Securely Rooted Family

Embrace the beauty of rupture and repair 💔✨.

It’s always possible to mend relationships and cultivate a deeper connection as a parent and partner.

Conflict is a normal and inevitable aspect of any relationship, and it is better to experience and repair it, rather than avoiding it - so you can strengthen your bond and grow together 🌱💖

Ready to see what that looks like and to build stronger, more resilient relationships? Comment WEBINAR below ⬇️ ⬇️⬇️ to access my free training this month on how you can increase safety, security, and connection as a parent and partner 💫

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Here’s what the repair process looks like vs.rupture without repair (swipe 👉🏻👉🏻👉🏻)

When you experience conflict in any relationship - the most important thing you can do is tend to your emotions first and come back to repair the rupture in a calm, regulated state.

Contrast this with not tending to emotions - they are either stuffed and avoided or become more intense which only escalates the issue at hand.

While we can’t avoid conflict in relationships, by following these steps you can shorten the distance and damage done between rupture and repair, and lengthen the time between committing to change and a rupture occurring again.

Instead of going round and round, repeating the same cycles and having the same arguments over and over again. 🙅🏻‍♀️

Where do you see yourself in these cycles? Sound off in the comments and for more ways to increase safety, security, and connection in your relationships (plus more on how to handle conflict) comment WEBINAR and I’ll send you a link to sign up for my free training! 🌟

The rupture/repair process is THE most important thing in relationships.

(See previous reel to learn why 😉)

However most of us weren’t taught or modeled how to repair our relationships after a rupture in a healthy, sustainable way.

If you find yourself in this camp and struggling in how to come together after conflict - use this tip first:

Tend to the emotion first, solve the problem later.

Next time you find your relationship in a rupture and your emotions are rising, take a time out to regulate yourself so you can find a solution when everyone is in a cool, calm space.

Ready to build stronger, more resilient relationships? Comment WEBINAR to access my next free training 🌟 Or click the link in my bio to sign up today!

Whether it’s parenting or partnerships - these questions are incredibly common… but are seldom voiced.

“Why can’t I express what’s bothering me? Or how can I do it so they actually get it?”

“Why do I feel so alone?”

“Why does the same argument happen over and over again?”

If you feel stuck in the same cycle or wondering the same thing, you’re not alone. And maybe (just maybe) it has less to do with your partner or child than you think…

It may actually be rooted deeper than that - it may actually stem from in your attachment style.

These questions and feelings often stem from insecure attachment - namely anxious or avoidant.

So what if you could heal and get out of these rut and start getting answers to these questions? It all starts with awareness of what is actually driving these thoughts… and that is where safety, security, and connection is restored in relationships again.

What do you think? Can you relate? My message inbox is always open when you’re ready to see what healing your relationships really looks like 🌱

We don’t get to choose our attachment style (see previous reel on when our attachment style forms)..

However, we do have the power to heal it and move the spectrum from insecure (as in anxious/avoidant/disorganized) to secure by closing the gap between authenticity and attachment.

This looks like being able to express our needs and desires without fear of abandonment.

It looks like being open and vulnerable without shame and fear of rejection.

Safety, security, and connection happens when we are free to be ourselves and still flourish in relationships with others….

(Especially with our partners ❤️)

This Wednesday I’m hosting a free webinar on this exact topic, with the steps you need to start closing this gap and healing the inner conflict between authenticity and attachment.

To access this webinar, comment WEBINAR below or head to the link in profile to register!

Can’t make it live? No problem - by registering you’ll have access to the replay to watch at your convenience 🙌🏻

Can’t wait to see you there my friends 😘😘

Let’s normalize the grieving process that comes with growth 🌱

As we become more aware and move from insecure to secure attachment in our relationships, it’s almost inevitable that we will experience growth pains and grief in the process.

One of the common ones is realizing that the childhood you thought you had, isn’t exactly the one you experienced. Our need to remain attached is so primal and necessary from infancy, that we will adapt (and sometimes) abandon ourselves in order to meet this need.

Note: this is often referred to as “authenticity”

The wider the gap between authenticity and attachment, the bigger the growing pains.

So while we can normalize that growth is messy, you don’t have to go through it alone 🫶🏻

👉🏻👉🏻👉🏻 Which is why I’m hosting a free webinar next week about authenticity, attachment, and the process in between

Want to learn more? Click the link in my bio to sign up or comment WEBINAR below for access!

The hardest and most liberating truth - accepting that change starts with you.

Swipe to see why change brings a grief process with it and what it means in changing your family dynamics.

What do you think? Have you experienced growing pains as you work to shift your relationships with your children and partner? Share your thoughts in the comments

P.S. be sure to like, save and share if this resonates with you!

“What was harmed through relationship, must be healed through relationship.”

Here’s why:

We are biologically designed to live in close relationships so we are safe and can learn how to regulate our emotions… which can only be done in proximity of others.

However, when these relationships (aka attachments) breakdown and don’t meet our needs time and time again, we develop strategies to survive.

These strategies always end the same: sacrificing our authenticity for attachment - aka conforming to our tribe so we aren’t alone and have a (perceived) stable environment.

However, you can’t heal what was broken in relationships outside of them. It must be done in relationship with others to counter condition our past experiences.

This simple phrase carries so much weight 😳😅 but I’ve seen the positive (and healing) effects time and again when people truly dive in and do the work ❤️‍🩹

What are your thoughts? How do you see this play out? Do you agree or disagree? Share away in the comments or my DMs

What is “true love”? What elements do partners need for real, lasting love?

According to Sternburg’s Triangular Theory of Love, lasting (consummate) love has three components:

Passion + Intimacy + Commitment

Without all three, it’s romantic, companion, or fatuous love.

Where is your relationship right now?

What are you missing?

Do you want more?

If so, it’s not too late to sign up for the 14 Day Intimacy Experiment - and it’s designed for you to:

❤️ Deepen emotional connection

🔥 Increase passion

👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨 Learn more about you and your partner’s needs

Best of all? It’s completely free! For access just comment “14” and watch your inbox for the link!

Give yourself the gift of a safe, secure, and vibrant relationship - you are worth it 🫶🏻

Love is in the air - after all Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, and let’s face it, we could all use a little relationship pick-me-up. 🫶🏻

That’s why I’m here to prompt depth into your love life with a 14-day experiment that’ll reignite that spark in your marriage..

Combining the emotional and physical connection you both desire.

(Best of all, it won’t cost you a dime 🙌🏻)

For access share this, graphic on your stories and tag me . Then, sit tight and keep an eye on your inbox for a link to sign up!

🔥Let’s get this love train rolling!

Introducing Attachment 101 - a course which helps you with figuring out your attachment style, brain development behind it (aka the WHY you resonate with these questions), and how it relates to your relationships…

AND improve them! Cart is open until February 1st, and the first 10 people who sign for the course receive a free 1:1 call with me to specifically dive into your situation and relationship dynamic!

To learn more, comment COURSE or head to the attachment 101 link in my bio to learn more!