Emerge Recovery

To any mother who's son or daughter previously or currently struggles with drugs and alcohol: one of the things I have heard is the best Mother's day gift for a Mom is for her son or daughter to get sober and stay sober.

Emerge Recovery is on a mission to understand how to help people do this more effectively.

This is a brief survey to explore your personal experience, if you are the mother of someone who has in the past or present struggled with alcohol or drugs, to help me better understand your goals and desires regarding your son or daughter’s challenges with alcohol or drugs.

Click the link to complete the survey and thank you for your help!

https://emergerecovery.org/family-assessment/

🤐 Secrecy.

😕 Distrust.

🤕 Mental strain.

😣 Emotional fatigue.

😴 Physical exhaustion.

😤 Financial stress.

What are things like at home right now?

Do any of these things run rampant in your household?

When your child suffers from addiction, your whole family falls ill, too.

Working through these feelings and overcoming the impact of addiction won't happen all at once, but the work should start sooner rather than later.

🤔 Which of these feelings are affecting your family right now?

Let me know in the comments below.

If you know someone who needs to see this post, please consider sharing this with them.

✅ Are you a mother?
✅ Is your son or daughter struggling with addiction?
✅ Sick of the sleepless nights worrying about them?
✅ Would you like to feel hopeful about the future?

Our invitation to mothers who love a son or daughter who is struggling with alcohol or drugs: join our free support group on 9/1. You can join from anywhere in the world. Click the zoom link to register. Link to register is in comments.

Do you have an addiction treatment program lined up for your loved one yet?

Pre-planning addiction treatment programs for your loved one is crucial.

Scrambling to find a facility with an open bed is the last thing you want to deal with.

You want to be prepared for the moment your child is finally ready to get help.

🤔 Have you put any thought into which facilities may be a good fit for your child?

If not, now is a great time to start looking into the options available to you.

Need a few more reasons to convince you?

Check out my blog post linked in the comments below.

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Is the anxiety and fear in your life due to the chaos of your son or daughter's alcohol or drug use devastating your family?

Is saying no to your son or daughter's demands for financial support a challenge for you? You are not alone.

Excited to share this post from my blog about setting effective boundaries in addictive family systems. DM's are open - if this post resonates with you, I'd love to chat.

"There are all sorts of reasons why you feel you can’t say “no” to your son or daughter. Maybe it seems like you’re leaving them to fend for themselves. You might believe they can’t handle things alone and need your ongoing support. Perhaps you’re worried they’ll get themselves into trouble or danger if you’re not there to step in.

Whatever the reason may be, learning to say “no” is the first step toward actually helping your child. It may seem like the opposite is true, but you must learn to set boundaries and leave them to handle their problems on their own. If you’re constantly saving them from their problems they will never have any reason to learn to handle them."

Emerge Recovery has an effective process to help parents reclaim their lives from the chaos of their child's addiction so they can restore their own wellness and actually help their son or daughter get sober and STAY SOBER.

🤫 Is trust hard to come by in your home?

Trust quickly falls apart when families live in an environment that isn’t conducive to safe expression or conversation.

Suspicion and doubt become the family watchwords.

The slow process of recovering trust among family members is a vital part of recovery.

But how do you approach that process?

That's what I want to work on with your family: help your child get sober and stay sober, and help your family heal along the way.

We’d like to invite you to join our free Facebook community, Beyond Addiction: Help Your Son or Daughter Get Sober and Stay Sober.

We're a group filled with mothers who understand what you're going through.

We're discussing the ways that we can create a space for our families to heal.

And we're supporting each other throughout that journey.

👇 I'll include the link to the group in the comments below.

🤐 Secrecy.

😕 Distrust.

🤕 Mental strain.

😣 Emotional fatigue.

😴 Physical exhaustion.

😤 Financial stress.

What are things like at home right now?

Do any of these things run rampant in your household?

When your child suffers from addiction, your whole family falls ill, too.

Working through these feelings and overcoming the impact of addiction won't happen all at once, but the work should start sooner rather than later.

🤔 Which of these feelings are affecting your family right now?

Let me know in the comments below.

Communication doesn't come easy.

Especially in a household where someone suffers from addiction.

Communication is often the first thing to go when a person abuses drugs and alcohol.

This can be due to the addicted person trying to wall themselves off from everyone.

Sometimes it's because other family members are fearful of acknowledging their loved one's addiction.

Either way, the results are the same – silence and secrecy.

Addiction leaves the whole family ill - it's not just one person's problem.

Is someone getting the silent treatment in your house right now?

I know that happened in my house when I was growing up.

It wasn't all the time, though. There were moments when things almost felt normal again.

But we never addressed the source of the communication problems.

So they inevitably came back.

How have you tried to deal with the difficult silences in your home? Let me know in the comments, or shoot me a DM if you prefer to speak privately.

🤔 Is it time to ask for help?

Only you can answer this question.

Maybe you're still trying to work through a few more options and ideas of your own about your son or daughter's substance abuse.

My mother did the most she could with what she had to help me, but there was no way I was going to stop until I ran out of options.

I hope your son or daughter is almost to that point, too. Your efforts to get them to quit will be in vain until they are.

I've got a quick quiz you can take to determine how things are going in your family.

Are you still managing or are you just scraping by?

Take the assessment below (link is in comments - it's absolutely free!) and see whether it might be time for YOU to reach out for help.

https://emergerecovery.org/family-assessment/

Addiction is a debilitating, dominating disease.

It destroys everything in its path.

It drives families apart.

It tears children away from their mothers

It leaves you feeling like there's nothing you can do.

Wondering whether it's time to look for help? This quick (free) quiz will give you an idea about whether you need to reach out.

You can take it right here:

https://emergerecovery.org/family-assessment/

Regardless of how isolating active addiction may feel for your child, that isolation spreads to your whole family.

Every family member has a voice and everyone deserves to be heard.

But how can you create space for everyone to say what they need to?

When addiction strips the rest of the family of their voice, resentment builds.

Working through those resentments is vital if you want your child to get sober and stay sober.

How have you approached that sense of isolation in your own household? DM's are open if you want to discuss privately with me.

‼️ What does honest communication look like to you?


Is it hard for you to tell the whole truth when talking with your family?

Do you hold things back to keep the peace?

Rebuilding trust and emotional well-being through honest and open communication is a vital part of the recovery process.

But it often feels like it will never get better when you first start.

How will your family break down the walls that each member built up during your loved one's active addiction?

It's not easy to know where to begin if your family has never worked on communication before.

It takes time, persistence, and patience to rebuild what addiction destroyed.

It might feel impossible if your child is still using.

But other family members can also benefit from this work.

Healing the family unit as a whole is part of the process, too.

Have you ever tried to do this at home? How did that work out? Let me know in the comments or you can always send us a DM.

Are you putting off getting help?


Has your child been to treatment before?

Were you or your family involved in the process?

Or was the attention centered on your child?

It makes sense if your child was the primary focus.

They’re the one battling with substance or alcohol addiction, after all.

But we know there’s a better way to approach addiction treatment.

It starts with building an environment that’s conducive to recovery for everyone involved, not just your child.

Every member of your family is hurting, whether they’re willing to tell you or not.

Oftentimes the family takes a back seat in the recovery process.

I truly believe that effective, lasting recovery happens when the whole family is brought into the solution.

Recovery plans that work directly with the family members of people who battle addiction see the other side of the story.

They see how the cycle of addiction involves everyone.

If you’re interested, I invite you to see how Emerge Recovery is doing rehab differently. We know how critical it is to keep the family involved.

Take a moment to read for yourself. Link is below:

https://emergerecovery.org/about-us/

⌛ It might be time.


As the owner of Emerge Recovery I know

It isn’t easy to look at the reality of your child’s substance or alcohol use.

But refusing to look at it only makes the problem worse.

It might be time for you to intervene.

Your decision to interject could be the thing that finally gets their attention.

I know that’s how it was for me.

I was worn down.

I was exhausted.

I was out of options.

My mom and my partner gave me one final chance to go to treatment.

And that day I was finally at a place where I could fully surrender and accept help.

Do you know how to stage an intervention?

I don’t mean the kind that’s on the TV - weepy, dramatic, and over-emotional.

I mean an intentional, directed intervention that’s focused on getting your child to finally admit defeat.

If not, I want to offer you my FREE 5-Step Guide to Navigating a Successful At-Home Intervention.

It outlines a clear, concise path to conducting an intervention for your child.

And I want you to have it for free today.

Click this link to download the gift:

https://emergerecovery.org/5-step-guide/

🤔 Who are you?


Sometimes family members of people who battle addiction tend to lose their sense of individuality.

Their identity is tied up in caring for their loved one.

They struggle to separate themselves from their loved one’s substance abuse.

They’re constantly worried about what might happen next or when they’ll get “the call.”

Does this sound like you?

When your child struggles with substance or alcohol abuse, caring for them often becomes part of your identity.

You spend your spare time worrying about their well-being.

Your life dwindles away as you funnel more of your energy into handling their problems.

If you don’t know who you are, though, how can you truly help your loved one?

What you believe to be helping them might truly be hindering them.

You could be holding them back from the help they need.

But how do you know when you’ve crossed that line and you need to reach out to someone else?

Emerge Recovery has a fast, free, confidential quiz you can take to see if it’s time.

We invite you to take it with an open mind and a willing heart. Link to the quiz is in the comments.

It may be the first step toward rediscovering who you truly are, too.

https://emergerecovery.org/family-assessment/

What does this year look like for you?


Did you set any goals at the start of it?

Or did you simply do your best to make it through each day without breaking down?

If you have a child battling addiction, your year was probably more on the exhausting side.

So maybe it’s time for you to take a break.

Perhaps this next year it’s time for you to shift the focus off of your child and onto yourself.

What do you need to feel cared for and okay?

Do you even know how to answer that question?

It’s easy to lose yourself in your child’s substance abuse and addiction.

Removing yourself from the cycle may seem unkind, heartless, and impossible.

But it’s critical if you want to help them finally find recovery. Recovery cannot flourish in old environments plagued by familiar patterns.

Every family member plays a part in the process, from active addiction to lasting recovery.

This year could be the year you do what it takes to get you and your loved one the help that you both need.

EmergeRecovery is here to guide you through that process.

I invite you to schedule a no-fee Recovery Activation Call with me today.

Let’s uncover what exactly is holding your child back from recovery.

We’ll get clear on the roadblocks that continue to get in the way.

And we’ll create a map to clear those blocks away and help your child finally get sober and stay sober.

Last year might have been a difficult and painful one.

But this can be the year that things are finally different.

Link to schedule our conversation is in the comments.

https://emergerecovery.org/contact/

📺 You’ve watched the show Intervention, right?


Chances are you’ve caught an episode or two during its 15-year run - and it’s still going!

The show has done some critical work to bring awareness to the realities of substance abuse.

It reveals the depths to which alcohol and drugs can drag a person down.

It also shows how extensively substance abuse affects the people who love and care.

🙋🏽 Friends.

🙍🏻Siblings.

🧒🏼 Children.

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Parents.

💑 Spouses.

The list goes on.

However, it doesn’t always provide the best picture of how an effective intervention looks.

Despite its good intentions, Intervention is still a television show. They need dramatization to keep viewers engaged and entertained. The explosive fights and tearful emotionalism keep people watching week after week.

And while your loved one’s problems with substance use likely bring up these same feelings, letting your emotions take over during an intervention isn’t the best approach.

Interventions are most effective when everyone remains as calm as possible and voices their concerns without blame.

If your loved one struggles with alcohol or drug abuse, you’ve likely considered staging an intervention but may not be sure where to start.

I recently broke the process down on my blog - you can check it out at the link below.

https://emergerecovery.org/how-to-conduct-a-life-saving-intervention-for-your-loved-one/

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Is it time for your family to stage an intervention for your loved one? If you’ve even considered it, continue reading below…


It’s painful to watch your loved one suffer in the cycle of substance abuse. You’re often left feeling like there’s nothing you can do to help.

You’ve probably tried at least a few things to get them to cut back on their drinking or using.

-> Monitoring their use.
-> Demanding that they take drug tests.
-> Letting them stay with you.
-> Kicking them out.
-> Begging them to quit.
-> Sending them to treatment facilities.
-> Shutting them out entirely.

But you’re still exactly where you started: out of control as your loved one continues spiraling downward.

Sometimes an intentional, guided intervention provides the jolt needed to wake them up and help them realize how their actions affect the people around them.

However, this doesn’t mean inviting their closest friends and family members to gang up on them.

It means taking a careful, tactful approach and allowing these people to let your loved one know how their behavior impacts them.

But it’s easy for interventions to end up derailed if your efforts aren’t deliberate.

What does an effective intervention look like?

How can you ensure that sitting down with your loved one to express your concerns is successful?

EmergeRecovery would like to invite you to download this 5-Step Guide to Staging a Successful Intervention. I drew from all of the effective interventions I’ve been involved with in the past to create it. Link is in the comments below.

It may give you some ideas to get the process started for your own loved one.

https://emergerecovery.org/5-step-guide/

💊 You probably know someone struggling with opioid use.


Opioids are a class of drugs that include prescription painkillers, morphine, he**in, and fentanyl.

The National Survey on Drug Use and Health for 2020 revealed that of the U.S. population:

📊 3.4% (9.5 million people) misused opioids
📈 1.0% (2.7 million people) meet the criteria for opioid use disorder

Opioid use affects millions of people throughout the United States. People you probably wouldn’t even guess have a problem.

Until it’s too late.

Consider a group of 100 of your acquaintances. Statistically speaking, at least one of them cannot control their opioid use and at least three of them experimented with opioids in some way.

There is no single picture of what someone who abuses opioids looks like. In fact, opioid abuse can be one of the most easily-hidden drug problems.

These illicit and dangerous drugs affect more of your neighbors than you may realize. After all, a person’s introduction to opioids often starts at the doctor’s office or hospital and progresses from there.

Unfortunately, the problem shows no signs of stopping and we may be looking at treating it from the wrong angle.

Want to know where Emerge Recovery sees a gap in the treatment space?

Find out in our latest blog post on the matter below 👇

https://emergerecovery.org/medication-assisted-treatment-for-opioid-addiction-a-life-saving-approach/