Infinidei

My family is my why. In 2020 I experienced a devastating miscarriage. However, I was able to get the healthcare I needed through it. It rocked my world.

Through that process we realized that infertility treatment, IVF, was going to be necessary to give us the family we’ve always dreamed of.

Once our beautiful baby arrived, we struggled financially. I’m a small business owner without access to paid leave. I’m also a mother who wanted to spend the first 6 months of her daughter’s life with her. We are one of few families who could take the financial hit that we did to make that happen.

We are also a family who has many center based childcare providers in our community. Despite this and being on 5 waitlists, we did not get full time care for our daughter until she was 13 months old.

We pay $24,000 a year to send our daughter to daycare. There are less expensive options around us - average cost in NH is $18,000, but we did not get into any of those centers.

I am also a daughter who has seen the medical system fail her sick mother time and time again. Care is not valued in our country therefore the only way to secure it is economic privilege and relentless advocacy. I’ve spent countless hours on the phone with insurance, debating over care choices that have been recommended by physicians but declined by insurance.

We cannot continue to be led by leaders who do not value family or care. Every family deserves the freedom to live a better life. The president can’t do it alone. We must elect people up and down the ballot who share this belief.

We have 18 days. We can’t let up now.

It feels like everyone is talking about using our values to vote. I believe deeply in this sentiment, but also realize that it wasn’t until about 4 years ago that I personally got really clear in my own. This happened through a self paced reflection course and my 9 month coaching certification process.

My colleague and friend .yourstory and I were talking about how important the role of values identification is this election season. We also acknowledged that many people (ourselves included for most of our lives) were navigating life with a set of values that were passed down to us vs. cultivated by us.

We wanted to play a role in changing that. Tomorrow we kick off a two part series that helps identify our values. Of course we hope you apply this to the election, but it is a process that’s helpful in every aspect of life. We love for you to join us!

We have also created an AI chatbot, Val, that helps you identify your values on your own time. Both are linked in my stories ❤️

It’s not lost on me that I have a forever calm in the chaos that is life.

We had the opportunity to celebrate the wedding of one of my childhood friends this weekend. As I watched them exchange vows I felt so grateful that I was there, holding hands with Nick.

Life is relentless in trying to pull us into the uncertainty, fear and dysfunction that exists every where. When I feel myself getting sucked in, all I have to do is turn to this guy to remind me that we’ve built something that is strong enough to block it all out.

In my latest substack article I explore a recent reflection I’ve had.

I’ve come to realize that my ability to be fully present is a huge privilege. It means there’s safety, support, and security in all of the other important places in my life.

My partnership is a huge part of what makes this possible for me and allowed me to care for my mom in the way I wanted to when she was hospitalized earlier this year.

Click my link in bio to read more.

Thank you & for publishing this extremly important report that examines the far-reaching impacts of pandemic-era childcare relief funding on women, families and early educators.

Knowledge is power.

“The report makes it clear that public investment in childcare works, and that our current childcare crisis is a policy choice.” - , VP President of Childcare and Income Security at

We needed a slow down.

Summer in New England is tricky. Everyone knows there’s a small window of weather where we can all be outside together. This means we try to cram a million events into a three month window.

When you have a big family, there’s even more going on. It’s amazing, but it’s also exhausting (especially with a very busy almost 2 year old)

This past weekend we were home. We intentionally didn’t make plans and we let the weekend unfold in the moment. It felt cozy, fun and relaxing.

For a little while now, Vivienne has told us that she lives at home with mommy, daddy and Bode. This was the first weekend we were out at a farm and she looked at us and said, “I want to go home” 🥹 my body filled with warmth. Home is my favorite place to be and it’s so wonderful knowing she loves to be there too.

How are you slowing down this fall? 🍂

I know that we all only have so much capacity and that our lives are filled with requests, appointments, activities and more.

But while watching I felt a unique rumble of rage in my soul. I felt compelled to write an open plea to all of the white people in this country. I felt pulled to help us acknowledge that the only thing that has allowed us to stand still and not get involved in activism or to look the other way is our privilege.

My plea is published in my latest substack article.

Thank you & .gallag.her for your continuous fight to rally white women into action. I’m inspired by you both in so many ways.

Join us for a night of connection & action!

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Last Friday I saw with two girlfriends.

I love her and have been a fan since her release of Merry Go Round back in 2013.

However, from May 2020 - 2022 I had a different song on repeat. I played Rainbow…

- Every time I felt my body wasn’t capable of creating a baby
- After each each negative pregnancy test or first sign of my period
- On the ride to every ultrasound, blood work or pelvic exam
- After receiving the news only one egg fertilized and our transfer had failed
- When I felt helpless and hopeless
- During progesterone, Gonal-F and Menopur shots
- Through tears on my pillow, bathroom floor or really anywhere
- As I hugged my husband and dog when we finally saw our positive pregnancy test.

Music heals us. Seeing this live meant more to me than I realized it would. Thank you for making this happen.

Well the sky has finally opened. The rain and wind stopped blowin’ but you’re stuck out in the same ol’ storm again. You hold tight to your umbrella well darlin’ I’m just trying to tell ya, that there’s always been a rainbow hanging over your head 🌈