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AITA For Prioritizing My Safety Over Unfair Family Expectations, Even When It Hurts?

I (17m) have a twin sister Robyn (17f). Our mom died when we were 6. Our dad started dating again when we were 7 and we met our stepmom when we were 8.

When my dad and stepmom were talking about moving in together and getting married they asked me and Robyn how we felt about it and what worries we had. We both said we didn't want things to change a lot. That we liked going to our grandparents after school until dad picked us up after work and we didn't want that to stop.

That we didn't want it to mean we'd have a new mom. We were worried dad would stop talking about mom and we'd have to stop talking about her too. They told us we didn't have to see our stepmom as our new mom and we didn't need to stop going to our grandparents and that it worked out good since our stepmom worked too.

They asked if we'd be okay with her picking us up some days and we said we were okay with that. We talked about what we'd call our stepmom and we both wanted to use her name. She told us there was no pressure but if we ever wanted to call her some kind of mom name she'd love that.

Dad assured us we'd still spend time with him. After they got married dad talked to us again and asked where we'd want to be if something happened and he couldn't take care of us. We said our grandparents.

Dad told us...

New update: AIW for not letting my sister be at my birth?

Hi y'all. I'm not even sure if people want an update but people do still comment on the other posts. So three months after my last update I'd recovered from surgery and Kerim, Adley and I had been able to go on a trip to the country side to destress.

When I get a random DM on insta and when I looked she was following Tasha. Let's call her Lily. Well Lily tells me that she needed to ask me something because Tasha has been telling their friend group something worrying.

I bet you don't know what I'm going to say.... Tasha had been going around school saying that her and my husband were having an AFFAIR! I couldn't even respond I was so f__king livid.

Never mind how weird it is for her it's so dangerous to be saying that even among her friends. It puts my husband at such risk to be accused of awful things. So that was it I'd had enough.

I floored it to my mothers house and slammed in to find Tasha. She was sat there like nothing was happening and just smirked making my blood boil. I'll admit I lost it a bit and screamed at her that she was unhinged and needed to be locked up.

That it wasn't normal for a 14 year old to want her sisters husband and life. Our mum came in asking what the hell was wrong with ME!!! I grabbed both Tasha and my mother by their shirts and said she had one week to sort her s__t out...

A Boundary-Pushing MIL Meets Her Match in a Perfectly Planned Trip

Long story short - MIL started off asking if she could fly in to stay with us for a while, we said no, seems to have employed tactic of booking flights without asking us and ringing day before arrival letting us know the time her flight gets in claiming 'amazing last min deal she just couldn't turn down'. I'd say she can't stay but husband doesn't want to leave her without accommodation so we have an agreement I take zero time off work, we don't keep baby off childcare, no unsupervised time with baby at all, he does all hosting including setting up bed, cooking, food shopping etc.

Essentially if she books visit with us we're off work, baby home, stuff planned. She doesn't then we continue usual routine she's just sat home alone all day and told if she'd have asked she'd have known wasn't a good time. Well, today on my laptop, I've realised MIL has somehow shared her calendar with me.

She did ask me for my email last time she was here to send me something for another trip she was taking, but now I can see some information on her calendar as an option on mine. She also seems to have synced some flights she's booked to come see us. Again she hasn't cleared it with us.

I haven't told husband. Instead I've booked for us to go away somewhere he's always been desperate to go, leaving the day before her flight. He doesn't know what it is yet, just that I've told him to take those days off for...

[Update] I [30M] made a huge mistake/oversight, and really hurt my cousin [24F] right before my wedding. How do I fix this?

So my original post didn't get a lot of attention, but I did get a bunch of hurtful truths that I needed to hear, and some good advice. I figured now that the honeymoon is over I should probably do an update.

The TL;DR version was that through a huge error, I accidentally left my cousin Molly out of the invites for my rehearsal dinner, while inviting all of my other cousins, making me and a__hole, and hurting her feelings.

Anyways, on to the update.

I was still trying to figure out how to apologize to Molly for my oversight and make it up to her. I had pretty much decided to grovel at her feet, and had planned to give up my plate at the rehearsal so she could come and eat and not be left out, and was bouncing ideas off of my fiancee on maybe taking Molly out for lunch a few times after we got back from our honeymoon, because I really did want to repair the relationship.

Anyways, I was out running some last minute errands on Wednesday (had to pick up the tux) and when I came home, I found my fiancee sitting on the sofa, chatting with Molly like they were old friends. (They had only met on Monday at the family get-together my parents threw.)

My fiancee (let's call her Emily) stood up and said "So I told Molly the truth about the rehearsal dinner, and that when I was going through the guest list to bring the numbers down, I didn't recognize her name,...

AITA for taking all of the clothes in my size off the rack so resellers couldn’t grab everything before I looked?

Last week I had time and stopped into a thrift and they were just putting out stuff from their truck. I am never so lucky to be there when that happens, the shops are always very picked over with just Old Navy or Target clothes whenever I can go, so I was happy I might find something.

I started browsing normally and was finding some good stuff for once, then I saw a group of 3 women come in. One had a little computer for scanning books, the other two had ipads or something, I assume to check resale prices? Either way they were clearly resellers and started grabbing stuff after checking labels.

I felt a sense of dread because I wouldn’t be fast enough to check, so I just swooped everything off the rack and into my cart in my size.

When the two got to me they started staring. I said “What?” and one was like “We’d like to be able to see what’s on the rack too.”

I said that they could as soon as I was done.

She scoffed at me and said “That’s rude, we'd like a chance to shop these clothes too.”

I just ignored her and started looking at things one by one, taking my time, then putting them right back on the rack. The women were getting mad and snatching things basically out of my hand. I held up a nice top and one of them tried grabbing it OUT of my hand and I said “Excuse you” and turned my back to her....

AITA for not relinquishing an unexpectedly high value antique to my family?

When I was a small child, my grandfather gave me a small teapot because I thought it was very pretty and I was the only girl. He died two years later, but it stayed in my mother's house until my parents passed away a few years ago. This was my teapot and I collected it from the house. My siblings and I split the rest of the estate equally. The teapot was "just a trinket" and not included.

My husband and I recently found out that the teapot was actually much older and much more valuable than we ever thought. It's worth over 500k, which is over 50x what all us kids got from the estate.

My siblings are furious that I got a "windfall" and that this money should also be split equally. I don't want to. I can put all of my kids through college now and pay off our house, which is what we're going. I feel that the teapot was mine and was always mine (and not part of family money). I don't think they have a claim.

AITA here?

AITA for not buying my coworkers food when they already ordered food?

Okay so I work at a pharmacy and my manager offered to order food for everyone. I declined cause I wasn't really hungry at the moment but the more it got closer to lunch I was a little hungry and my coworkers had already got their food. So I decided to order something small for lunch (not from the same place of course) and when my food came in my one coworker an older lady looked at me with a look of betrayal saying why didn't I order them food or ask them.

I was like you guys already ordered food and I didn't want any so I decided later I wanted one. She got snappy and said I should have offered my hard earned money when I'm literally on a budget atm due to having to pay medical bills from a injury and did not want to spend 30+ dollars in money when user an ordering app that rhymes in floorbash . My other two coworkers both looked at me with a weird look like I'm crazy for not buying them food after they ordered.

Between the looks they gave me and the fact that I could afford paying for (even though it might cause me a set back in paying for my bills) even though it's my money I feel like the jerk kinda even though I know I'm not. so I'm here asking aita for ordering my own food when they my coworkers already got something

AITA Because a coworker was fired for organizing and cleaning my desk without my permission?

Yes you read that right. People are mad at me at work. Let me explain.
So we all have cubicles with high walls that are textured where you can hang things. I suck at decor. While some coworkers including this lady kept their spaces looking like hotel rooms or whatever, mine wasn't bad but it was busy. It was set up so I could find everything I needed for work.

Well one day I come into work and all my papers are things were gone. I look in my cabinets and everything is neatly tucked away. I was a little taken aback and offended. I get to work an hour early so I immediately start searching for everything and putting everything back.

While im looking someone who is higher up, like an assistant manager walks by...whats strange is
1. Shes early too
2. She was walking all the way on my side of the floor where her desk is many rows from mine

So i really think she was there because she saw something after i left the night before
She asks me whats wrong. I tell her someone moved all my stuff. She then tells me to write the director about it.

So i write the email.

Remember, management APPROACHED me. I didn't go running to them.

I proceed to work. The lady comes in and doesn't say anything to me. At the end of the day I look in her cubicle and its cleaned out.

Now people are saying i got her fired. She talked to another coworker claiming...

AITA for not allowing my parents to see my kids anymore?

My husband and I (We're gay) were both raised in very religious environments. I was raised Catholic and my husband raised Christian. His upbringing was much more strict than mine with extreme rules. Needless to say our families weren't happy when we came out the closet. His family kicked him out while mine didn't speak to me for years and just pretended I didn't exist even when I reached out to invite them to my wedding. We been married now for 6 years and we just had our second child (Gale) . When our daughter Caroline (my oldest) was born, my parents apologized to me and said they wanted to get to know my family. We decided to give them a second chance since my husband's family won't even acknowledge us!

I did want my daughter to have grandparents. Due to our upbringing, we decided there would be no religion in our household. We don't go to church or own a bible. If our children decide they want to explore religion then we want it to their choice not because we force them to go to Sunday School for 2 hours every Sunday. We were very clear on this with my parents. We didn't want any religious toys, games, books, or church events invites.

My parents push. I won't go into full detail to keep this from becoming too wordy but we had a few incidents with Caroline such as them taking her to church events. So Gale is 2 months now. My parents have been helping out since she was born with things like groceries...

AITAH for telling my mom I wish she wasn't my mom when she's acting like her husband's daughter is her favorite kid and not me?

My (16f) mom got married four years ago and starting then she has acted like her husband's daughter (14f) is her favorite. She prioritizes the plans she makes with her husband's daughter and she'll cancel on me to make stuff work with her but she never does it the other way around. My mom has last minute canceled a bunch of stuff with me and 9/10 she's with her husband's daughter instead. Other times it's because she has stuff with me and her planned close together and she wants to get errands done first. But I always ask her why she had to cancel with me and why not her.

My mom has a schedule set up for the PS5 and the computer in the house. She'll cut my scheduled time on them short to let her husband's daughter use it but I'm always told I need to wait. She's forever telling me not to be a brat when I refuse to stop using those things early for the girl.

For Christmas my mom promised I could get a new phone since she was the reason my old one was all kinds of fu**ed up. Then a few weeks before Christmas she said they didn't have the money for it anymore and instead she got me a perfume and some gift cards. But her husband's daughter got a $200 purse and she got a drawing tablet worth $350 or something like that. I was so mad and my mom told me not to act so jealous.

BTW my dad and the other girls mom aren't...