Caliber Counseling

For those of you who I have not had the chance to meet yet, my name is Jess. I am q***r, trans and a trauma therapist, somatic coach and consultant who finds great satisfaction in exploring the deep places of life with my amazing clients.
As we are entering the month where we recognize PRIDE I have been struggling to find a way feel the spirit of celebration. Folks, I am tired, and I am hurting and the cost of being q***r in our world is weighing crushingly heavy upon my shoulders.
Friends, the fear of either being physically pushed around or having the cops called on me anytime I have to use the restroom is growing heavy.
Sitting with clients who are bullied and mistreated for being gay grows heavy.
The constant misgendering by those who know me and who have been corrected many times, grows heavy.
Fighting for access to healthcare and fighting biased medical systems grows heavy.
Grieving with my friends and clients as they are denied medical care by gatekeepers grows heavy.
The emails and texts of accusation and hate from the Christian community grows heavy.
Holding space for clients who have been kicked out of their homes and removed from their families for being q***r grows heavy.
Regularly fighting with the school system to resist their homophobic and transphobic acts against our family and the friends of our kids grows heavy.
Hearing regularly in the media how trans folks are subhuman, not worthy of basic respect grows heavy.
Listening to so many counselors claim to be LGBTQIA+ friendly to gain clients while they have not done the work to educate themselves or work through their internal biases, so they keep doing harm, grows heavy.
Folks- I want to celebrate, but right now I am having a hard time drying the tears from my eyes. If you don’t like q***r folks I would beg of you to please choose kindness to your fellow humans. If you consider yourself to be an ally, I would beg of you to do your internal work and to use your voice to elevate and defend q***r voices. Q***r folks, lets support each other, love each other and give each other grace.
One day, I believe, one day the weight will be lessened and q***r folks will be treated as human. But today, under the weight, we cry, we fight and yes, we dance.

Kindynos is excited to start her new mini series- Kindynos Knows!

Someone posted this on the pic in my bathroom at work and I am really hoping it is one of my clients. :)

SANAE, the mental health Tarot deck is becoming a reality! Please join the journey and share with others! We are excited to experience the exploration together.

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Our office plants a year ago and today! Celebrating healing and growth in our people and plants today.

On Trans day of remembrance let us pause to grieve those who have loss their lives due to transphobia, bias, lack of support and 'fake' care. Once we have paused let us find ways we can actively support our trans folx, let us refuse to allow the mistreatment of our trans youth and let us notice with bravery the places where transphobia shows up inside of us and work to change it.

National coming out day is a few days past, but I wanted to take a moment to celebrate being ***rAF, , . This year has taught me a lot as I have not been able to hide my q***rness, for safety, in ways that were accessible in the past. This has been vitally liberating and and in moments dreadfully terrifying. I have had experiences of connection with folx that I never expected to find community with and found that some folx couldn't see me through their cis/straight lens. I have had the opportunity to do moments of life with badass clients who are my inspiration and who I am so honored to have met. You all are perfect, brave and the world is better with you in it!

A moment in a counselors' world- fidgets for a neurodiverse brain, green tea that didn't quite stay in the cup, cool yard sale lamps and the plants that always bring a smile. And Kindynos is playing therapist (or maybe she just loves the soft blanket ;))

I both love and hate my morning glories. They give me bright, bold flowers that allow a smile to sink into my being and also I know they will be gone before the day is over. In theory I know and accept that everything is impermanent- sometimes it it the fact that soothes my soul, but when the things I love start to shrivel... when the things I value start to filter through my fingers like sand.. I feel the sharp spike of realizing that even the dearest of things will come to an end. My friend, I challenge us to not crush the morning glories in fear of losing their beauty- instead let us enjoy the moment, cherish the times worth having, soak in the love if we can.. if won't last forever, but it is beautiful for the now.

Let's take a moment to see and hear each other today!

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Celebrating risk, celebrating loss and celebrating life..

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This is an intense, excruciating and beautiful journey