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Confessions of a Shopaholic is NOT a romcom. It's the most accurate portrayal of spending psychology that I've ever seen as a Spending Coach. I go scene by scene and reveal what's driving all of it

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Bring Your Most Embarrassing Purchase

Yes, really.

The thing you bought and never told anyone about. The collection you've quietly accumulated that makes no logical sense. The purchase you made at 1am that arrived three days later and immediately got shoved in a closet.

That's your most valuable data point. And we're going to use it.

Oops, I Bought It Again is a 60-minute workshop built around one simple idea: your spending pattern isn't random, and it isn't a flaw. It's information. It's been pointing at something real this whole time — a need, a want, a part of you that hasn't been met yet.
Once you understand what that is, the pattern will stop.

Bring the embarrassing purchase. Bring the pattern you're tired of repeating. Bring the honest question you've been afraid to ask out loud.

We're going to answer it together.

Oops I Bought It Again Workshop You didn't plan to buy it. But here we are. Again.The Oops I Bought It Again workshop is live — 60 minutes to break the impulse buying cycle and start spending in a way that actually feels good. Grab your spot!What we'll uncover together: What need you are searching for with shopping How addressin...

For the Woman Who's Tried Everything

You've deleted the apps.
You've made the rules. Kept them for a while. Broken them. Felt terrible. Made them again.
You've done the budget, avoided the stores, talked yourself out of things — and somehow still ended up in the same place, wondering why nothing seems to stick.

Here's what I want you to know: it's not you. It's the approach.

Restriction works on the surface. It doesn't touch the root.

The root is the need your spending has been trying to meet — the one that was never really about the product, the discount, or the sale. That need doesn't go away when you make stricter rules. It waits. And eventually, it wins.

Oops I Bought It Again is a 60-minute workshop where we go to the root. We decode the pattern, identify the real need, and replace the cycle with something that actually works.

If you've tried everything else, try understanding it.

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Your Spending Is Trying to Tell You Something

Every swipe of your card is a sentence.
Every purchase you've regretted is a message you were too busy feeling guilty to read.

The shop-swipe-repeat cycle isn't a character flaw. It's a communication system you haven't learned to decode. Not because you're not smart enough. Not because you lack discipline. Simply because no one ever taught you how.

Beneath every purchase is a legitimate need.
Comfort. Control. Connection. Excitement. Something that felt just out of reach until the card was in your hand.

The problem isn't that you have needs. The problem is that shopping has become the only answer your brain knows to reach for.

Once you identify the real need — and meet it directly — the compulsion doesn't need to be wrestled into submission.

It dissolves.

Oops I Bought It Again Workshop You didn't plan to buy it. But here we are. Again.The Oops I Bought It Again workshop is live — 60 minutes to break the impulse buying cycle and start spending in a way that actually feels good. Grab your spot!What we'll uncover together: What need you are searching for with shopping How addressin...

Why Do I Keep Buying the Same Things?

I asked myself this once. Not out loud — just standing there, staring at my collection of purses.

I already had one. I already had three. I had an entire closet dedicated to this exact category.

And yet there I was, justifying another one. Thinking: maybe this one will finally be the one I actually use. Maybe this time the feeling will stick.

It didn't.

So I kept asking.

Is it boredom? Maybe. Is it habit? Possibly. Is it just who I am? I really hoped not.

I Googled it. Read about it. Listened to every budgeting podcast I could find.

And then I finally made the connection: what I wanted was not filling the void of what I actually needed. That's why I kept buying the same things over and over. The purchase scratched the surface. It never filled what was underneath.

Once I understood that — really understood it — everything changed.

Not because I found more discipline. Because I stopped needing to fight it.

When I finally made the connection, everything changed. That's what I built my upcoming workshop around — sharing details soon. Stay tuned.

The Anxiety Purchase

There's a specific kind of spending that doesn't feel like treating yourself.

It feels like fixing something.

The new planner that will finally make you organized. The vitamins you'll definitely take this time. The course that will make you feel more confident, more prepared, more like someone who has it together.

It's not indulgence. It's anxiety with a credit card.

You're not buying the thing. You're buying the version of yourself who doesn't have this problem anymore.

And it works — for exactly as long as it takes for the package to arrive. Then the next problem surfaces, and the cycle starts again.

The purchase was never the solution. It was the feeling of doing something when the real thing felt too hard or too slow or too uncertain.

Naming that doesn't make it go away. But it does make it a lot harder to accidentally do it on autopilot.

Which version of this do you recognize in yourself?

Sometimes we think we want a thing.

A new wardrobe. A total aesthetic overhaul. A complete lifestyle reinvention at 11pm on a Wednesday.

We convince ourselves it's practical, totally logical, completely necessary. We go all in. And then the thing arrives — and we don't use it. Don't wear it. Don't become the person we imagined when we bought it.

Here's why: it was never about the thing.

It was about wanting to see a different version of yourself reflected back. A bolder one. A freer one. One where the outside finally matched something stirring on the inside.

We're not shopping for objects. We're shopping for identity.

But that's not something you find in a shopping cart.

That's something you find by finally getting quiet enough to listen.

What's the thing you bought that was really about something else? I'd love to know — drop it in the comments.

On Retail Therapy

Retail therapy is real.

Not in the way we joke about it — "haha I bought shoes because I had a bad day" — but genuinely, neurologically real.

A purchase triggers a dopamine response. It creates a moment of anticipation, decision, reward. It works. For a little while, it actually works.

That's not weakness. That's biology.

The problem isn't that you found something that made you feel better. The problem is when you KEEP using that thing to make you feel better.

You don't need to stop seeking comfort. You need more tools in the kit so you don't always revert to shopping.

So the question isn't "why do I shop when I'm sad?" The question is: what else gives you that same hit of relief — that doesn't cost you twice?

It Was Never About 'The Thing'

Sometimes we think we want a thing: A new wardrobe. A total aesthetic overhaul. A complete lifestyle reinvention at 11pm on a Wednesday.

We convince ourselves it's practical, totally logical, completely necessary. We go all in. And then the thing arrives — and we don't use it. Don't wear it. Don't become the person we imagined when we bought it.

Here's why: it was never about 'the thing.'

It was about wanting to see a different version of yourself reflected back. A bolder one. A freer one. One where the outside finally matched something on the inside.

We're not shopping for objects. We're shopping for identity.

Sometimes that's beautiful. Sometimes it's a sign that something deeper is asking to be heard.

The version of you that you're searching for isn't hiding in a new aesthetic. She's underneath the searching itself — the one who is trying to find where she belongs in the world; the one who is trying to uncover her purpose.

That's not someone you find in a shopping cart.

That's someone you find by finally getting quiet enough to listen.