Emerging Brilliance

My world based on lies and taking care of everyone and everything unraveled 25 years ago.

I was working in computers in high tech. The pace was incredible, the commute was 50 minutes each way (not bad in the Bay Area, but bad enough!). I had two kids and a spouse who traveled a LOT.

I was completely wiped out from the stress and pace - chronic fatigue, joint pain, insomnia, panic attacks, off the charts PMS moods, back pain. I kept it together for the company and the family.

Until my husband witnessed a panic attack at 5 AM one morning and gently asked me to get some help.

One step I took was to hire a coach to help me find my way out of that almost 20 year career and find out who I was.

We'd been working several months when I came to a session with a headache - in both of my temples. It had been there a few days.

She had me close my eyes and visualize what was happening in my head. I saw a caged animal, about the size of a cat and look of a cat. But stronger. It was pacing back and forth, banging its head into the sides of the cage (my temples!)

Then I saw that the cage door was open! That it and I could leave any time, but just couldn't break the pattern, or get past the fear.

My coach had me cuddle the animal and then let it be to leave the cage. It did leave in a few minutes. And my headache went away.

And within a few days I gave notice at my job.

And the thing I was most afraid of (letting go of what I knew even though it caused me pain) was what I needed the most - it opened up an incredible array of blessings.

Freedom!

May you step out of your cage towards what you fear and desire the most. It's your turn now.

Ask for help - spiritual or physical.

I invite you to join my group - Women Over 50, It's Your Turn Now - for more insights, inspiration, and community. https://tinyurl.com/over50yourturn

Beautiful Sunday Morning...

HOW DO I BECOME VISIBLE AGAIN?
Lots of women coming into my private "It's Your Turn Now" group (https://nancyhugmontier.lpages.co/90-day-awaken-program) write that they are suddenly invisible, irrelevant, not needed and want to change it.
What's the price you pay for feeling that way? You play small, you make it mean too much, you spin your wheels on something that gets you nowhere. You miss your new talents and beauty.
Women in my program start to find relevance in unexpected ways. They become visible to themselves again, and then visible in the world. They notice the new parts to themselves, and capitalize on those rather than lamenting what's lost to youth and the past.
This is an age of power, grace, and relevance.
PM me if you need a boost!
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THREE GREAT TIPS FOR SUCCESS
1) A vision big enough for you. Sometimes we don't reach for a dream that really brings us alive - we might be scared, or an old belief about how the world works has us by the ankles, for heaven's sake! It's possible but not always easy to shake it off!

2) Completing the past. My coach has me working on that this week, and I thought I had already embraced my past. Uh, nope- still there is more. I am uncovering resentment, grief and regret, which create shadows that loom into my present.

3) Catch yourself doing something right: Oh, how critical we can be - of ourselves. By digging around in my past, I find that I've over emphasized my so-called failures and completely ignored my successes. Anything that smacks of less than perfect grabbed center stage in my outlook. Cleaning that up is good!

PM me or join my group for women over 50 if you want more!

What is a dream that is big enough for you now?

ONE SECRET TO PUTTING YOURSELF FIRST
"Maturity is learning to walk away from people and situations that threaten your peace of mind, self-respect, values, morals, or self-worth." Unknown
And what if that threatening person or situation is your own inner demon, dialogue, and limiting belief? What to do - can't walk away, for wherever you go there you are! Believe me, that put-down self-talk is a *&%) enemy. I'm sitting here in a funk trying to get excited about writing Facebook posts, and I walk away for tea, to p*e, to mope with this dialogue of just give up, it isn't working, I'm tired, I'm too old! It's taken me ages just to get this far. What inspired me was this quote.
So leaving the inside and outside negativity behind and moving into your turn is a great step towards self care and expression!
IF YOUR ARE STUCK LIKE SO MANY OF US, I'd love to talk with you start a breakthrough for you. Sound good? Here's my calendar to schedule, or private message me! Get past the bumps faster with more accuracy....that's what it's about. https://calendly.com/nmontier/breakthrough-your-turn-now-5q

MY LIFE HAS NO MEANING!!
Many of us women over 50 are looking for MEANING and SPARKs and MAKING A DIFFERENCE! Kids gone, job gone, partner may be gone. Women derive meaning from our relationships, and also our contributions to our world. If we don't have either, we get into a funk, depressed, exacerbate health issues, use food or alcohol or other substances to cover up the feelings of uselessness and aimlessness, and it gets harder and harder to find our way out.
The first step to creating meaning is to KNOW THYSELF. Who in the world are YOU, NOW, at this time in your life? What is calling you? Why?
We have an advantage over someone who's 30. We have 20, 30, 40, 50 more years of EXPERIENCE to draw on! Great mistakes that taught us that we needed to change course. Great wins that emerged from more clarity of our purpose and our values.
The challenge is to pull all that data together and see in what direction it points us.
At my next zoom Circle of Friends with coffee/tea/whatever (Monday, June, 14, 5 PM Pacific) I'll lead you through some exercises to SHINE A LIGHT on what's important now. I'll record it and post it. Join my "Women Over 50 It's Your Turn Now" group to come to the Gathering! https://nancyhugmontier.lpages.co/90-day-awaken-program/ Hope to see you there!

WAKE UP! IT'S SPRING!
We spent a year isolated and hibernating. It's spring - the perfect energetic time to pick out the seeds that we found in our hearts over the long winter. Here are planting steps as prescribed by this Emerging Brilliance Coach! 1) Day-dream about what they could become when you plant them. I'm dreaming about what my work looks like in 3 years and why I care. 2) Check in with your values. I see I need to structure this time so I have time for me as well as you all. 3) Pick 1 to 3 of them for your garden of dreams this year. 4) Thoughtfully, respectfully and prayerfully plant them with the right nutrients and water. Put a label on them as to what they are going to be when they bloom. Mine is "Serve Thousands in Joy". 5) Take the next step. What nutrient does your dream need?
I invite you to share your dreams and your labels for them in the comments!
Schedule a seed planting and nurturing breakthrough call with me here: https://calendly.com/nmontier/breakthrough-your-turn-now-5q

EMPOWERED RELATIONSHIPS!

I'ts International Coaching Week!!! The coaching school (The Coaches Training Institute) I attended is promoting bringing coaching to the world. So, I'd like to share an article that will support grandparents, parents, partners, managers and employees in your relationships. To get the "Secret to Empowered Relationships" , go here: https://nancyhugmontier.lpages.co/secret-to-empowered-relationships (image by logan-weaver-TtmCQskf6xs-unsplash)
ps - I shared this with the group last year; and I take you through an extra click so I can gauge your level of interest.

Goodness gracious - what are you up to now?