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A person can make something happen because of their commitment to make it be so…

But when a person forces something to happen, power is absent.

How has this concept shown up in your life?

When you show up for a meeting are your peers and employees prepared to speak with you? Why or why not?

Do they respect you in a way that has them show up ready for the meeting?

Is it your “fault” or theirs? In other words, can you create an opening in your mind that has you see that who you are being in their lives has a direct impact on how they show up to the meeting and how they show up generally for you?

Can you identify where this is at play in your life?

What is the difference you see in reacting vs. responding to life’s situations and circumstances?

What’s it like for you internally when you react? What does that produce?

What’s it like for you internally when you respond? What does that produce and how is it different?

What’s it like for you when you agree to get something done and you get it done as you say you will, and when you say you will?

Why?

When you show up to a meeting and say to yourself, “I already know this,” what do you stand to gain from that meeting?

Likewise, if you talk with a team member or employee and say or think, “I know, I know” how impactful is that interaction for you? For them?

When presented with the same problem that someone has been nagging you about for months, do you say, “I know exactly what needs to be done"? If so, why haven’t you just done that?! The Power is not in the Knowing, it’s in the Process of Discovery.

Try this principle on in your life. Observe how approaching conversations with “maybe I don’t know” can transform your ability to hear and your ability to perform.

A big part of the nature of our work at Ontocore is to help people learn how to interact with themselves effectively.

It’s rare for a person to think about thinking. They think...they know they’re thinking, but they don’t think about the way they’re thinking. That leaves them really believing what they’re thinking like it’s true like it’s the way that it is. Yet, it’s almost never the way they think it is. When one operates this way, they are moving through their lives behaving consistently with what they believe to be true, but what is actually not accurate.

How is it possible for a person to know they are right, and still not be right? What example can you share?

Many believe that power is out there, away from themselves, is that how you see it? Why or why not?

Are you open to the idea that the most influential leaders of all time understand that access to power is within you?

Can you identify how to access power in your life and how to use this power to accomplish the things you most desire?

In order for a person to have faith, they must first behave consistently with the thing they desire to have faith in.

This means that over time and as a practice, you would have yourself in places and would be doing things that are consistent with the desired faith.

In so doing, the result will be increased faith in that thing.

Disagreeing seems pointless.

Pointing out the flaws would be dangerous.

Heaven forbid if you see things from a different perspective.
Nothing will change their mind on this matter so the only option is to keep quiet and let them tell you why their way is right.

But rest assured, you’re never going to agree with them, because you are right, and you sure aren’t going to do what they want you to do. Sound familiar?

Think about your most important relationships; which person are you most often in this example? What is one way to instantly change the experience each of you have of this relationship?

Where have you seen this become most apparent in your life?

Have you noticed that there are certain people in your life whom you would move mountains for and there are others that you wouldn't kick an anthill over for?

Your behavior in the relationship is impacted by them in some way.
This is called Power.

What produces this power in personal/professional relationships?

Which relationships are working powerfully for you in your personal and professional life? Why?

What do you believe is at the root of power in YOUR life and in YOUR relationships?

Allowing your circumstances to affect who you are being and how you “show up” is one of the most common struggles humans have.

You are a powerful being and when you are able to connect to your power, you will no longer be a slave to what is happening outside of you.

What mindset shift is necessary for you to more powerfully and intentionally lead yourself, independent of your circumstances?