Mindful Tactics

Your attention is a spotlight. Where your attention goes is where you will follow. We get to choose where that attention goes. We can decide where to focus and where not to. If your attention is creating chaos, it's important to recognize that is what is being chosen and choose differently. A few seconds of realization and active choosing of attention can change everything.

Forgive. Forgive it all. Stop drinking the poison and waiting for the other to get sick. Forgive it all and accept. This does not mean tolerate anything else you don't want to it just means its ok it happened. Its ok if you didn't get what you wanted. Its ok that person did what they did. Our responsibility comes in placing those people in the proper positions in our lives. If that position is no position at all then that's what it is. Accept and move on.

Gratitude seems to be the secret weapon in feeling how you want to feel. It seems to be the secret weapon to obtaining what you want also. It is so easy to only look at the negative. Yes, it is harder to find the good in situations, but it is not impossible. Be grateful for what you have. On our worst days there are allot of people that would trade positions.

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Allow it to wash over you and it will. Allow it to become your identity and it will. It is our choice. Do you want it to only hurt and distress or does allowing it to also teach you something you can be proud of make just as much sense? Do you want to be the hero or the victim?

What is the fear from change that we actually fear? Is it just the change? Is it the possibility of failure? Is it the unknown? When i ask myself this i think well i have changed before. I think well i have failed before. I also think well i have been countless places and situations in my life i did not know where i was at. It is time to let that fear of what is unknown stop me from obtaining. It will definitely not stop me from trying any longer.

I accept. I accept it for what it is. I know what it is and it is allowed to be that. I do not need anything redefined. I do not need any explanations. I do not need any convincing. How am i so sure that's how it was supposed to happen? Because that's what happened. I just accept. Its ok. At worst it may bring up feelings i don't want to have by setting the seed in my thoughts but even in that it gives me the opportunity to change those thoughts. It gives me the chance to catch those seeds going in instead of after they have been digested for who knows how long. If it comes out i define it. Accept it. Move on

I like being the observer. I like that things can happen and they are not personalized. I like that my first question is always why. Why did they say that? What does that mean to me? What are they going through that made them feel this was the way? I also like letting people be who they are. As long as they are not lying to themselves and in return trying to manipulate me i want you to be who you want to be. I am no longer here to save anyone. I still want to help more than ever but the times of not sharing what i feel is important to protect others feelings is over. Becoming an authentic self is allot of work but rewarding when you realize we all create and nothing can make me feel any way that i dont want to feel.

Never forget how powerful the words you speak are. They are spells. They are manifesting tools. Be careful how you react and what you say. When we make a mistake and we are hard on ourselves by introducing negative self-talk we are casting a spell on ourselves that we don't realize. As soon as i realize i am partaking in negative self-talk i find five things that i can be proud of. I will repeat those things until i feel better. I feel like every time you catch yourself speaking negatively about yourself or your actions we need to immediately reframe the things that we are saying. Some examples of this are "how could i be so reckless?" to "what is slowing down trying to bring to light" Things happen and that can be the extent. Remember our words are spells and the universe is listening.

Self esteem can be broken down to two categories. The first being self efficacy. This is our ability to think of ourselves as competent. The second is self respect. The ability to be able to see ourselves being able to be loved by someone else and do the things we feel we should do.

Why is such an important question. When you start asking why life seems to slow down just a little bit. You need a few seconds to try and answer that question why before moving forward. When i ask why it is always pointed back at me. I do not ask why did someone do that but instead i ask why was that going to be my reaction or why was that my initial thought that led me to feel a certain way. You can get your thinking down to a science with the help of thinking models. I still have reactions without thinking first and after those reactions i get filled with regret. Regret that i had an oppurtunity to do something different. The regret is one single thought becuase i refuse to ruminate. You can decide how you agree to feel and how you refuse to feel. Our feelings and our actions/reactions are in out control.

Be the vibration that you want to see more of. Be the person you want to see more of.

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