Family Constellations Austin

We will meet this Monday, June 15, starting at 6:00pm, in the Tranquility Room at (Casa de Luz Village, 1701 Toomey Rd, Austin, 78704).

Serving is free. We appreciate your service! Try to come at the beginning (6:00pm) and stay for the whole session (until about 9:00pm), if you can; this creates continuity and cohesiveness for the people constellating and for the group as a whole. But we appreciate you coming for whatever part you can. 🙏🏼

For more information: [email protected]

Family Constellations is a way to heal trauma – from our own lives and inherited from our ancestry.

Trauma can manifest as behavioral problems, addictions, relationship problems, violence, health issues, and much more. The process of Family Constellations allows us to reveal the source of these problems, honor those from whom they came, and let go of what isn’t ours, with honor and without judgment.

The result is not only our own healing, but healing for the whole family system. We are left with compassion and gratitude, allowing us to live our own lives with love and purpose.

This is a photo from 1959. The infant girl is being held by her “baby nurse.“ This woman was hired by the infant’s grandparents without giving the mother a say. Years later, the mother described this woman as the “baby nurse from hell.” She said the nurse told her that she didn’t know anything about mothering and kept the baby separate from her except for feedings. The nurse put the baby in a separate room and let her cry. 😥

She was probably very well-meaning and was doing what she thought was best for baby and mother. That was that era.

The mother wasn’t encouraged to trust her instincts, and the baby experienced one of the most damaging traumas an infant can have: being separated from mom and learning that her needs don’t matter (food, safety, comfort).

Our nervous system is programmed and imprinted in the womb and during the first year of life. We then carry that program into our adult lives, not knowing that we are living from wounds (our own and/or inherited from mom and dad).

That baby is now in her 60s and has experienced depression her whole life. She never felt connected to her mother or father and felt that she didn’t belong in the family. Her marriage lacked connection, and her husband left her after having an affair. She longs for a healthy relationship, but as Bert Hellinger taught, we can’t have love until we heal our relationship with our mother. 💗

This is exactly what can be healed in Family Constellations. It doesn’t matter how much time has gone by – we can heal our infant self and give her or him the safety and love our parents and other caregivers couldn’t give. We can heal our relationship with our parents, even if they have passed on or if we think it’s impossible! Every aspect of our lives reflects how we hold our parents.

Footnote: This infant’s younger sister did not have this or any baby nurse! The mother trusted her own instincts and was much more responsive to that baby. That daughter had a much closer relationship with her mother and father and has been married for over 35 years. There have been difficulties for her in all of these relationships, but she has had the ability to work through them. The wiring she got set her up for more ease in connection.

But despite what we got – damaged wiring or connected wiring – we can still heal if we want to, and it’s never too late! 💫

We will meet this Monday, June 8, starting at 6:00pm, in the Tranquility Room at (Casa de Luz Village, 1701 Toomey Rd, Austin, 78704).

Serving is free. We appreciate your service! Try to come at the beginning (6:00pm) and stay for the whole session (until about 9:00pm), if you can; this creates continuity and cohesiveness for the people constellating and for the group as a whole. But we appreciate you coming for whatever part you can. 🙏🏼

For more information: [email protected]

Family Constellations is a way to heal trauma – from our own lives and inherited from our ancestry.

Trauma can manifest as behavioral problems, addictions, relationship problems, violence, health issues, and much more. The process of Family Constellations allows us to reveal the source of these problems, honor those from whom they came, and let go of what isn’t ours, with honor and without judgment.

The result is not only our own healing, but healing for the whole family system. We are left with compassion and gratitude, allowing us to live our own lives with love and purpose.

Anger can easily be grief. Grief that hasn’t been seen or allowed. We often bury what we can’t process or what is “unacceptable” to others.

Our feelings tell us what we need to see and often what we need to heal. They are valid. Honor them. Find support from someone you trust. ✨

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This may resonate with a lot of us. If we didn’t feel safe growing up, we may have tried to make ourselves small, unobtrusive, and self-sufficient. Having needs got us into trouble or made us feel as if we were a problem.

But we weren’t the problem. Our parents were just overloaded, struggling with their own unresolved trauma and baggage from their own childhoods. We probably triggered that for them.

Family Constellations, is one way of giving our child selves a voice and allowing them to finally feel the love and safety they craved. We can raise ourselves, so to speak, and fill the gaps our parents couldn’t. 💞

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We will meet this Monday, June 1, starting at 6:00pm, in the Tranquility Room at (Casa de Luz Village, 1701 Toomey Rd, Austin, 78704).

Serving is free. We appreciate your service! Try to come at the beginning (6:00pm) and stay for the whole session (until about 9:00pm), if you can; this creates continuity and cohesiveness for the people constellating and for the group as a whole. But we appreciate you coming for whatever part you can. 🙏🏼

For more information: [email protected]

Family Constellations is a way to heal trauma – from our own lives and inherited from our ancestry.

Trauma can manifest as behavioral problems, addictions, relationship problems, violence, health issues, and much more. The process of Family Constellations allows us to reveal the source of these problems, honor those from whom they came, and let go of what isn’t ours, with honor and without judgment.

The result is not only our own healing, but healing for the whole family system. We are left with compassion and gratitude, allowing us to live our own lives with love and purpose.

This speaks to the essence of Family Constellations healing: we are healing our perception. That’s it. Nothing else changes. Just our perception. But that is everything!

“You won’t see it for what it is until you stop looking at it through the lens of what you want it to be.”

We see everything and everyone through the lens of our needs and judgments. We therefore can’t see them as they are. But when we learn how to meet our own needs and release our judgments through understanding and acceptance, our lens becomes transparent and allows what is to come through as it is.

In Family Constellations, this is how we can receive the life and love that is our birthright, flowing from and through our parents. 💞
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“There is probably no more terrible instant of enlightenment than the one in which you discover your father is a man - with human flesh.”
- Frank Herbert, Dune

When we see our parents as people, not just as our parents, our perception of them changes. We mature… from our child selves who wanted and needed them to be a certain way for us… to acceptance of how they actually are. Along the way, we heal our wounds, grievances, resentments, and judgments, doing for ourselves what our parents couldn’t. This is the profound healing we can experience in Family Constellations. ✨❤️

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