common misconception, especially for those of us who’ve lived with dysregulated nervous systems for too long.

A tragic and true reality right now. We can change it if we are willing to. 💙

Domestic and s*xual violence is about power and control. One of the ways we often see folks cause harm is by using their social status to hurt the survivor. Abusers may use larger systems to discredit survivors, or place themselves in a better-looking position, so other folks don’t believe the survivor if or when they share their story. A person who is causing this type of harm may use an aspect of the survivor’s identity against them or threaten to share personal information about the survivor to pit support people against the survivor.

We know that when a survivor is sharing their experiences with violence, this is an incredibly difficult and brave decision. As support folks, it is crucial we always believe survivors. When we , we show survivors that their stories are important, that they deserve safety and autonomy, and we begin to create safer communities for all.

You can learn more about the dynamics of domestic violence here: https://www.cwsor.org/domestic-violence/
--
La violencia doméstica y s*xual tiene que ver con el poder y el control. Una de las formas en que a menudo vemos cómo las personas causan daño es utilizando su estatus social para hacer daño a la persona que ha sufrido la violencia. Los agresores pueden recurrir a estructuras más amplias para desacreditar a las víctimas o para presentarse a sí mismos bajo una luz más favorable, de modo que los demás no crean a la víctima cuando esta cuenta su historia. Una persona que causa este tipo de daño puede utilizar algún aspecto de la identidad de la persona que ha sufrido la violencia en su contra o amenazar con compartir información personal sobre ella para enfrentar a las personas que la apoyan.

Sabemos que cuando una persona que ha sufrido violencia comparte sus experiencias, se trata de una decisión increíblemente difícil y valiente. Como personas de apoyo, es fundamental que siempre creamos a las personas que han sufrido violencia. Cuando , les mostramos a los supervivientes que sus historias son importantes, que merecen seguridad y autonomía, y comenzamos a crear comunidades más seguras para todos.

Puedes obtener más información sobre la dinámica de la violencia doméstica aquí: https://www.cwsor.org/domestic-violence/

Repost from .healthy

A terrific offering from our friends at SARC Oregon!

Sexual harm does not begin with assault.
It begins with normalization of-disrespect, entitlement, silence, and power without accountability.
The Netflix series Adolescence offers a window into how:
• Peer culture shapes behavior
• Online spaces accelerate harm
• Adults often miss early warning signs
• Sexual violence is connected to broader systems of power
This workshop is about earlier intervention, not fear-based parenting. It is intended for parents, caregivers, guardians, or key adults in life of youth ages ~10–18. On-site childcare provided.
Registration required:
http://donate.sarcoregon.org/campaigns/44265-parenting-in-the-age-of-adolescence-s*xual-harm-accountability

Repost from