Everyday Gist With Rume

Every marriage has challenges, but the right partner makes it worthwhile.

The problem is not that he is busy… the problem is priority.

People always make time for what matters to them.
If they can’t find time for you, it simply means you are not important enough in their schedule.

No one is too busy for what they value. 💔

Everybody knows that most of the time it’s the money and the benefits that come with being a side chick to a married man that attracts some girls.

Let’s be honest.

But the part I don’t understand is this…
If you already know he is married and you’re there for the benefits, why now get pregnant for him?

Why turn it into something that will cause serious pain, drama and scatter someone’s home?

If the plan was just to enjoy the benefits, won’t it be wiser to enjoy it quietly and move on instead of bringing a child into the whole situation?

Sometimes I really wonder how people think in situations like this. 🤔

What do you think?

Some people are just too mean and wicked.
You leave your own marriage because of irreconcilable differences, then enter a relationship with someone else’s husband and scatter another woman’s home.

Tell me, what do we call this? 🤔

Let’s be honest.
Many girls are not in relationships because of love, they are there because of hunger.

The moment you can’t meet their expectations, a married man or sugar daddy suddenly appears as a “backup plan.”

If house was really good, what would a young girl be doing with an old man or somebody’s husband?

Sometimes it’s not love.
It’s just survival strategy.

What makes someone lose feelings for a partner they’ve been married to for years?

People think it happens suddenly, but most times it’s a slow process.

Sometimes it’s emotional disconnection you’re living together but no longer truly talking or sharing things.

Sometimes it’s too many unresolved arguments. Small issues keep piling up until love slowly turns into resentment.

It can also be lack of appreciation. When someone feels taken for granted for too long, the feelings start fading.

For some couples, it’s routine and boredom. The relationship becomes predictable and nobody is putting effort to keep the spark alive.

Other times, people simply grow in different directions. The person you married years ago is not the same person today.

And in some cases, poor communication or lack of intimacy creates distance between both partners.

The truth is, feelings rarely disappear overnight.
Most times, they slowly fade while both partners ignore the warning signs.

💬 What do you think makes people lose feelings in long-term relationships?

After spending time in prison, the Nollywood actor Baba Ijesha recently shared his own side of the story.

According to him, someone he considered a friend, Princess, invited him over, telling him she was preparing his favorite meal, pounded yam and egusi soup with bush meat. He also said he was told there was a movie role for him to rehearse, but he claims he later realized it was a setup that eventually led to his arrest and imprisonment at Kirikiri Prison.

Whether his story is true or not, one thing is certain: many men’s downfall in life has come from two things, food and women.

If a man can control his stomach and control his desires, he has already solved most of the problems that destroy men’s reputation, career, and family name.

Many great men did not fall because they lacked talent… they fell because they lacked discipline.

Men, learn control. Not every invitation is harmless.

People say poverty tests loyalty.
I don’t completely agree.

A man’s loyalty is not really tested when he is broke.
It’s tested when he finally has money and options.

Because when a man has nothing, staying is easy.
But when money and attention start coming, that’s when true character shows.

Do you agree? 🤔

Don’t Even Think About Marrying These 8 Types of Women 🚩

1. The “Always Right” Woman 🥇 – Never admits mistakes; every argument is on you.

2. The Jealous Type 😡 – Possessive over everything and everyone; trust is nonexistent.

3. The Lazy / No Ambition Woman 🛋️ – Has no goals or drive; life together becomes stagnant.

4. The Clingy / Overly Dependent 🤝 – Needs constant attention and validation; independence matters.

5. The Secretive / Two-Faced 🕵️‍♀️ – Hides things or says one thing to you, another elsewhere; honesty is non-negotiable.

6. The Social Media Obsessed 📱
Life revolves around likes and validation online more than the family. Marriage needs focus in real life.

7. The Temperamental / Hot-Head 🔥
Quick to anger and slow to forgive. Emotional stability is crucial in a partner.

8. The Control Freak 👑
Wants to micromanage every aspect of your life. Marriage is teamwork, not a dictatorship.

Sometimes the problem is not that a woman doesn’t want a serious relationship… it’s that she keeps meeting the wrong type of men.

Let’s be honest, some men are good for vibes, but not for commitment.

Types of Men to Avoid If You Want a Serious Relationship 🚩in the comment section 👇👇

Some people are loyal not because they love you… but because they don’t have better options yet. 👀💔🔥

Why do some people enjoy checking their partner’s phone so much? 🤔

Some people don’t just check phones… they go as far as cloning their partner’s phone just to monitor every message and call. 🤣🙆

At that point, I honestly start to wonder… is that love, or the highest level of insecurity and low self-esteem?

Let’s be honest, what exactly will you do with the information you’re desperately looking for when you don’t even have the courage to leave a cheating partner?

If you eventually find the proof you’re looking for, will you walk away… or cry and wallow in self-pity?

Sometimes it’s better to work on trust, boundaries, and self-respect than turning yourself into a full-time detective in a relationship.

💬 Let’s talk: Do you think checking your partner’s phone is normal, or does it show there’s already trust issue ?