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After 38 years of marriage, love may look a little less like a movie scene and a little more like this:

Coffee cups left around the house. Cabinets standing open. Laundry waiting too long. And still… coming home. Still showing up. Still choosing the covenant you made before God.

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Biblical Marriage Covenant - This Means No Exit Door Learn how a biblical marriage covenant builds lasting trust through steady presence, daily service, and faith-filled commitment over time.

Sometimes the thing we call "attitude" is actually pain trying to speak.

A sharp tone, a slammed door, a quiet withdrawal, a sudden shutdown… behavior often carries emotions that words haven't yet learned to hold. That doesn't excuse hurtful patterns, but it does invite us to slow down and ask better questions.

What if the behavior in front of you is trying to tell you something deeper?

Read the full article to learn how behavior becomes communication, and how curiosity can open the door to healing.

Every Behavior Is a Message Have you ever watched someone slam a cabinet door and instantly thought, what is their problem? Or maybe you have been the one who went quiet, pulled away, or snapped over something small while the people around you had no idea what was really going on. Most people think communication only happens t...

After 20 years of marriage, after you've hurt each other, forgiven, and chosen to stay—how do you actually adore each other?

My friend asked me this after church, and it got me thinking about what we're all navigating in middle marriage. Because it's not about morning breath or bad snoring habits. It's about the scar tissue. The promises broken and kept again. The words spoken that could've peeled paint off walls.

And somehow, choosing adoration anyway.

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Choosing Adoration in Middle Marriage I walked a different route to our usual pew at church on Sunday, which caused me to quite literally run into my friend. After a quick rebound from our collision, he said, "Man, Allison, you really had me messed up this week." "Why is that?" "Adoration." "What are you talking about?"

Do you find yourself holding thoughts to yourself to maintain connection and keep the peace? I think we all do at times, but when we do, we feel like we are no longer speaking the truth. At least not the whole truth… and you tell yourself it is the only safe path.

Are You Keeping the Peace or Losing Yourself? I am in the middle of one of those conversations today. The kind that starts without much effort. He is sharing openly, his fears and frustrations. I am tracking and we have known each other for years.Then he says something that just doesn’t align with his values. I know it when I hear it. And the...

You know what you should do. So why is it still so hard to change?

Sometimes the patterns we want to stop were once the very things that helped us cope. Anxiety, shutting down, numbing out, pulling away — they may have started as protection, but now they might be keeping you stuck.

Real change begins when we stop asking, "Why can't I just stop?" and start asking, "What is really underneath this?" God sees the whole story, even the parts you are still learning to understand.

Read the full blog about why "just stop it" doesn't work and what actually helps.

Why is it so Hard to Change? - Why "Stop It" Doesn't Work Why is it so hard to change? Learn why willpower falls short and how therapy can uncover patterns, beliefs, and values that keep you stuck.

Life doesn't have to fall apart for you to just stop feeling like yourself.

You keep showing up, but inside, something feels off… quiet… buried.

Here’s the good news: you’re not stuck there.

Awareness is the first step back to yourself. What’s been pushed down may be ready to rise again.

You weren’t made just to survive. You were made to live fully. ✨

Are you struggling to find the balance between protecting yourself and connecting with others? Understanding the line between emotional walls and healthy boundaries is crucial for personal growth and healthy relationships.

Read the article below to learn how to set boundaries that nurture your relationships instead of isolating you.

On my first day of graduate school, my professor asked the room two questions. Every single person — when asked — had thought of a person, not an event.

That moment has shaped how I think about human health ever since.

The quality of your life is largely determined by the quality of your relationships. Not just your marriage or your friendships — but your relationship with God, with others, and with yourself.

In this week's post, I walk through what healthy connection looks like in each of those three areas, how to spot where yours might be struggling, and a story from my early days in New Orleans that I've never forgotten.

The Three Relationships That Determine the Quality of Your Life On the first day of graduate school in New Orleans, I was fresh from St. Louis with everything I owned crammed into my Honda Civic. I sat in a classroom full of strangers who would eventually become some of my closest friends, when my first professor posed a question I've never stopped thinking abou...

The past year has been stressful. As I reflect on my response to this, I realize I get busy. I lean into work, activity, busyness.

I've been running from something. Read about it here…

Using Work to Avoid Emotions - Turns Out I'm a Flight Risk Learn how using work to avoid emotions can mask anxiety and discover a healthier, faith-centered path to facing fear and finding peace.

Life doesn't have to fall apart for you to just stop feeling like yourself.

You keep showing up, but inside, something feels off… quiet… buried.

Here’s the good news: you’re not stuck there.

Awareness is the first step back to yourself. What’s been pushed down may be ready to rise again.

You weren’t made just to survive. You were made to live fully. ✨

Feeling Disconnected From Yourself - Why and How To Reconnect Feeling disconnected from yourself? Learn why it happens and how to reconnect, rebuild clarity, and emerge with confidence and peace.