Parents Role In Raising Childrens

🇵🇰 Education in vs 🇬🇧 in the

A Deep Dive (Structure, Quality, Challenges & Opportunities)

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1. Overall Philosophy

Pakistan

Education focuses more on content memorization, exams, and textbook learning.

Purpose is seen as getting degrees and jobs, less on creativity and critical thinking (though this is improving).

UK

Strong emphasis on skills, problem-solving, creativity, discussions, and independent thinking.

Education aims to prepare students for real-world challenges, not just exams.

10 things a father must say to his son:

1. “Get back up”

• Let your son learn from his failures, but give him guidance when needed. “Fall down seven times, but get up eight.”

2. “I love you”

• Love the son you have, not the son you want. Fatherly love is unconditional.

3. “It’s okay to be angry, sad, or depressed. It’s NOT okay to stay angry, sad, or depressed.”

• To manage emotions, you must first be able to feel and experience them. A father needs to teach how to manage, understand, and regulate emotions.

4. “Treat your mother with Respect”

• A father needs to treat his wife with respect. No complaining, fighting, or disrespect. A boy learns how to treat women by how his father treats his wife.

5. “I don’t know everything”

• You will be your sons hero… But you don’t know everything. It’s important your son knows he can question authority, because the experts aren’t always right. It’s important to say sorry, and sometimes say you don’t know.

6. “In order to get what you want, you have to deserve what you want.”

• The world isn’t crazy enough to reward a bunch of undeserving people.

7. “You have what it takes. I believe in you.”

• You need to instil a healthy competitive nature, confidence, and self-reliance. A strong father will lay the foundation for self-esteem.

8. “I am proud of you and who you are becoming.”

• You are a hard worker and you’ll figure it out. Your actions will have consequences. You can be anything, but you can’t be everything.

9. “You can’t give what you don’t have.”

• Love. Loyalty. Empathy. Happiness. Show your son and lead by example.

10. “Be a gentleman and stand your ground.”

• Have a strong set of moral principles and do the right thing, even when everyone stands against you…

Protect your values, morals, and defend those who can’t defend themselves.

ABC's Of Successful Marriage...

A bsolutely adore each other.

B est friends.

C ompromise.

D iscover new things together.

E ncourage each other.

F orgive and forget.

G aze into each others eyes.

H old hands and hugs a lot.

I nspire and intrigue each other.

J oke and laugh and have fun.

K eep each other’s secrets.

L ove with all your hearts.

M arvel at each other's talents.

N uture each other's soul.

O vercome problem together.

P ray together.

Q uiet each other's fears.

R emember the little things.

S ay "I love you" everyday.

T ake time for tenderness.

U nderstand and care deeply.

V alue everything you share.

W ish each other even for little things.

X -press your true feelings.

Y earn for each other's touch.

Z zzzz in each other's arm.

May Allah SWT bless us all with a successful marriage Ameen.

“A woman’s best adornment is her modesty.”

— Fatima Al-Zahrah (R.A)

40 positive affirmations that you can use to help children develop a positive self-image:

1) I am a responsible member of my family.
2) I take pride in doing my chores well.
3) I am happy to help out around the house.
4) I am a valuable helper to my family.
5) I show respect by following the rules at home.
6) I listen to my parents and do what is asked of me.
7) I feel good when I do things that make my family happy.
8) I know that my family appreciates it when I help out.
9) I am happy to contribute to my family's well-being.
10) I am grateful for the love and support of my family.
11) I am loved and valued.
12) I am unique and special.
13) I am capable of achieving my dreams.
14) I believe in myself and my abilities.
15) I am strong and resilient.
16) I can learn from my mistakes and grow.
17) I am worthy of love and respect.
18) I am kind and compassionate.
19) I am brave and courageous.
20) I am a good friend to others.
21) I am grateful for all the good things in my life.
22) I am creative and imaginative.
23) I am honest and trustworthy.
24) I am patient and persistent.
25) I am confident in who I am.
26) I am curious and love to learn new things.
27) I am helpful and supportive of others.
28) I am proud of myself and my accomplishments.
29) I am responsible and can make good choices.
30) I am generous and giving.
31) I am optimistic and see the good in everything.
32) I am respectful and treat others the way I want to be treated.
33) I am healthy and take care of my body and mind.
34) I am a problem solver and can find solutions.
35) I am grateful for my family and friends.
36) I am a leader and can inspire others.
37) I am confident in my abilities to handle challenges.
38) I am talented and have unique gifts to share.
39) I am worthy of success and happiness.
40) I am deserving of love and kindness.

Encourage your children to think about ways they can be helpful at home and remind them that their contributions are valued and appreciated.

By focusing on the positive aspects of helping out and being obedient, children can develop a sense of pride and ownership in their role as a member of the family.

Additionally, encourage your children to repeat these affirmations to themselves regularly, either in the morning, before bed, or whenever they need a boost of confidence or positivity.

With time and practice, positive affirmations can become a powerful tool for building self-esteem, resilience, and a positive outlook on life.

By teaching children how to practice positive self-talk and encouraging them to take an active role in contributing to the family, you are helping them build a strong foundation for a happy and successful life which would lead to becoming responsible adults.

The Best Wife ..

1. Listens to her husband and does her best to please him.

2. Always considers her husband's well being.

3. Does not give the husband stress but gives him peace of mind.

4. Does not spend more than her husband earns.

5. Helps her husband at the time of problems.

6. Has patience when the husband doesn't treat her justly.

7. Behaves and dresses modestly.

8. Learns and practises Islam and teaches her husband too.

9. Does her best to raise their children in an islamic way.

Respect your wife, She is the woman who left her whole family to live with you, She is the woman who left her parent's, her siblings which she had been living with since the day she was born, for you, She is the woman who'll complete half of your deen, She is the woman that Allah has made permissible for your eyes to see, your hands to touch, your arms to hold, She is the woman who carries your baby in her womb for nine months she endure alot of pain in all this, she struggles to climb stairs, she get's breathless quickly and even a simple task like putting her shoes on is a huge struggle for her, She suffere's many sleepless nights while you sleep easily, she than went's through excruciating Pain to bring your child into this world, she goes through it all for you.

Learn to respect your wife, She is half of your deen not a servant for you or your family, a woman who goes through all this pain for you deserves love and compassion from you, As you are the half of deen, off her, respect and love your wife remember together you can make this test easy for both of you, and Insha’Allah your tale will continue in the Hereafter, Insha'Allah.

As the Prophet Muhammad SAW said “The best of you are those who are best to their wives.” [Hadith Al-Tirmidhi]

اپنی لڑائیوں کا انتخاب دانشمندی سےکریں


زندگی میں لا تعداد مواقع ایسے آتے ہیں جب ہم بات کا بتنگڑ بنا سکتے ہیں یا پھر اسے نظر انداز کر کے آگے بڑھ سکتے ہیں کیونکہ درحقیقت وہ بات توجہ کی مستحق نہیں ہوتی۔ اگر آپ اپنے محاذ کا انتخاب دانشمندی سے کریں گے تو آپ کے پاس درحقیقت اہم محاذوں پر لڑنے کے لئے درکار توانائی برقرار رہے گی۔

ایسے مواقع آئیں گے جب آپ بحث کرنا چاہیں گے، کسی سے مقابلے پر اتر آئیں گے یا اپنے کسی موقف کی حمایت میں ڈٹ جائیں گے۔ اکثر لوگ ایسے بھی ہوتے ہیں جو چھوٹی چھوٹی باتوں پر مزاحمت کر کر کے اپنی زندگی کو لڑائیوں کی سیریز بنا لیتے ہیں۔ ایسی زندگی سے ان کی ذہنی بے سکونی میں اضافہ ہی ہوتا ہے ۔

چھوٹی چھوٹی نا اتفاقیاں بڑے بڑے مسائل کو جنم دے سکتی ہیں اور یہ ناخوشی اور بے سکونی کا نسخہ بن جاتی ہیں۔

حقیقت یہ ہے کہ زندگی میں سب کچھ ہماری خواہش کے مطابق نہیں ہوتا۔ نہ ہی دوسرے لوگ ویسا کرتے ہیں جیسا ہم ان سے توقع رکھتے ہیں۔ لمحہ بہ لمحہ زندگی میں کبھی وہ ہوتا ہے جو ہماری خواہش ہوتی ہے اور کبھی وہ جو ہم نہیں چاہتے۔

کبھی لوگ ہماری بات سے متفق نہیں ہوتے ،کبھی لوگ ہمارے طریقے سے کام نہیں کرتے، اور کبھی ہماری کوششوں کا متوقع نتیجہ نہیں نکلتا۔ اگر آپ ان سب چیزوں پر ضد کر کے ان کو اپنے حق میں کرنا چاہیں گے تو آپکی زندگی ہمہ وقت کسی نہ کسی محاذ پر لڑتے ہی گزرے گی۔

پرسکون زندگی جینے کے لئے بہتر ہے کہ سوچ لیا جائے کہ کس جگہ لڑنا سود مند ہو گا اور کس لڑائی سے اجتناب بہتر رہے گا۔

ہر چیز کا بالکل ٹھیک ہونا ضروری نہیں ہوتا کچھ بے ضرر سمجھوتے انسان کو مستقل ذہنی دباؤ سے محفوظ کر دیتے ہیں۔

ہمیشہ ضروری نہیں ہوتا کہ آپ یہ ثابت کریں کہ آپ ٹھیک ہیں اور مد مقابل غلط ہے۔ کسی کی معمولی غلطی کو پکڑ کر بیٹھ جانا یا کسی کے منہ سے نکلے کسی جملے میں بال کئ کھال اتارنا آپکو ذہنی سکون نہیں دے گا۔

کس ریسٹورنٹ میں اور کیا کھانا ہے اس پر طویل بحث آوٹنگ کا سارا مزا کرکرا کر دے گی۔ کونسی فلم کو ن سا ڈرامہ دیکھنا چاہیئے اس پر بحث کرنے سے تفریح کاسارا موڈ ہی غارت ہو جائے گا۔

آپکی کار پر پڑوسی کے بچے نے خراش ڈال دی اور آپ اس پر واویلا مچا دیں ،کسی اور پڑوسی نے آپکی پارکنگ کا خیال نہیں کیا اور آپ کھانا کھاتے ہوئے بھی ان باتوں پر کڑھ رہے ہیں ۔ ایسی کئی چھوٹی چھوٹی باتوں پر جلتے بھنتے کڑھتے ہم میں سے بہت سے لوگ اپنی زندگی جئے جا رہے ہیں۔

آپ کن کن باتوں پر آزردہ رہتے ہیں ؟ ان باتوں کی فہرست مرتب کر لیں۔ اگر اس فہرست میں ایسی ہی ملتی جلتی لڑائیاں ہیں جیسی کہ بیان کی گئی ہیں تو یہی وقت ہے کہ اپنی ترجیحات کا تعین کر لیں۔

اگر اپنی لڑائیوں کا انتخاب دانشمندی سے کرتے رہے تو وہ وقت دور نہیں جب کوئی بے سود لڑائی لڑنے کی ضرورت ہی باقی نہیں رہے گی۔