The LaChiara Method

Have you ever felt anxious, upset, heavy, or dysregulated and couldn’t quite figure out why?

It may not be “nothing.”

Witnessing trauma can affect the body in very real ways.

Reading the news, watching violence unfold, hearing about someone else’s terror, or even talking with a friend about something traumatic can leave an imprint in the nervous system.

This is part of what’s often called vicarious trauma: the trauma of witnessing trauma.

But because humans are empathic by nature.

We feel each other. We register fear. We sense distress. And sometimes what we witness rumbles all the way through the body before the mind even understands what happened.

If you’ve been feeling generally discontent, unsettled, or emotionally activated, it may be worth asking:

What of this trauma isn't mine and is it serving me to hold it anymore?

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When you grow up in a family system where one person’s needs, feelings, image, or control dominate everything, the message can become painfully clear:

You are not the center here, your needs are not real enough to matter and your feelings only count when they serve someone else.

That kind of childhood can be deeply confusing.

Because sometimes care may have been offered, but it wasn’t really for you. It may have been given so the parent could feel good, look good, stay in control, or preserve their own sense of themselves.

And when your needs are only met in service of someone else’s ego, it can create a grief that lives very deep in the heart.

It can be so painful! And can take a lot to untangle from the wounds of not feeling like you or your needs matter.

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What if rejection isn’t always something to avoid or be devastated by?

What if could be really helpful information?

The part of you that longs to belong may want every room, every person, every opportunity, every relationship to truly see you, meet you where you're at, but what if half those places aren't aligned with who you are, or who you want to be?

So what if some doors closing, or people rejecting you, isn't proof that you failed, but guidance toward where your energy actually belongs.

This is where one of our favorite sayings, “reject me fast,” becomes such a powerful practice.

The invocation being:

If this isn’t for me, let me know quickly.
If this isn’t aligned, let it be clear.
If I don’t belong here, help me stop gripping so I can find where I do.

Not belonging everywhere can be painful, but it can also be wildly clarifying.

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There are forms of power that rely on people feeling afraid, overwhelmed, and unable to act.

When our fear becomes strong enough, it can create a sense of powerlessness and hopelessness that can be debilitating. Like there's no future to fight for and and your all alone.

What if that's just not true? What if that's an indoctrination that's intentionally being spread to freeze us?

What power, potency or vision is under the fear that you could step into right now?

Let us know in the comments.

For more info about the LaChiara Method, our podcast, and our offerings, go to the link in our bio or visit lachiaramethod.com.

Are you hiding the best parts of yourself because you're scared?

Maybe, way back when, it felt safer not to feel too much, or not not have needs, or to pretend like you didn't want love, connection and care.

Maybe those defense strategies worked at some point, but are they still needed now?

What if the very thing that helped you survive is also keeping the best parts of you hidden?

What parts of you are ready to unfurl?
What aspects of you get to come online and flourish?
What parts of your love, courage, truth, or essence might be waiting for more room?

What if this is the nudge you needed to make one small step to being even more of your magnificent self?

Is it time?! Let us know in the comments.

For more info about the LaChiara Method, our podcast, and our offerings, go to the link in our bio or visit lachiaramethod.com.