Siren Song Creative

Because that man who was so attracted to you when you were single and feeling empowered is the same man you lost yourself for.

And then you told yourself “Never again will I lose myself for a man!!!”

But that wifey conditioning hits hard when new relationships blossom.

And before you know it, there you are again, orienting your words, thoughts, choices, and appearance around what you believe to be his preferences.

It becomes more of a house of mirrors than a relationship.

When it ends he leaves a “him” shaped void. You are directionless without him, so you shape yourself around the memory of him (or you find someone else to replace him).

Agh! Make it stop!!!

If you happen to stay single long enough, you may find your way back to yourself, and hope to the high heavens not to lose yourself again.

Women, are selfless by nature, because of our inherent mother/caretaker instincts. That part of ourselves has been deeply exploited and socially reinforced over hundreds of generations. For so very long, it was in the interest of survival that we centered ourselves around men. At the risk of sounding like AI I’m going to say, you’re not failing or broken. This program was baked in for generations! It’s heavy lifting baby. 💪🏼

We need better for ourselves, our daughters and our sisters. Women now have the opportunity to make changes that our ancestors could only dream of.

This is about de-centering men and becoming self centered instead.

When I say self-centered, I’m talking about simply being the one at your own center. That means knowing and expressing your own authentic self and desires. From there, you can still negotiate, compromise and give generously of yourself , but without being anchored in your own center and your own desire first, you have no position to start from and nothing of yourself to give.

I’m a woman’s empowerment coach and I’ve BEEN THERE! I plan to keep talking about these things, so If you relate to this and want to hear more, FOLLOW to stick around! I’m just getting started. 😜

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Divorce is not the time to be in your good girl conditioning.

Highly amicable processes are great for those rare couples who are divorcing but still have trust & integrity.

They are not great for people who are using it as a peacekeeping tactic out of fear.

The thing you don’t realize when you’re early in the process of divorce is that so much of your fear response is informed by your experience of being inside of the relationship.

But having formal container changes the dynamic and can make it safer.

You don’t have to settle for less to keep the peace. There are other steps in between making “friendly” contracts and battling it out in court.

FOLLOW and comment GUIDE and I will deliver a free copy of my guide “Divorce with Clarity” along with a self assessment quiz to your DM’s.