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Parental Divorce Decisions: Don't Take Advice From Family and Friends

Parental Divorce Decisions: Don't Take Advice From Family and Friends Divorce is a subject that, by its very nature, brings up lots of judgments.  Most people seem to have strong opinions about divorce, primarily influenced by their own experiences or the programming of their upbringing. It's very unlikely that any one argument...

Flexibility And Strength

Flexibility And Strength "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any."— Alice Walker Tall buildings are constructed to move a little in high winds; the flexibility actually makes them stronger and more able to withstand the forces of...

6 Must-Tell Messages to Prepare Kids for Your Divorce

6 Must-Tell Messages to Prepare Kids for Your Divorce One of the most difficult conversations any parent will ever have is telling their children about their pending divorce. I know first-hand because many years ago I went through the experience. I fought and faced the overwhelming emotions. The deep gut-wrenching fear. The...

Listening

Listening As a mediator, I think a lot about listening. Every day I try to listen better than the day before. Listening – really listening – to another is an opportunity to give to oneself while giving to another.   It’s not easy. My mind is often host to...

Getting Stuck While Going Through Divorce

Getting Stuck While Going Through Divorce It’s not if we will get stuck in divorce. It’s when will we get stuck in divorce? An excerpt from a healthy divorce workbook, “You Were In Love, Once Upon A Time,”  by Cindy Battino, ACSM, CCS with Lauren R. Giannini. Chapter 6: ...

What Happens To My Estate Plan During a Divorce?

What Happens To My Estate Plan During a Divorce? If you have recently started the divorce process, you will also want to consider your estate planning goals in light of it. Estate planning is important both during and after your dissolution. While it's hard to think about both death and divorce at the same time,...

Three Tax Issues To Watch Out For Post-Divorce

Three Tax Issues To Watch Out For Post-Divorce Separating assets also means separating the tax attributes related to those assets. Sometimes, it can be a complex calculation and can result in thousands of dollars in tax savings, or cost. The total tax effect of the asset separation will play a part in how the assets...

Can A Mediator Be Neutral?

Can A Mediator Be Neutral? How could a mediator be neutral about your situation when you are getting divorced? Surely one of you is right and the other is wrong! If you know in your bones – and all of your friends agree – that you are right, you may think that mediation would not make...

Dividing the Marital Home: Realizing Your Options

Dividing the Marital Home: Realizing Your Options Determining what happens to your property during a divorce can be difficult. When discussing this issue, it is sometimes helpful to look at one state as an example. In New Jersey, marital property is divided “equitably”, which means fairly, not necessary...

Fraud In Family Law

Fraud In Family Law Fraud (Law.com) is defined as “the intentional use of deceit, a trick or some dishonest means to deprive another of his/her/its money, property or a legal right.” The standards for fraud can differ in criminal court versus family court. In the broad field of ...

Modern Divorce Style

Modern Divorce Style In the future marriage vows could possibility include an additional phrase to go with the existing promises? Something like: "Do you take your partner, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in...

Divorce and the Narcissist

Divorce and the Narcissist Dealing with anyone who has a narcissistic personality disorder can be difficult. Dealing with a narcissistic partner or spouse during a divorce can be a nightmare. First, let’s start by defining narcissistic personality disorder. According to the Mayo...