Random thoughts of Introvert

Ghosted, Yet Not Forgotten: Why Lingering Feelings Hurt the Most

Have you ever encountered the feelings for someone who vanished without a word or leaving only silence behind? And then when the connection has ended your feelings remain? The feeling of fallen for someone who slipped away and yet your heart still chooses to remember. That’s what we called an Unrequited Love & Lingering Attachment

These kinds of situations usually begin when you try to get to know someone, whether in person or online. Especially through a dating app, an endless swipe of a dating app. Match here, match there, you cross paths with countless faces. But then, out of the countless people, there’s a one person who captivate your attention and that’s where your feelings begin to grow. Because of the shared moments and constant conversations, the stronger the connection grows between you. But then the day came.... the voice that once filled your days falls silent. Out of nowhere, they vanish and leaving no explanation behind.

It hurts right? You don’t know what happened, what went wrong, or why they suddenly disappeared. You tried to reach out, hoping for an answer, but none came. Instead, you find yourself blocked, cut off and unable to see them anywhere online as if they vanished without a trace. It leaves you in overwhelming sadness. You thought everything was fine between you, but it turns out, it wasn’t.

You know what hurts the most? Realizing it was only you who thought everything was okay, only you who had feelings. In short, it was one-sided.

The reasons why we often end up with unrequited love or lingering attachment it’s because we see the person as our ‘perfect match’ and fill in the missing pieces of the story with our own imagination. Sometimes, even in the shortest moments when you invest your time, your energy and your feelings. Attachment begins to grow. That’s why ghosting hurts so much because you were left hanging on to your own idealizations.

And so, the next time you allow yourself to know someone, remember to be wiser. Set boundaries early, don’t give all your emotions right away, especially when there’s no clear label. Look at actions, not just words, If they’re inconsistent, accept that they’re not as committed as you are. Ground yourself in reality, Remember, not every connection will last, and not every spark is love. Accept closure even without explanation, sometimes, the silence they leave behind is the clearest answer you’ll ever get. And last, shift your focus, instead of drowning in questions of why they left, focus on the wisdom the experience gave you and how it can guide your growth moving forward.

Remember, just because you’ve experienced this once doesn’t mean every story will end the same. Learn to be wise with the next person but keep your heart open to those who are ready to love you fully. Sometimes, being ghosted isn’t rejection at all, but redirection leading you to the one who will truly stay.

POST-MOVIE BLUES

Have you ever fallen in love or attached to one of the characters in a movie you watched? And then after you finished it you realized that it was a Fictional Character only. That’s what we called a “Post-Movie Blues”.

Most of us enjoy watching movies as a way to unwind, escape daily stress or spend quality time with loved ones. However, there’s always that one film that stays with us or leaves a deep impression and becomes our all-time favorite. Maybe the film stood out to you because of its compelling story, amazing cast or you fell in love with one of the characters in that movie. Sometimes you’ve reached the point where you’ve digging into that movies history and discovering other films connected to it. Or you’ve also find yourself searching for the cast, especially the one who caught your attention. Because you’re so attached to the movie of your favorite character, you’ve ended up watching related films or other shows featuring the actor just to revive the experience. But nothing can beat his role in that movie because you were completely captivating by him.

It’s strange, right? It’s just a movie but it captures your full attention.

Now that you’re deeply attached to that character and knowing no other role can compare, a strange realization hits, you’ve fallen for someone who doesn’t even exist. It’s unsettling to know that the movie has ended and yet it feels like a part of you was left behind in that world.

Maybe that’s just the way it works. Hats off to the filmmakers and actors who bring characters to life and leave a lasting impact. With so many movies out there, only a few really leave a mark, my respect goes to them.

What about you? Is there a movie of character that has stayed with you? Was it from horror, comedy, fantasy, action, romance or something else? Drop a comment and don’t forget to follow this page for more Random Thoughts of an Introvert.

ARE YOU IN THE EXISTENTIAL CRISIS STAGE?

Have you ever questioning your purpose in life? Have you ever feel anxiety, dreads, sadness or hopelessness? Doubting about your chosen career or relationship? The feeling of isolation or disinterest. Struggling with motivation and sometimes thoughts about your death? Have you ever feel that your life lacks purpose or direction?

Probably you're in an Existential Crisis stage.


Based on my research, existential crisis is a phase in life where a person questions the meaning, purpose or value of their existence.

Existential crisis can happen at any age. However, it develops from several triggers during life transitions or challenges.

One of the cause of Existential Crisis is a “Major Life Changes” an events like lost of job or career shift. Lost of loved one or end of a long term relationship is also an example of major life changes that can trigger a person to questions their purpose or meaning of their life.

Experiencing a “Traumatic Event” is also a cause of Existential Crisis such as having a serious illness, loss of money due to another person's fraudulent scheme or other personal loss that can provoke you to questions about the fairness of life.

Sometimes the cause of this crisis is about “Age-Related Milestone”. People tend to reassess their goals if they achieved it at the right time. You always ask yourself if what have you accomplished at your current age? Or sometimes wondering if you’re left behind.

Prolonged “Loneliness or Disconnection" from other people can lead to feelings of emptiness and you may also feel a loss of purpose.

“Achieved your Personal Goal” and feel dissatisfied is also a cause of Existential Crisis because you may lead to feel that your purpose is over since you have already accomplish your goals. You think you've done it and you're wondering what to do next.

However, despite the fact that the Existential Crisis is one the most difficult phase in our lives, there are still ways to deal with it and renewed our sense of purpose such as Acknowledge and Accept your Feelings, Focus on Personal Values and Goals, Meditation or Journaling, Engage in Purposeful Activities, Talk to Others and Seek Perspective from Philosophy/Literature.

Embracing your journey with an Existential Crisis Situation you can come into view of a clearer and more fulfilling perspective on life. Because in agreement with what I’ve read, an Existential Crisis doesn’t signify a lack of meaning; it's an opportunity to define what meaning truly is for you.

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ARE YOU AN AVERAGE PERSON?

Are you an average person? “Yung marunong ka pero hindi ka magaling? Yung kaya mo naman pero hindi ka lang talaga magaling.”

It's been a year since I didn't post anything here about my random thoughts. Yes, I'm also an introvert person with an average skills like some of you guys, or let's just say that we're just only the typical or the normal one. Of course we're not saying that we want to be the best, But you know? We want to be good at something, We want to be good at that skill. But, unfortunately we're just only the usual person.

The questions is, Why does a person become average? “Bakit marunong ka lang at hindi ka magaling?”

Based on what I've read, Our day just repeats itself, It's like a routine. Make coffee in the morning, go to work from 8am-5pm, go home and watch Netflix or scroll through social media. In short, sounds like you have a regular activities on a daily basis.
The second one, Your social circle is a mirror image. Maybe the people you interact every day are just average like you. Same thoughts, same habits, so you don't encounter anything new or you don't challenge yourself.

Or if you encounter something new or a challenge, maybe you are afraid of Risk and Challenges and you just only stay in your comfort zone, you are afraid to try something that you might not be able to do and fail. Apparently, you think that the result will be negative when you try to start something new.
Because you don't embrace failure and you're uncomfortable with disagreement. You feel embarrassed when you fail or when someone disagrees with you or to your idea, you get discouraged or you lose confidence once the negative result happens.

Maybe you have a lot of ideas, but instead of converting them into actions, they just only stay in your thoughts because you only consume more than you create.

Or probably, you're good at that skill but you hesitate to do it because that thing is not in demand in our generation because you measure the capacity of excellence by society’s ruler.

So, if you think you are an average person, It's not bad. Perhaps, maybe you're just average in what you're doing right now but possible you're good at something else, because according to the experts the average person has up to 700 skills ready to be use at anytime. So what are you waiting for? Try to explore your skills and do that with confidence so you can bring out the best version of yourself.

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ARE YOU AN INTROVERTED PERSON?

Are you an introverted person? If not, you must read this. Especially if you want to know the personality of an introvert you encounter on a daily basis.

Most people define introverts as a shy, loner, quiet, snobbish, not talking or interacting enough and etc. but the truth is most of that are negative connotation of an introvert.

One of the fact of being an introvert is “Introvert aren’t always silent”. They are also conversational especially to someone they are comfortable with, some of them are love ones, best friend and family member. They loved deep conversations, they don’t want small talk especially when they don’t feel comfortable talking to the person in front of them, it gives them awkward feeling.

Second is “Introvert aren’t always alone”. Yes, most of the time you will see them alone but you also see them with a group of people like friends, colleagues and in a crowd as well. However, they still prefer to be alone. And do you know what is interesting about them? They can gain enjoyment form spending time alone.

Next is “Introverts are deep thinkers”. They feel more comfortable focusing on their inner thoughts and ideas rather than what’s happening externally. Sometimes, they think out of the box as a result, they’ll be better able to learn new things, come up with new strategies and create plan to implement their new found knowledge.

And also “Introverts are confident too”. Introversion is not about lack of confident. Therefore, introverts are confident people, they can express themselves on their unique way. They don’t try to copy what others are doing because they follow their interests so they may genuinely share it with others.

And those are some of the fact about introverted person. So if you think you are one of them, you are an amazing person or if not and know someone who is an introvert, get to know them because these are their interesting characteristics.

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