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Did you know that Amy Tan was the author of the book The Joy Luck Club, which “explored the relationship between Chinese women and their Chinese-American daughters”? The novel has been translated into 25 different languages since it was first published.

Michelle Obama's Brutally Honest Marriage Advice: "Prepare Yourself For" Discomfort

https://www.spiriolaw.com/The-Latest-News-Blog/2023/1/Michelle-Obamas-Brutally-Honest-Marriage-Advice-Prepare-Yourself-For-Discomfort

As depicted by Michelle Obama’s brutal honesty, marriage is work and not always 50/50. It's more of a pendulum that changes from time to time; one giving more at one point and one giving less at another point, but the bottom line, as she depicts, is that you have must be prepared to be truly uncomfortable and recognize that a marriage is difficult work and there will be times where there will be arguments. It's how you handle those arguments and move forward that matters...and compromise plays a big role. This article also poses some important questions for a couple to consider.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Devan McGuinness, Fatherly(dot)com
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Concetta Spirio. A Compassionate Collaborative Divorce Attorney, Mediator & Peacemaker Providing The Highest Level of Legal Representation For Over 35 Years.

Misunderstandings are hard to prevent. We all come into relationships with our own world views and experiences that shape the way we think, speak, and receive. An unbiased mediator, like me, can help you work through your misunderstandings and come out stronger- both individually and together.

Of course reconciliation is something that happens and sometimes it works out! But for the majority…. There is usually a reason you called it off in the first place. Don’t let loneliness fool you into the Ex trap! Happy

Did you know that Miriam Makeba, nicknamed "Mama Africa," is renowned throughout South Africa and the rest of the continent for her endless activism? She used her global platform as a singer-songwriter to speak against apartheid in the '70s and '80s, calling attention to the plight of black South Africans through her music.

Kathy Whitworth, The Winningest Golfer in History, Dies at 83

https://www.spiriolaw.com/The-Latest-News-Blog/2023/1/Kathy-Whitworth-The-Winningest-Golfer-in-History-Dies-at-83

I find it amazing how many times there are exceptional women in sports and in other areas who have broken records but are never included in conversations when they talk about the best records and male achievers. Here is a perfect example:

Kathy Whitworth is the winningest golfer in history - period - for men and women - but most people don’t even know who she is because everyone talks about Tiger Woods and all of the other male greats, without giving recognition to a woman who has done just as well or better.

Her 88 wins are 6 more than Sam Sneed and Tiger Woods, who hold the record for the men’s game.

As this article depicts, Kathy was a champion in the truest sense of the word, both on and off the golf course. She was an inspiration to many women, and was amazingly kind and generous, not only with her time but also in sharing her skills.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Jacob Lev, cnn(dot)com
Royalty-free photo courtesy of Pixabay

Concetta Spirio. A Compassionate Collaborative Divorce Attorney, Mediator & Peacemaker Providing The Highest Level of Legal Representation For Over 35 Years.

Make communication with your partner one of your top priorities for the new year. If you’re still having trouble seeing eye to eye, give me a call. I, along with an experienced team of professionals, can help you and your partner communicate better than you’ve ever thought possible, even if it is through a dissolution of your marriage.

Happy New Year From Spirio Law!

https://www.spiriolaw.com/The-Latest-News-Blog/2022/12/Happy-New-Year-From-Spirio-Law

As we leave 2022 behind, I wanted to share this hopeful quote below...

Keep some room in your heart for the unimaginable. -Mary Oliver, poet

Wishing all of my friends, family, colleagues and clients a very Happy New Year filled with joy, peace and love.

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Concetta Spirio. A Compassionate Collaborative Divorce Attorney, Mediator & Peacemaker Providing The Highest Level of Legal Representation For Over 35 Years.

If only divorce were as easy as uninstalling an app but with mediation or collaborative divorce, it can be pretty close! If you have any questions about the easiest, most cost-effective ways to get divorced outside of the court system, send me a message or call me for a free consultation- 631-277-8844

Did you know that Mountaineer Junko Tabei shattered gender norms in 1975 when she became the first woman to successfully climb Mount Everest? She strengthened her legacy by later becoming the first woman ever to reach the Seven Peaks (the highest points of the earth's seven continents) in 1992.

It takes two to tango… and two to communicate. Both parties need to listen but also feel that they are being heard. Both parts are equally important! Having trouble communicating? An unbiased third party mediator, like me, can help!

Did you know that Germaine Greer was well known for holding radical feminist views, and her book The Female Eu**ch, published in 1970, was pivotal in post-second wave feminism literature? Her book explores how society imposes expected behaviors on women.

Communication is HARD. It’s even harder when your significant other isn’t saying exactly what they mean or explaining exactly what they need. Try to listen for what isn’t being said and ask questions to get the answers you need to move forward. If you need help with that, a mediator like myself can help get the communication going!

Sometimes hurtful things can be used to motivate you- it all depends on your mindset. Remember, divorce might be an ending but it also is a new beginning. There IS life after divorce!

Did you know that Lt. Heather “Lucky” Penney, after earning her Pilot’s license at age 18, was among the first wave of U.S. female fighter pilots? On September 11, 2001, Penney was chosen for a dangerous mission- to intercept United Airlines Flight 93, which was believed to be headed towards the U.S. Capitol, by ramming the airplane, sacrificing her own life. As we know now, the passengers on Flight 93 fought back against the hijackers, causing the plane to go down in a field in Pennsylvania. Penney went on to fly 2 combat tours in Iraq and now works for the Mitchell Institute for Aerospace Studies, working on defense policy, research, and analysis.

Senate Passes Landmark Protections For Same-Sex Marriage

https://www.spiriolaw.com/The-Latest-News-Blog/2022/12/Senate-Passes-Landmark-Protections-For-Same-Sex-Marriage

Proposed legislation passed by the Senate is not what it appears to be. As depicted in this article, a significant occurrence happened when the Senate passed the proposed bill addressing same s*x marriage. Although this is exciting and may be significant for some, it is in the view of many, insufficient and really does not do what it is portrayed to accomplish. This bill does not legalize same s*x marriage nationally. It only requires states to honor a marriage that is legal elsewhere.

That technically has been the standard that exists in our country already. The principle of “full faith and credit” is supposed to honored where a decree, order, judgment or marriage in this case is legally recognized in one state ais supposed to be universally recognized by all states. However, that has not been the case when it comes to same s*x marriage and the LGBTQ community. Although this bill purports to be a landmark piece of legislation and progress for the LGBTQ community, it is not.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Al Weaver, TheHill(dot)com
Royalty-free photo courtesy of Pixabay

Concetta Spirio. A Compassionate Collaborative Divorce Attorney, Mediator & Peacemaker Providing The Highest Level of Legal Representation For Over 35 Years.

As the holidays quickly approach, you might find yourself in situations where conflict is being actively avoided in order to “keep the peace.” In reality, there is no peace to keep when there is unspoken conflict circling around. Learn how to communicate with your loved ones in a way that moves you both forward and doesn’t ignore the problems that are there.

Behaviors That Can Quickly Turn Your Marriage Into A Toxic Relationship

https://www.spiriolaw.com/The-Latest-News-Blog/2022/12/Behaviors-That-Can-Quickly-Turn-Your-Marriage-Into-A-Toxic-Relationship

People usually think that the major issues for a marriage are infidelity and financial problems, which are often the big ticket items that truly cause the demise of a marriage. These can obviously obliterate or fatally fracture the foundation of any relationship. Again, good communication is the cornerstone to maintaining a good foundation and to heal wounds.

There are also many other small seemingly minor behaviors that can damage a relationship and start the seeds of destruction...it really just takes a little time and effort to pay attention.

The Gottman Institute has identified what they call the four horseman of the apocalypse and identifies four behaviors that they feel can, with 90% certainty, destroy a marriage. They are criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. The video in the article is a good quick tutorial on examples of those behaviors as well as suggestions for solutions.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Fatherly, yourtango(dot)com
Royalty-free photo courtesy of Pixabay

Concetta Spirio. A Compassionate Collaborative Divorce Attorney, Mediator & Peacemaker Providing The Highest Level of Legal Representation For Over 35 Years.