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*DEAR YOUNG GUYS AT THE AGE OF 25 TO 30*

Don't make mistakes some of our Fathers or Senior Brothers made.

Marry now with the little you have. Don't wait to
be a millionaire, Have kids early so you can grow
with them. Grow with your kids and succeed with
your wife. You will never finish making money or
achieving your plans. You might still not succeed
at your target year. So start your life early, with
consistency you will grow.

My father said this to me: _When i was 25, i was
talking about making billions before i marry.
Many years later, billions didn't come, yet no kid
no wife... I had an opportunity to marry the most beautiful love
of my life very early, But my fear was, can i
really take care of her? But right now She's married with
Four grown up children. The guy that married her
was still schooling then, but had the courage.
They worked hard and succeeded together. I
failed, so please if you can feed yourself, you can
feed your wife. You have to believe it, marry
early, don't wait.

Don't make our mistakes, I see
my childhood friends play with their kids.. Most
of them are not doing as well as me.. But they
are happier with their families..
Trust me it isn't money only, but Rather your Maturity, your
happiness depends entirely on your wisdom and the way you Handle Life. With
a well planned life they are happier.

Trust me it
isn't money, What is our problem? Build mansion, buy the latest Car in Town, marry Sharon stone type, but still we don't have those things we dreamt of,
and of course the years we wasted, we can never have them neverrrr!!!_

Please don't be 60yrs old and your kids will still
be in their 20's..What are you supposed to be at
that age? Their grand father.
Please young men, take my advice seriously.

Marry, don't be afraid, that girl you are finding too many
fault in has many good qualities if you look well.

Don't think you will get every thing before you
settle down. God can change your life in a blink,
with a good and Focus wife by your side, you will succeed
by God grace....Amen... Detoriel cares...

SIGNS OF IMMATURITY IN MARRIAGE FOR MEN:

1. Rejecting food when there's an issue:
Mr husband, you gave your wife money for
food and after it was prepared you refused
to eat because you are angry. It's one of the greatest signs of immaturity, it's time to grow up! You should not even abandon your home for any reason. You could go somewhere when angry but ensure that you don't allow it to linger unnecessarily because that is enough for the devil to build on even though some women can be really troublesome.

2. Telling your wife severally that you are the head:

May I let you know that even when your wife disobeys/ disrespect you she still knows that you are the head. You need not shout or scream it daily. Or do we need to get you a slot on CNN? It's important for you to know when and how to be firm and put your feet down over issues, however don't become a nagging husband just to prove that you are the head.

3. Issuing threats:

beating, verbally abusing
your wife, issuing threats of divorce or
bragging about marrying another wife does
not make you a man. An EMPTY barrel makes the loudest noise. Your strength is in your ability to tame your tongue and control your fist. When she is acting her "childish woman" part, play the "matured man."

4. Reporting your wife to friends and family:

When your wife offends you, correct
and talk things through. You don't have to tell everyone about her mistakes, that will paint her black and sell her cheap such that you will not be able to redeem her back.
By the way, are you a reporter answer my question ?

5. Keeping malice:

is it not funny to know that some men keep malice? Some of them even nag, criticise, abuse and call their wives names in public. It may make you look like a "big boy" who's in control but you are not going to gain anything good from it, your home will only be a den of insults and confrontations.

6. Not helping with house chores:
I must say here that it is the sole responsibility of a woman to tend and manage a home when she chooses to be a full time house wife.
However, it's not a bad thing if a man lends a helping hand when necessary. Watching football with newspaper in your hand every evening, not caring how stressful the house chores are will only increase the pressure on your wife and if you truly care you'll help, just checking on her while busy could encourage and sooth her, this also makes you a good example to the kids especially the boys. Some men don't even say "thank You" to their wives after eating, all they do is compare her with other women. It's a shame that after having 3-4 kids some men cannot change a simple diaper or
prepare cereal meals; a big shame.

My point Adeola Oluwatobi Gbenga
A REAL man is a pillar of support to his wife, not a hole of depression.

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WHAT IT MEANS TO MARRY A BEST FRIEND

Young people get confused when you tell them to get married to their best friend. The question that follows is "how can I marry my best friend when I don't feel love for such a person?" What if my best friend is having a lover? Does that mean they should leave their lover for me? What if they don't see me as a lover but just a friend?

To marry your best friend doesn't mean go and propose love to a best friend you already have or force them to be in a relationship with you. This is far from that.

Marrying your best friend means you should build a friendship with the stranger who approaches you in the name of love, dating or marriage. Allow the friendship to grow into best friends before you agree to marry them.

That is what getting married to a best friend is. A best friend who doesn't just like you but also loves you. A friend who doesn't just enjoy your company but also has a strong attraction towards you. That's a partner who is not with you because of s*x, money or what you can give them.

People go in search of love hoping to find someone with a beautiful heart, but end up disappointed because the beauty suddenly turned into something ugly. Yesterday they were so much important but today they feel worthless. You need to know that a beautiful face doesn't equal a beautiful heart and it is very difficult but possible to find someone with the two. The only person you can easily find both with is a child.

This is an adult you want to settle down with as a spouse, someone who has been through a lot and is no more innocent. You need time to know them and build a friendship that can save your union whenever loves fails.

To have a best marriage, you need someone who talks to you like best friends without getting tired of you. You need someone who understands the phrase "all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy". Marriage is work but you need fun to spice it up. You need a friend who plays with you like children do.

Being just husband and wife can sometimes be boring and annoying; like having a husband who orders the wife around, cook, serve me, etc without understand her needs to also be served, pampered, and feel affectionate.

Just being husband and wife can lead to lots of arguments; the wife trying to question every action and decision of the husband, spouses at each other's throat, competing for the leadership spot of their union.

It's painful to know some husbands love the beauty and body of their wives but not she as a person. It is same with some wives who respect the money their husbands have or give them but reserve no respect for the husband as a person. You don't need such people to make your marriage work. You need a friend who loves you in person not what you have or can do for them.

In conclusion "Some friendships do not last, but some friends are more loyal than brothers" - Proverbs 18:24 (GNT).

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ADVICE TO LADIES!! See What Happens Next The Moment You Agree To Date A Married Man,

The moment you agree to date a married man, you agree to be a second class woman, and every second class person is classified as a person of lower values. Now look at it this way.. If he is with you & his wife calls, he lies that he is still at the office or on an official assignment.You dare not interrupt his conversation or query him. But you can't call him when he is at home with family.....

My sisters, you be toy? He sneaks you from his car into his hotel room but gives his wife his entire home.....

My beloved sisters grow up, please! He visits you at home & you introduce him to friends & neighbours as your boyfriend thereby blocking your chances of getting a genuine suitor, yet
you don't even know the name of the street where he lives.....

My sisters, how long will you continue to sacrifice your future? He takes you out & buys you assorted types of alcoholic drinks, yet he will never allow his wife taste even a drop of alcoholic drink. Common sense should tell you he is only doing that to get you drunk so he can truly destroy you in bed......

My dear sisters, na your body good pass for experiment? He gets you pregnant & gives you money for abortion, but when his wife gets pregnant he celebrates & gives her money for antenatal & baby things......

My sisters remember he is already raising his family. Oh just in case you don't know, he describes your emotions when he is with his friends but will never mention whatever happens between him & his wife. This makes all his friends see a lesser human in you......

My sisters, na your matter them take they drink beer ooo. He gives you a few cash & you're happy not knowing that whatever money he gives you is what he calls "Body no be firewood allowances" You have his picture on your phone & saved his number as "My Sweetheart" or whatever, yet your
picture cannot be found on his phone & your number is saved on his phone as generator mechanic or refuse dispose........

My lovely sisters, you be learner? PLEASE let's give ourselves a proper re-evaluation today. Please help me to pass this message round to educate our ladies by tagging each & everyone on your page. Just a piece of advice.Thanks.

In all sincerity...

*BLISSFUL HOME TONIC*

*Secret 1*
Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his or her strength.

*Secret 2*
Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future.

*Secret 3*
Every marriage has its own challenges. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow *For better for worse*. In sickness and in health be there.

*Secret 4*
Every marriage has different levels of success. Don't compare your marriage with any one else. We can never be equal. Some will be far, some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true.

*Secret 5*
To get married is declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:
Ignorance
Prayerlessness
Unforgiveness
Third party influence
Stinginess
Stubbornness
Lack of love
Rudeness
Laziness
Disrespect
Cheating
Anger
Verbal abuse
_Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone._

*Secret 6*
There is no perfect marriage. There is no ready made marriage. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it. Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. Let us not be careless about our marriages.

*Secret 7*
God cannot give you a complete person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of raw materials in order for you to mould the person that you desire. This can only be achieved through prayer, love and Patience

*Secret 8*
Getting married is taking a huge risk. You can not predict what will happen in the future. Situations may change so leave room for adjustments. Husband or wife can lose his or her good job or you may fail to have babies. All these require you to be prayerful otherwise you might divorce.

*Secret 9*
Marriage is not a contract. It is permanent. It needs total commitment. Love is the glue that sticks the couple together. Divorce start in the mind and the devil feeds the mind. Never ever entertain thoughts of getting a divorce. Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married. God hates divorce.

*Secret 10*
Every marriage has a price to pay. Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money that you deposit that you withdraw. If you don't deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate for a blissful home.

*So today let us pray for our marriages and ask God to help us where we are lacking in the marriage. May God bless you. I love you all.*
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HOW TO KEEP THE LADY YOU ARE DATING:

Do you love your girl and you don't want another man to sn**ch her from you? Then do the following things:
1. Give her plenty of attention. If you give her attention, she will not seek for attention elsewhere. Chat with her online via social media or else another man will.
2. Give her listening ears whenever she is speaking to you. Avoid pressing your phone or reading a newspaper when your girl is talking to you.
3. Do not promise her and fail. Do not promise her what you cannot do. It is better for you to say you don't have than to promise and fail.
4. Do not be stingy. Avoid telling her that you don't have, you don't have all the time.
5. Be caring. To be caring does not only mean you should be giving her money. There are many ways of showing care; e.g show concern whenever she is sad or in problems; be by her side when she is in problems, do not abandon her in her days of sorrow.
6. Tell her daily that she is beautiful.
7. Tell her daily that you love her.
8. Play with her and joke with her daily.
9. Don't be too hard and don't be too soft. Scold her a little, and pet her a little. Do not over pet or over scold.
10. Love her siblings, and respect her parents.
11. Appreciate her when she helps you to do something.
12. Allow her to advise you, seek her suggestions and respect her opinions.
13. Respect her.
14. Do not take her for granted.
15. Do not cheat on her.
16. Play with her hairs
17. kiss her on her forehead, cheek and neck. It will pass a good message to her.
18. Let her sit on your lap sometimes.

Agree or Disagree?

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ADVISE TO LADIES!! See What Happens Next The Moment You Agree To Date A Married Man,

The moment you agree to date a married man, you agree to be a second class woman, and every second class person is classified as a person of lower values. Now look at it this way.. If he is with you & his wife calls, he lies that he is still at the office or on an official assignment.You dare not interrupt his conversation or query him. But you can't call him when he is at home with family.....

My sisters, you be toy? He sneaks you from his car into his hotel room but gives his wife his entire home.....

My beloved sisters grow up, please! He visits you at home & you introduce him to friends & neighbours as your boyfriend thereby blocking your chances of getting a genuine suitor, yet
you don't even know the name of the street where he lives.....

My sisters, how long will you continue to sacrifice your future? He takes you out & buys you assorted types of alcoholic drinks, yet he will never allow his wife taste even a drop of alcoholic drink. Common sense should tell you he is only doing that to get you drunk so he can truly destroy you in bed......

My dear sisters, na your body good pass for experiment? He gets you pregnant & gives you money for abortion, but when his wife gets pregnant he celebrates & gives her money for antenatal & baby things......

My sisters remember he is already raising his family👪👪👪. Oh just in case you don't know, he describes your emotions when he is with his friends but will never mention whatever happens between him & his wife. This makes all his friends see a lesser human in you......

My sisters, na your matter them take they drink beer ooo. He gives you a few cash & you're happy not knowing that whatever money he gives you is what he calls "Body no be firewood allowances" You have his picture on your phone & saved his number as "My Sweetheart" or whatever, yet your
picture cannot be found on his phone & your number is saved on his phone as generator mechanic or refuse disposer 👈👈👈........

My lovely sisters, you be learner? PLEASE let's give ourselves a proper re-evaluation today. Please help me to pass this message round to educate our ladies by tagging each & everyone on your page Biko👏👏👏 Just a piece of advice.Thanks🙌🙌🙌 copied...

S*X, LOVE AND VIRGINITY!!!
A lot of girls complain that guys walk away from
them simply because,they refused giving them
s*x,some are even tempted to give away their
virginity just to keep the guys
- Let_me_be_very_blunt_here...
Virginity may not be the real reason why the guys
go away, yes, no doubt, there are several guys who
want s*x, and if they don't get it, they walk away...
The problem may not be the virginity or the s*x...
The story of the Ten virgins in the Bible reveals that
both the wise and the foolish were virgins; the other
Five were not allowed seeing the bridegroom not
because they were virgins or because they lost their
virginity...
NO! But because they were foolish and they were
called foolish because they had no EXTRA_OIL .
And the EXTRA OIL here is CHARACTER!
Most girls do not have extra oil to sustain any
relationship, while many brag about their virginity,
that's all they have to offer.
Aside your virginity, what do you have to offer to a
man?
- Can you support him spiritually?
- Can you support him physically?
- How about mentally?
All you do is demand money for bag , shoes
, clothes , and outing, making him
spend unnecessarily.
Have you ever sit him down, and you help him plan
about his future?
Has he ever seen you as someone he can confide
in?
How many times has he come being in a state of
dilemma seeking advice from you?
Rather than jumping from one club to another.
And for the virgins, they forget that virginity ends
after the wedding, but EXTRA OIL continues...
Yes... Nobody is perfect...
We all have our bad sides...
BUT...
Try to be a woman that a man will always regret
losing for the rest of his life...
Be that woman that your man can never afford to
lose to another man .
Build your man to your taste...
And stop looking for a ready made husband
* Force yourself on that rich dude that you didn't
work with to achieve what he has...,
And hear the story of your life from him one day
- Did You Work With me to achieve all I've got?
- Ever since you've entered this house... What has
added to what you met?
* Note:
- There's just nothing as best as building up your
man yourself.
- And you will forever earn his respect .
I hope this piece of advice is useful to all singles
and married?

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DEAR LADIES : BITTER TRUTH YOU MUST SWALLOW :

1. S*x doesn't keep a man, if you like, turn 360% on bed, he will still dump you. Bleach until you become white, if he doesn't notice the qualities of a wife in you, he will leave you.
2. A man who win your love with cash may not stay forever. Real men doesn't settle down with fake women who love money.
3. The beauty of a woman can take her to a Palace but her character will determine how long she stays in the palace. Beauty attracts men but character keep them.
4. Material things definitely has its merits but it cannot alone provide the riches of a truly meaningful life.
5. Being s*xy without a character will not get you a husband, you will only get a boyfriend.
6. S*x can bring pleasure but it can never bring love, s*x is a product of love, love is not a product of s*x.
7. S*x can make a man stay with you overnight but love will make him stay for a lifetime.
8. There are some things that money just can't buy like manners, moral and integrity.
9. How you dress will definitely determine how men will address you.
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