Peaceful Birth Method

Pushing is often the hardest time for parents to advocate.

Moms can be exhausted.

Perhaps they're just getting past transition.

The sudden rush of people entering the room can feel overwhelming to partner's nervous system.

It's one thing to advocate when you're in your rhythm and things are going smoothly.

It's another to advocate when strangers are entering the room, both parents are exhausted and hungry from a long labor...

And suddenly an assumed authority figure is telling you what's best.

This is why the typical path for birth education is not sufficient.

What are you going to do in a heightened moment when everything you've learned goes out the window?

👉🏻 Here's what most parent don't know: there's a difference between information and integration.

My private coaching clients learn how to integrate advocacy tools.

So you're not drawing on a tip that your birth educator shared six weeks ago at your birth class.

You're drawing from something you deeply understand in your body, because you've practiced and integrated it.

This is an example of how SIMPLE advocacy can be when you understand what to say so well, you can access it even when your nervous system is activated.

My private coaching clients achieve birth outcomes 9x better than the national average.

You don't need generic advice, you need a strategy.

👉🏻 Comment BIRTH and I’ll send you the foundational 5 step framework we use to get these results. 💖

With love,
Victoria

Birth can be so many things at the same time.

Hard and also empowering.

Painful and also ecstatic.

Intense and also joyful.

Birth is about learning to hold many things as true at the same time. 💕

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With love,
Victoria

Does having an epidural = birthing on your back?

Of course not.

But what if my provider says I have to birth on my back with an epidural?

They're lying to you.

With an epidural, you have agency:

👉🏻 You can labor in whatever position you choose, so long as you stay in the bed. Hands-and-knees and side-lying are great positions.

👉🏻 You can choose to labor down instead of pushing right at at 10cm.

👉🏻 You can control the medicine to give you a little feeling back.

My private coaching clients achieve birth outcomes 9x better than the national average when it comes to avoid tearing and cesarean.

You don't need generic advice, you need a strategy.

👉🏻 Comment BIRTH and I’ll send you the foundational 5 step framework we use to get these results. 💖

With love,
Victoria

Rushing a mother and baby is a product of a system that prioritizes efficiency over outcomes.

Care providers have other patients to see and things to do.

And it's not their fault.

Often, care providers want to give families as much time as they can. They want to be supportive.

But they have to operate under profit-oriented policies that benefit the hospitals, not the families.

But you deserve access to uninterrupted skin-to-skin for as long as you need.

Uninterrupted skin-to-skin improves outcomes.

👉🏻 Your body naturally adjusts its temperature to warm your baby.

👉🏻 Your baby's vitals are supported in stabilizing.

👉🏻 Through skin-to-skin, you release oxytocin, which reduces your risk for heavy bleeding.

👉🏻 Bacteria on your chest stimulates your baby's gut microbiome.

👉🏻 When we leave babies alone, they often initiate feeding independently.

But there's a difference between knowing that skin-to-skin is something you want and knowing how to actually advocate and protect that choice.

My three-step framework for advocacy is:

1️⃣ Understand the risks, benefits, and alternatives.

2️⃣ Have tools to make choices from love rather than fear.

3️⃣ Have communication tools so you know how to be collaborative in your care.

My private coaching clients achieve birth outcomes 9x better than the national average by following these steps.

You don't need generic advice, you need a strategy.

👉🏻 Comment BIRTH and I’ll send you the foundational 5 step framework we use to get these results. 💖

With love,
Victoria

The language that you use matters.

It's very common during birth to face moments of self-doubt, and feel like you can't do it anymore.

It's kind of like running a marathon.

Your mind might not know that you can do it, but then the body does it anyway.

When you're going through birth, you may have moments of self-doubt where your language wants to turn towards the fear.

Don't let it.

Instead, say out loud, "I can do this, I can do this, I can do this."

Say, "I am soft. I am open."

Say, "I trust you. I trust you. I trust you."

If it gets too hard to say, have someone else say it for you.

If you can't keep your attention on positive language internally...

And it feels too overwhelming to say out loud...

Keep your attention hearing the affirmation externally.

96% of my private coaching clients have an unmedicated birth.

You don't need generic advice, you need a strategy.

👉🏻 Comment BIRTH and I’ll send you the foundational 5 step framework we use to get these results. 💖

With love,
Victoria

Isis says: “I’m a completely different woman now compared to who I was when we walked into this very first session with you.

Back then I was still filled with fear and doubts, with just a little spark of hope.

You nurtured that spark and helped grow it into a burning flame - a flame of trust, in my body, in my baby, and the process. A flame of resilience, that carried me through every moment of my beautiful birth. And ultimately, a flame of the woman I needed to become.

When the version of me who showed up that night... she was stronger, calmer, more grounded, and so much more capable than I ever imagined possible... especially when nothing went according to plan- even when there were complications she remained steady and calm.

I don’t know if I couldn’t have stepped into that version of myself without you.

The tools I gained from our 1 on 1 sessions are exactly what kept me from giving up or running to the hospital when things got hard.

Your teachings are what allowed me to stay centered, determined, and leaning into the hardest of moments.

And honestly, without those tools... I don’t know if I ever would have even made it to that point - because I could have easily gotten swept up in the medical industry’s fear driven narrative and caved to their pressure for an automatic cesarean.

Your guidance is what kept me anchored in my truth, my power, and my intuition- instead of succumbing to misplaced fear.

Thank you for everything you taught me, everything you held for me, and everything you poured into this journey. It mattered, possibly more than you know, so that’s why i’m telling you now.

You rock”

My private coaching clients achieve birth outcomes 9x better than the national average.

You don’t need generic advice, you need a strategy.

👉🏻 Comment BIRTH and I’ll send you the foundational 5 step framework we use to get these results. 💖

With love,
Victoria

Mama:
Midwife:

Speak to yourself the way you would want your child to speak to themselves.

You will not be perfect at this.

But the goal is never to be perfect.

It's just about being committed to returning to loving yourself whenever you stray.

That is what your children will remember, and that is what they will learn.

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With love,
Victoria

The best position to birth your baby is the one that feels best to you.

Being in the position that allows you to deliver your baby in a slow and controlled way, because you can relax and feel safe, is most optimal.

The problem is that many parents feel coerced into getting on their back, even though that does not feel like the safest or most optimal position for them.

Here is what different types of coercion look like during delivery:

💖 Physical Force: Actively holding your legs back without your consent, or pulling you into a specific position,.

💖 Threat-Based Language: Using fear or implied punishment to guarantee compliance.

This sounds like, "If you don't lay on your back right now, your baby is going to be in danger," when both you and the baby are actually stable and there is no true emergency.

💖 The Illusion of Choice: Phrasing a medical intervention or a position change as a mandate, leaving you feeling like you do not have the option to say no.

This looks like a provider walking in and saying, "Alright, I'm going to flip you onto your back now" instead of asking for your consent.

💖 Withholding Information: Only presenting the benefits of the provider's preferred option, while only presenting the worst-case scenario risks of your preferred option.

💖 Time Pressure: Creating a false sense of urgency to rush your decision when your vitals are fine, preventing you from having a moment to think or discuss it with your partner.

I recommend...

👉🏻 Ask your providers directly: do you support birth in positions other than my back? What if I have an epidural?

👉🏻 Read reviews and stories from moms who birthed with your provider or at that hospital.

👉🏻 Have a designated advocate who is trained around advocacy for positioning and delivery.

My private coaching clients achieve birth outcomes 9x better than the national average.

You don't need generic advice, you need a strategy.

👉🏻 Comment BIRTH and I’ll send you the foundational 5 step framework we use to get these results. 💖

With love,
Victoria

Warm compresses are excellent tools to reduce pain and tearing during birth.

Here are some benefits:

💖 It increases blood flow to the perineal tissues, allowing them to soften, stretch, and expand naturally.

💖 Research has found that it can reduce the risk of tearing.

💖 Research has found that it reduces pain scores.

What 91% of my private coaching clients do not tear!

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With love,
Victoria