Radiant Redemption

You Are Allowed to Change Your Mind

Can I tell you something I'm learning to give myself permission to do? Change my mind. That sounds incredibly simple. But for someone who has spent a lot of her life second-guessing herself, worrying about disappointing people, and trying desperately to prove that she can follow through... changing my mind can feel a lot like failure. If I said I wanted something, shouldn't I keep wanting it?...

You Are Allowed to Change Your Mind Can I tell you something I’m learning to give myself permission to do? Change my mind. That sounds incredibly simple. But for someone who has spent a lot of her life second-guessing herself, …

Becoming Her

A Prayer for the Woman Who Is Still Becoming I've spent a lot of my life trying to become her. You probably know the woman I'm talking about. She's healthier than I am. More confident. More patient. More disciplined. She doesn't overthink. She isn't afraid of disappointing people. She always knows what to say. She handles conflict beautifully. Her house is probably clean....

Becoming Her A Prayer for the Woman Who Is Still Becoming I’ve spent a lot of my life trying to become her. You probably know the woman I’m talking about. She’s healthier than I am. More confi…

The Women Who Carried Me

I need to tell you the truth about my recovery. I didn't do this alone. There is a temptation, when we tell stories years later, to clean them up. We remember the decisions we made. The boundaries we learned. The courage we found. The work we did. And slowly, without meaning to, the story starts sounding like one woman's incredible journey of transformation....

The Women Who Carried Me I need to tell you the truth about my recovery. I didn’t do this alone. There is a temptation, when we tell stories years later, to clean them up. We remember the decisions we made. The bound…

Ordinary Life Is a Miracle

Can I tell you something I've been noticing lately? My life is remarkably ordinary. There are dishes in the sink. Laundry that somehow multiplies faster than I can wash it. Kids who need rides. Work schedules. Grocery lists. Bills. Dinner that needs to be figured out again even though I swear we just ate yesterday. There are mornings when I'm tired....

Ordinary Life Is a Miracle Can I tell you something I’ve been noticing lately? My life is remarkably ordinary. There are dishes in the sink. Laundry that somehow multiplies faster than I can wash it. Kids who need ride…

The Courage to Be Seen

Can I tell you something I'm still learning? Being loved and being known are not the same thing. For a long time, I desperately wanted to be loved. I wanted people to approve of me. To think I was a good person. A good wife. A good mom. A good friend. Someone who had it together. Someone worth keeping around....

The Courage to Be Seen Can I tell you something I’m still learning? Being loved and being known are not the same thing. For a long time, I desperately wanted to be loved. I wanted people to approve of me. To think …

What If Nothing Needs Fixing Today?

Can I tell you something I've been learning? I am really good at finding things to work on. Give me five quiet minutes and I can probably identify something about myself that could use improvement. A conversation I could have handled better. A habit I should change. A relationship I need to examine. A goal I haven't reached. A part of myself that still needs healing....

What If Nothing Needs Fixing Today? Can I tell you something I’ve been learning? I am really good at finding things to work on. Give me five quiet minutes and I can probably identify something about myself that could use improv…

The Loneliness of Becoming Different

Can I tell you something I've been learning? Sometimes healing is lonelier than I expected it would be. No one really prepares you for that. We talk about the courage it takes to ask for help. The hard work of rebuilding trust. Learning healthy boundaries. Finding freedom from addiction. But we don't talk much about the quiet loneliness that can settle in when your life no longer looks like it used to....

The Loneliness of Becoming Different Can I tell you something I’ve been learning? Sometimes healing is lonelier than I expected it would be. No one really prepares you for that. We talk about the courage it takes to ask for help…

Learning to Like Myself

Can I tell you something I've been learning? For most of my life, I thought my job was to become someone I could finally be proud of. If I could just lose the weight. Stop making mistakes. Get healthier. Become a better wife. A better mom. A better Christian. A better friend. Then maybe… Maybe I would finally like the woman staring back at me in the mirror....

Learning to Like Myself Can I tell you something I’ve been learning? For most of my life, I thought my job was to become someone I could finally be proud of. If I could just lose the weight. Stop making mistakes. Ge…

The Parts of Me I Thought I’d Outgrow

For a while, I thought healing meant becoming a completely different person. I imagined there would come a day when fear stopped knocking. When shame finally packed its bags and left. When people-pleasing disappeared. When insecurity no longer whispered in my ear. When telling the truth became effortless. When vulnerability no longer made my stomach turn. I thought there would be this invisible finish line where I could finally say,...

The Parts of Me I Thought I’d Outgrow For a while, I thought healing meant becoming a completely different person. I imagined there would come a day when fear stopped knocking. When shame finally packed its bags and left. When people-p…

Becoming Rooted

A Letter to the Woman Who Thought She Had Lost Everything I know you're scared. I know you haven't been sleeping. I know your mind is racing through every possible outcome and almost all of them end in disaster. I know you're staring at the wreckage of your life wondering how things got this far. I know you're carrying shame so heavy it feels like it's crushing the air out of your lungs....

Becoming Rooted A Letter to the Woman Who Thought She Had Lost Everything I know you’re scared. I know you haven’t been sleeping. I know your mind is racing through every possible outcome and almost al…