Obert Manyanye-Ncube

Pack resilience in your bag. When things happen, open the bag and take out resilience. It is a tool necessary to deal with life and situations that come with it

𝗗𝗼𝗲𝘀 𝗯𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀𝘂𝗿𝗲 𝗺𝗲𝗱𝗶𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲𝗻 𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿?

I had a patient once ask me this exact question on the very same day he went home with his first prescription, standing in front of the pharmacist reading off the label with that special look on his face only reserved for someone signing on the dotted line to an obligation they were unsure about.

"Doc, please tell me this is not forever."

And I told him what I'm going to tell you, which is that forever isn't a medical diagnosis. It's a default mode that occurs in instances where nobody asks the appropriate questions until it's too late.

Hypertensive patients aren't necessarily required to be on medication for life, but they do need to have an honest discussion about why their blood pressure numbers are abnormal to begin with. There's actually a reason for why many people experience high blood pressure, and it's often something relatively simple that's completely reversible – weight, diet, lifestyle, and other issues that may be contributing to the condition.

Fixing these problems can actually lower the amount of blood pressure medication that a person needs until it becomes totally obsolete. Studies have shown that a large percentage of patients have managed to stop taking their medications entirely after making changes to their lifestyles that allowed them to maintain a normal reading over time.

What ends up happening is that blood pressure medication gives a false sense of relief because it makes you feel like you've solved the problem with your numbers, but you haven't actually fixed anything that's causing them in the first place. You take the medicine, your number drops to the normal range, but the reality is that all the damage has been done inside your system anyway.

This is why we don't see more cardiovascular disease today even though our ancestors never needed medications like antihypertensives for their health. We have a wealth of wisdom dating back thousands of years on how to nurture our arterial walls, and our families still return to it every single day because it's irreplaceable. Work on your lifestyle alongside your prescription

Sathane akasenawo umsebenzi njengasekuqaleni. His work has been hijacked by people kodwa sizoqubeka simsola yet suke angumsulwa. I wonder if you understand me, but nizongothola kahle. Fundani.

We hate each other, siyabulalana, siyahlebana, siyahlekana and come back saying nguSathane. No..not always. Nowadays umsebenzi waSathane wenziwa izihlobo nabangani. Yena Sathane uzithulele, uzihlalele, uphumlile. Akasenayo pressure. We kill each other. We harm each other. Yena uyamangala ukuthi solo kusolwa yena. He is blamed for what he knows nothing about, just because konkhe okubi kwadalwa nguye.

Asikhangele amaqiniso. Abo Sathane yithi. Mina nawe. Until we stop hating each other sishiyela Sathane ubusathane bakhe, kuzoba yithi abo sathane. Just like the bible says "I have said that you are gods, children of the Most High". We are not God. No. We have the resemblance of God as long as we do the good things. Kanjalo ke, singabosathane umasenza ubusathane.

Niyangizwa ke manj?. Angisho phela? Ehena ke. Sale niyekela busathane. Musani ukubulalana, ukuzondana, ukwenzelana phansi, ukuthakathana. Mind your own business and let Satan mind his evil business. Phumani kubusathane

In a relationship it is important to pay attention to how your partner reacts and responds to crisis and pressure: tyre puncture, work pressure, problematic customer, being delayed in traffic.🤥

How does your partner behave when you didn't meet their expectation, forgot their birthday, didn't buy them a present? Does he or she yell? How do they respond when you express how you genuinely made a mistake and apologised? Punish you? Consider you useless, uncaring and unreliable?🥹

A partner who loses their mind and throws a tantrum over a minor inconvenience will completely disintegrate during a real life tragedy. Ask yourself if your relationship can last tue next summer? Imagine 40 years. 🙉

You don't just want someone who is only fun on vacation. 🙃

You need someone who is lethal in a crisis.🫶

A poem for someone in pain!

We all have hard seasons.
Stages where the ground,
On which we stand
Seems to crumble,
Nothing seems to be in our favour
And the summer heat seems endless.

To know pain, to endure suffering
And to feel as though
The trial will never end
Is to be fully human.
And to become most intimate
With life itself.

“A bad day for the ego
Is a great day for the soul”

From what I can tell
And who truly knows
The way the world works
That which appears to unmake us
Is the very season that rebuilds us.

In reality, our pain becomes a purifier.
Difficulties soften us,
Umask us and open us
Allowing the gifts of wisdom,
Humility and patience
To become our new way of being.

As I listen to a precious song called “For My Little Man” by Cody Ray, on a cool evening on my bed, I write you this poem. So that you remember that these storm and raging heat will pass. Soon winter is coming, for some of us who just love the chilling nights

IShowSpeed was kicked out of their house by his mother at age 16, for what she described as an "irritating obsession" for streaming at the expense of education.

IShowSpeed made his first million dollars when he was just 16 years old.

However, Speed's rise to the top wasn't handed to him on a silver platter. When he first started streaming, nobody was watching.

No fame, no fortune, just a kid with a camera and a dream. He built his empire brick by brick, grinding through countless streams with barely anyone tuning in.

One viewer became two. Two became ten. He kept showing up, day after day, until slowly but surely, people started to notice.

Then one day, lightning struck.

One of his videos went viral, and suddenly the world was paying attention. Speed was in his final year of high school when the money started rolling in.

That's when he made the boldest decision of his life, he dropped out of school completely to focus on streaming full-time.

His mother was absolutely furious.

She felt like every dollar she'd spent on his education had gone down the drain. In her eyes, streaming wasn't a real career, it was a reckless gamble with his future.

The arguments escalated until she reached her breaking point and delivered an ultimatum, "You can't stream in my house."

When Speed refused to quit, she kicked him out. She was so frustrated that she even called his father, venting about how their son had thrown his life away.

But Speed didn't flinch.

He packed his bags, moved out, and doubled down on his streaming career. The money started flowing in like water from a broken dam.

And when Speed finally made it big, really big, one of his proudest moments wasn't buying himself a sports car or a mansion. It was handing his parents the keys to a multi-million-dollar dream home.

His mother's tears of frustration turned into tears of joy.

Fast forward to today, and IShowSpeed is one of the biggest streamers on the planet, boasting over 48 million subscribers.

The kid who was once kicked out for chasing an impossible dream proved that sometimes, you have to burn the boats to discover what you're truly capable of.

The 49th Law of Power Revised by Mitchell "Banknote Mitch" Similton :
Embrace Authenticity

In a world where power often seems synonymous with manipulation and deceit, authenticity stands as a beacon of strength and influence. The 49th Law of Power emphasizes the importance of embracing your true self, values, and beliefs in all endeavors.

Know Thyself
Understand your strengths, weaknesses, and motivations. Embrace your unique qualities and experiences, as they are the foundation of your authenticity.

Be Transparent
Honesty and transparency build trust and credibility. Be open about your intentions and actions, and strive to maintain integrity in all interactions.

Speak Your Truth
Express your thoughts, opinions, and feelings with confidence and conviction. Authentic communication fosters genuine connections and inspires others to do the same.

Lead by Example
Demonstrate authenticity through your actions and decisions. Be consistent in living according to your values, even when faced with challenges or temptations.

Embrace Vulnerability
Recognize that vulnerability is not a weakness but a sign of courage and authenticity. Share your vulnerabilities with humility, knowing that they can strengthen relationships and foster empathy.

Respect Others' Authenticity
Honour the authenticity of others and create an environment where everyone feels empowered to be themselves. Celebrate diversity and appreciate the richness it brings to your personal and professional life.

By embracing authenticity, you not only gain power and influence but also create a more meaningful and fulfilling life for yourself and those around you.

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𝐈𝐦𝐚𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐋𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐈𝐧 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝟔𝟎𝐬 𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝟒𝟎𝐬 𝐀𝐥𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐲 𝐅𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐋𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐚 𝐁𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐥𝐞

We tell ourselves stories, don't we? Stories of graceful aging, of wisdom earned, of a golden twilight filled with leisurely pursuits and contented reflection. And for many, that's a beautiful reality. But for others, especially those already feeling the sharp edges of survival in their 40s, that golden sunset might look more like a looming storm cloud.

Imagine this: you're in your early forties. You still possess a good amount of physical stamina, a decent reserve of emotional resilience, and a mind that, while not as sharp as it once was, can still grapple with challenges. Yet, even with these strengths, you're finding it a struggle to survive. This isn't about thriving, or even comfortably living. This is about making ends meet, navigating complex systems, and simply keeping your head above water.

Perhaps it's a combination of factors: stagnant wages, rising cost of living, unexpected medical bills, the burden of caring for aging parents or younger children, or the sheer exhaustion of a demanding job with little reward. Whatever the reasons, the energy and relative youth of your 40s are being consumed by the daily grind of survival.

Now, here's the chilling thought experiment: How will you manage survival in your 60s?

The prospect is daunting, even terrifying. Those physical reserves will inevitably diminish. The emotional fortitude, stretched thin for years, might fray further. The psychological energy, depleted by relentless pressure, could reach critical levels. If survival is a struggle now, what happens when the tools we rely on begin to weaken?

This isn't a scenario for pessimism, but for honest assessment and proactive planning. If you're in your 40s and already facing these survival hurdles, the next two decades are not a time for complacency. They are a critical window for strategic adaptation.

So, what does "managing survival" in your 60s look like when your 40s are already a fight?

𝐑𝐞-𝐞𝐯𝐚𝐥𝐮𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐃𝐞𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐟 "𝐄𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡"
If the goal is survival, then we need to redefine what "enough" looks like. This might mean a significant shift in lifestyle expectations, letting go of the "dream retirement" and focusing on essential needs. It means making tough choices about wants versus needs, and potentially embracing a more minimalist existence.

𝐁𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐅𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐁𝐮𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫, 𝐇𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐒𝐦𝐚𝐥𝐥
Even if income is limited, every extra dollar saved now becomes a lifeline later. This might involve aggressive budgeting, exploring side hustles, or even liquidating non-essential assets. The goal isn't to become wealthy, but to create a small cushion against unexpected expenses and income dips.

𝐏𝐫𝐢𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡 𝐚𝐬 𝐚 𝐍𝐨𝐧-𝐍𝐞𝐠𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐀𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐭
Our physical health is our most valuable currency, especially as we age. This means making consistent, albeit sometimes difficult, choices to eat well, move our bodies, and manage stress. Ignoring health problems now will only amplify them, and thus the cost of survival, in our 60s.

𝐂𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐒𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐒𝐨𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐒𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐍𝐞𝐭𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤
Survival is rarely a solitary endeavor. Who are your allies? Who can you rely on for practical help, emotional support, or simply a listening ear? Investing in genuine relationships now will pay dividends when you need them most. This could be family, friends, or even community groups.

𝐃𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐥𝐨𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐀𝐝𝐚𝐩𝐭𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐒𝐤𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐊𝐧𝐨𝐰𝐥𝐞𝐝𝐠𝐞
The world keeps changing. What skills are transferable? What knowledge will remain relevant? Learning new things not only keeps the mind engaged but can also open up unexpected avenues for income or assistance in later years. Think about skills that can be leveraged remotely or through part-time work.

𝐍𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐠𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐁𝐮𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐮𝐜𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐲 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐄𝐚𝐫𝐥𝐲 𝐏𝐫𝐞𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧
Dealing with social security, healthcare systems, and other bureaucratic mazes can be incredibly taxing. Trying to navigate these systems when you're already struggling mentally and physically is a recipe for disaster. Starting to understand these processes now, even if you don't need them yet, can save immense stress down the line.

𝐄𝐦𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐬𝐞𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐑𝐞𝐬𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐜𝐞𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬
This is perhaps the most crucial element. Survival demands ingenuity. It means looking at challenges not as insurmountable obstacles, but as problems to be solved with the resources at hand. It's about actively seeking solutions, rather than passively accepting hardship.

For those in their 40s already engaged in the daily battle for survival, the prospect of their 60s can feel like a looming tidal wave. But by acknowledging the reality with clear eyes, and by taking deliberate steps to build resilience, resourcefulness, and a strong support system, the future can be faced not with dread, but with a determined spirit. The fight for survival in your 40s can, in essence, become the training ground for navigating the challenges of your 60s. It's a tough truth, but one that empowers us to act.

𝗡𝗘𝗩𝗘𝗥 𝗙𝗢𝗥𝗖𝗘 𝗔 𝗣𝗘𝗥𝗦𝗢𝗡 𝗧𝗢 𝗟𝗢𝗩𝗘 𝗬𝗢𝗨

Loving a person is not by force, its by choice, never make the mistake of forcing a person into loving you simply because you love them and you want them to love you in return, if you do so you will continue to beg and force them to do everything there is to be done in the relationship.

If it is obvious that a person does not like you, let them go, don't force them, stop asking people to talk to them on your behalf, stop doing everything possible to get their attention, stop trying to seduce them, stop giving them money, gifts and others just to woo them, it makes you look desperate and as such you may not succeed in your quest to get them fall in love with you.

Stop forcing people to feel for you, a heart that didn't love you willingly will never give you its best, they will only end up hurting you, if you force it they will just use and dump you after all they told you they didn't love you but you still went ahead to offer yourself as an offering to them.

You're precious, your worth can't be measured, don't settle for less, don't force yourself on anyone, anyone that should love you, should love you willingly without you having to manipulate your ways into their lives. Place value on yourself only then would people place value on you.

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