Tom Allen, PhD

https://www.tomallenphd.com/blog/am-i-homesick-making-the-unfamiliar-familiar

Am I Homesick? Making the unfamiliar familiar. — Tom Allen, PhD, PLLC Homesickness arrives when we are exposed to overwhelming amounts of newness. Therein lies the primary intervention for navigating homesickness: to make what is new familiar.

https://www.themarginalian.org/2023/05/22/avoidance/

The Challenge of Closeness: Alain de Botton on Love, Vulnerability, and the Paradox of Avoidance The psychological machinery of our commonest coping mechanism for the terror of hurt, rejection, and abandonment.

Timely blog on teenage va**ng as the Minnesota suit again Juul begins this week.

“Electronic ci******es (e-ci******es) are highly engineered drug delivery devices that create and sustain addiction. Early e-ci******es did not deliver ni****ne as efficiently as ci******es because they delivered freebase ni****ne that was hard to inhale. This situation changed with the 2015 introduction of Juul products, which added benzoic acid to the ni****ne e-liquid to form protonated ni****ne. Protonated ni****ne increases addictive potential by making it easier to inhale quantities of ni****ne that are difficult for naive users to achieve with ci******es or earlier e-ci******es. By 2018, Juul held 75 percent of the market.”

Why Va**ng Is So Dangerous for the Adolescent Brain We still know very little about the long-term effects.

https://www.kare11.com/article/news/local/kare11-extras/can-math-equation-predict-future-of-your-relationship-these-love-doctors-say-yes/89-f66f5286-23b7-4127-a234-89e1d8033b98

Catchy title - but great contact from the Gottman's https://www.gottman.com/

Can a math equation predict the future of your relationship? These love doctors say 'yes' A pair of psychologists who have studied couples for decades share some formulas this Valentine's Day they say can make or break a relationship.

No longer a once-and-forever decision

Career choice has evolved. I'm excited to add the offering of Career Counseling and Assessment to my practice in Mankato.

My primary intention is to help individuals make informed choices about their work and career by utilizing sophisticated, well-researched assessment instruments and a counseling process.

Career Counseling and Assessment can help to:
- Identify a career choice
- Clarify decision making
- Identify opportunities for adjustment within the current work environment.
- Help to decide on various ways to change one’s current work environment to better match their unique skills and values.

To learn more or get started, please either send an email to [email protected] or book a free 15 min Career Counseling and Assessment appointment to discuss your situation and determine if the services I provide suit your needs.

Career Counseling and Assessment — Tom Allen, PhD, PLLC No longer a once-and-forever decision Career choice has evolved. In offering a Career Counseling and Assessment practice, my primary intention is to help individuals make informed choices about their work and career by utilizing sophisticated, well-researched assessment instruments and a counseling....

Graduating soon or considering a career adjustment?

Dysfunctional Belief: Your degree determines your career Reframe: Three-quarters of all college grads don’t end up working in a career related to their majors.

A well-designed life is a life that makes sense. That means it is a life in which (1) who you are, (2) what you believe, (3), and what you do all line up together. Check out the most recent blog to learn more about life design.

How do I find a job that I like? — Tom Allen, PhD, PLLC Dysfunctional Belief: Your degree determines your career Reframe: Three-quarters of all college grads don’t end up working in a career related to their majors. A well-designed life is a life that makes sense. That means it is a life in which (1) who you are, (2) what you believe, (3), and what you

Looking for happiness?

Invest in relationships.

The world’s longest longitudinal studs on happiness highlights the significance of relationships. Dr. Robert Waldinger, one of the authors of The Good Life: Lessons from the world's longest scientific study of happiness shared the number one predictor of happiness according to their data.

Dr. Waldinger states that people should invest in their relationships with other people. “We found that the strongest predictors of who not just stayed happy but who was healthy as they went through life - the strongest predictors were the warmth and the quality of their relationships with other people.”

Here the full interview here:

What's the #1 thing to change to be happier? A top happiness researcher weighs in NPR's Ari Shapiro speaks with Dr. Robert Waldinger, one of the authors of The Good Life: Lessons from the world's longest scientific study of happiness.

For those graduates and undergraduates approaching a new semester. Managing your time is a highly transferable skill that can be honed over time. The academic schedule offers an opportunity to identify what works best for you. Check out the blog below if you are interested in exploring a new time management plan.

Building a semester plan that works. — Tom Allen, PhD, PLLC I want to share with you three scheduling strategies that may aid in helping you stay on track and working toward your academic goals.

ONE WEEK FROM TODAY! Kevin Hines, American Su***de Prevention Speaker and Survivor, to speak at the Never G;ve Up Expo for Mental Wellness.

Details on the event: https://www.blueearthcountymn.gov/CivicAlerts.aspx?AID=833

More info on Kevin: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=saotbGUXsT4

https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2022/11/10/well/mind/panic-attack-symptoms-causes.html?smid=url-share

The Anatomy of a Panic Attack Up to a third of adults will experience at least one panic attack in their lifetime. Here's why they happen, and some coping strategies that work.

https://seizetheawkward.org/

Seize the Awkward | Talk With A Friend About Mental Health Having a conversation about mental health might be uncomfortable, but it can make all the difference. Check out these tools – from conversation guides to tips –that can help you help those in need.

https://www.tomallenphd.com/resource/assertiveness

Assertiveness — Tom Allen, PhD, PLLC Assertiveness and boundaries are two topics that often arise in therapy when an individual is feeling unheard, told that they over-react, or express feeling overwhelmed by responding to others.