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What blowing up a beach ball can teach you about breaking free of the toxic relationship cycle 👇🏻

When my partner and I were taking Brooke to the beach last week I was in charge of blowing up the beach ball…. By mouth. 😮‍💨😮‍💨

In the beginning, it looked like blowing it up on my own was impossible.

I started blowing as hard as I could and not seeing any sign that it was inflating 🙄

I thought to myself “can I even blow this thing up? Like should I even bother trying?” “This is never going to work”

But to keep from having a disappointed 9 year old, I was determined to keep going. 💪🏻

I continued to blow and rest as needed

And little by little, I saw it beginning to come into its shape. 🤗

I became more hopeful that it wasn’t a lost cause!

And the more that I blew the bigger it got until it had reached its full form.

The same goes for breaking the toxic relationship cycle 🦋

In the beginning this healed version of you + your relationships seems so far away

You put in so much effort but see little improvement, if any at all 🥲

You get disappointed & your ego steps in and tells you to quit 🗣

but you’re determined to keep going because you know that all of the effort will be worth it in the end

And little by little you begin to see shifts in yourself

🦋You’re starting to notice people are responding to you differently and the new people you’re attracting totally align with you

🦋You no longer wait to be chosen and start asking yourself “do I choose them?”

🦋You recognize you’re no longer an energetic match for toxicity and you’re actually repelled by it

🦋You’re confident in who you are and what you bring to the table so settling for less isn’t an option

🦋You notice you’ve stopped chasing and looking for external sources to soothe you

🦋You stopped performing in hopes of earning love and just know you’re worthy of it as you are

🦋You feel whole and complete on your own and are no longer preoccupied with searching for love

And you look back and say holy s**t. I did it.

If you know that you’re ready to put in the work so that you can create the love you desire, id love to support you with this, shoot me a DM, let’s chat ❤️

Want to know what’s on the other side of the toxic relationship cycle? 👇🏻

Brooke and I just spent 5 days vacationing in Florida with my partner, Paul and my heart is SO full 🥰

What I love about our relationship is that it’s loving, consistent & predictable (without being boring 😉)

We bring out the best in each other

We allow each other to be the fullest expressions of ourselves without judgement

We respect each others boundaries

We are encouraging and supportive of each others hopes, dreams, careers, and personal
development

We make each other laugh until we have tears in our eyes (he likes to think he’s the funny one in the relationship but I really think it’s me 😉)

We have the same goals and vision for our future which we talk about regularly (marriage, more children, him adopting my daughter, making an impact in the world with our careers etc)

There is mutual give and take and reciprocated effort between us

We wholeheartedly trust one another

Our communication is on point and even the “hard” conversations flow easily and productively

we both feel safe being vulnerable and showing all parts of ourselves

And it’s obvious through our words and actions that we cherish each other deeply

TBH - The only reason I have this relationship is because I believed I could have it

Because I healed within me the parts that believed I was unlovable and not good enough

Because I raised my standards and wouldn’t let myself be available for anything fu***ng less

Because I unapologetically stepped into my authentic self and stopped conforming to who everyone else wanted me to be

Because I stopped needing a relationship to fix me and I decided to feel whole and complete without one

And because I got really good at letting my guard down and allowed myself to receive rather than using my independence as a protective barrier

This type of healing + relationship IS attainable for you

And if you’re ready to finally be done with the toxic relationship cycle so you can call it in, shoot me a DM ❤️

Unpopular opinion 🤷🏼‍♀️

People stay congruent with who they think they are….. which is why we have GOT to stop using labels 🙅🏼‍♀️

I use them in my content because it’s the way that you can relate but I see so many people saying :

“My codependency”
“My anxious attachment”
“My attachment style”
“My abuser”
“My avoidant”

Or
“I am anxious attached”
“I am codependent”
“I am depressed”
“I am a love addict”

The words that you say matter and when we speak in this way we are actually CLAIMING these symptoms as part of our identity.

You in your whole aren’t what you’re experiencing… only parts of you

So here is what you can say instead

💛“Parts of me are experiencing parts that feel anxious attachment”

💛“Parts of me are experiencing codependent patterns”

💛“Parts of me are experiencing depression”

💛“Parts of me are experiencing symptoms of love addiction”

When we speak in these terms it allows us to detach from the identity of what we’re experiencing and allowing us to release it at an accelerated level 👏🏻👏🏻

How are you going to use this moving forward?👇🏻

💓CLIENT WIN💓
My client came to me struggling with

💔Cycling in and out of toxic relationships

💔Meeting emotionally unavaiable men

💔Settling for less than she deserved

💔a lack of love for herself

💔struggling to set healthy boundaries

💔and healing from narcissitic abuse

After going through Empowered Academy she was able to:
💓Raise her self esteem dramatically
💓Became comfortable with who she is and what she has to offer in a relationship
💓She has gained so much love and respect for herself
💓has learned to set healthy boundaries and gain respect from others
💓And is now dating a wonderful man who exudes green flags

im so happy for her and her healing 👏🏻👏🏻

A breakdown always precedes a breakthrough (if you have the proper tools)

The triggering experience I had the other day (if you missed the post check out my profile) could have knocked me back and caused me to revert back to old patterns of self destruction and self sabotage 🙅🏼‍♀️

but the place between where I was and where I am now is much different…

because I’m equipped with all the tools, frameworks, and mindset shifts that I need, I was able to

reclaim my power

release my triggering experience

and go about having a great rest of my day in less than 12 hours from the moment I got triggered at 3am.

This is what it looked liked :

🦋I processed my emotions properly instead of suppressing, avoiding, or self sabotaging

🦋I showed up for my clients and gave loads of value instead of isolating

🦋I continued on with work as usual instead of shutting down and being preoccupied

🦋I was sweet and loving to my boyfriend instead of reactive and irritated

🦋And my daughter and I had a wonderful evening walk with our dog Rosie before making dinner together instead of being short and distant with her

Triggers will always happen no matter how much healing work you have done…

But what matters is the bounce back rate

How quickly you can recover

And what lesson you can take away from the experience

If you want to be to take back control of your emotions instead of getting wrapped up in a downward self sabotage spiral, I’d love to support you with this 🙌🏻

Shoot me a dm, let’s chat

Xoxo ,
Morgan

I woke up at 3am and bawled my eyes out

The last few weeks have been hellish inside my brain.

I’ve been trying to understand the lesson behind a traumatic experience that is currently unfolding for me.

A experience that is causing me to feel powerless, like a small child with no control.

And last night at 3am, overwhelming anxiety woke me out of my sleep and all I could do was cry and beg God to show me why this is happening and what lesson I can take away from it.

Feeling powerless is a core wound of mine and had been a recurring theme in my life for many years.

Powerless to men

Powerless to my circumstances

Powerless to my own thoughts and actions

But in those areas with much deep work and consistency, Ive been able to take my power back and regain my control. (Which is a big reason as to why my brand is all about Women Empowerment)

However this core wound of powerlessness is resurfacing in an area where the fate of what’s happening is beyond my control (which is incredibly infuriating)

So these are the mindset shifts that are getting me through 👇🏻

I’m choosing to believe that this core wound is resurfacing so that I can up level & heal it once and for all.

I’m choosing to believe that this core wound is resurfacing so that I can reach a deeper level of trust and surrender.

I’m choosing to believe that I can fall apart only to be put back together in ways that are so amazing that I can’t even comprehend it yet

And when it’s all done I’ll say “yep, now I understand why it had to happen this way”.

If you’re going through something that you can’t make sense of…

If you’re feeling like everything is falling apart…

I hope this helped ❤️

Yikes this is a cringy confession 😅

I used to get extremely jealous of my brother + sister in laws marriage. 😳

 When I was in an on and off toxic relationship that ultimately left me being a single mother when my daughter was 2, I couldn’t stand the thought or sight of happy couples. 🙅🏼‍♀️

It felt like seeing them happy amplified my loss and to be quite honest it enraged me. 🤬

Why did they get to be happy and I didn’t? 

Why did they get the picture perfect family and I didn’t? 

Why did they get to have a happily ever after and I didn’t? 

And this deep aching I felt in my heart lead me to seek out relationship after relationship, hoping I would stumble upon the man who would “save me” from it all. 😍

But unfortunately all that did was make me an easy target for narcissistic and toxic men that had no desire to have a commitment with me.

Which left me even more heartbroken than I was before + made me feel like something was wrong with me. 💔

What I came to realize after years of experiencing this cycle was -

I had to be grateful for what I had and where I was at.

I had to choose to feel whole & complete on my own.

I had to accept my single relationship status instead of constantly trying to control and change it out of fear and desperation.

I had to literally GET OFF THE SUBJECT and focus on creating a life that I was totally on fire about instead of looking for someone to help me escape from the void I felt. 

When we can do THAT

be at peace with who we are

and become the version of ourselves that feels whole & complete on our own

We won’t have to chase…

We will become a MAGNET for the relationship that we want. 

And it will feel delicious & fulfilling on a level that you’ve never felt before.

You go first, and the universe responds ❤️

Did this resonate with you? Let me know your thoughts

What we can learn from the Tinder Swindler

Man… did Simon come in HOT flaunting his charisma, designer clothes, and extravagant life style

For any woman who is desperate for love of course this was a total fantasy come true 💁🏼‍♀️

He swoops in

🚫Confesses his love QUICKLY and OVERWHELMINGLY

🚫Drops everything to be by your side

🚫Makes extravagant acts of love & gives constant and consistent attention

🚫He seemingly saves you from all the pain + heartbreak you’ve experienced your whole life

🚫And gives you a sense of worthiness and accomplishment that a man of this caliber picked you.

(All love bombing tactics) 😱

Which is everything you’ve been hoping and dreaming of since you were scribbling in your notebook in 7th grade

If it seems too good to be true it usually is 🤷🏼‍♀️

When we are infatuated with someone (or the facade they put on) the judgment part of our brain deactivates which means your ability to make sound + logical decisions go out the window.

Making you a very easy target for manipulation and love bombing and self abandonment in order to keep their “love”. 💔

If you want to keep yourself from falling into similar patterns with toxic suitors 👇🏻

You must recognize red flags and decide to choose yourself over the need to have this person “be the one” ✨

You must understand what part of you is desperate for love and why ✨

You must set boundaries of what you will and will not tolerate in a relationship (and stick to them)✨

And when you no longer tolerate this behavior... when someone love bombs you or steps over your boundaries, you automatically repel them. 🙌🏻

In fact, they don't even TRY anymore. It just stops happening altogether. 👏🏻👏🏻

In fact... you start attracting people who not only don't violate your boundaries, they HONOR and APPRECIATE them. They find them sexy. They find them beautiful. 🥰🥰

And the best part? Their appreciation of your boundaries... their validation of you... even though you now have it, you no longer even need it. 🤩

That is true healing.

Want to experience this 'coming home' to yourself? This is exactly the work my clients and I dig into together. Send me a DM for more info. ❤

That deep void you feel… you know the one that you keep trying to fill with short term relationship after short term relationship…

The one that keeps you wishing and waiting for a man to come along and save you…

The one that no matter how much you try to avoid it or fill its gaping emptiness, it's always there…

Now I know that this is a hard pill to swallow and I’m sorry to say that NOTHING and I mean NOTHING in the external world is going to fill it 😪

🙅🏼‍♀️Not your achievements

🙅🏼‍♀️Not the boyfriends

🙅🏼‍♀️Not the external validation

🙅🏼‍♀️Not the shopping

🙅🏼‍♀️Not the food, alcohol, or Xanax

I mean, sure, it’ll numb the pain for a little while..

But once the high wears off you’ll be right back to where you started.

Leaving you always chasing something that’s impossible to catch.

This was the cycle I ran for 13 years of my life.

That left me used, abused, and heartbroken 💔

And what I came to realize was that the void I felt had to be HEALED, not filled. 🙌🏻

I had to get uncomfortable and look within myself to see where this void was coming from.😮‍💨

I had to give myself the love that I continuously sought out from others.💓

I had to save myself because no one was going to do it for me.💪🏻

And on the other side of that is everything that I had been wishing for.😊

The joy, the peace, the relationships, the happiness. All of it. 💃🏼👩🏼‍❤️‍👨🏼👩‍👧👯‍♀️

I wish so badly someone would have told me these and given me a way out which is why I’m compelled to share this message with you.

So that you know that there IS light at the end of the tunnel

And if you need help finding it… send me a DM or comment “light” below