AMIT K. MITRA

When did you last feel REALLY happy? Happy as in long lasting happiness that lingered on and on? Gave you that carefree feel of floating on air?

Chances are that the answers will be difficult for most of us. Momentary “feel good” moments may be there, but a lasting “feel good” is elusive.

We take everything seriously. We lead and plan our lives by shouldering the weight of the world. We let everything be our “problem” to solve. We sacrifice our time and energy (precious resources) for someone else’s riches and leave little room to nourish our own needs. We remain wedded to yesterday’s past with regrets and wonder, constantly worrying and obsessing about what the future will hold. We torture ourselves when things don’t pan out just right.

In the complex transformation of growing up and turning adult we are manoeuvred through an invisible threshold society expects us all to pass. It means we have to live up to expectations of the external, constantly be in the motion to do the right things, to never fail, to always be responsible.

We forget what the grass under our feet feels like, what fun it is to play in the rain, how it feels to simply jump up and down when we do or solve or learn something new, how it is to be drowned in doing things of our own interests completely oblivious of what is happening out there in the world. We have traded freedom and fun in turning into conforming adults.

Why not try finding out the dormant child within? Laughing out loud real and true from the gut, hugging it out to reignite that magic of physical comfort, ask crazy questions and rekindle inquisitiveness, do a quick jog of glee, and, start dreaming those crazy childhood dreams, trying out to shape one or two of them.

You never know, your true calling may just be lying within those crazy dreams. Is there any bigger lasting happiness than following the true desire of the heart with purpose and fulfillment? Fearless as the child reaching out towards the unknown, reach out to find your dream happiness.



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What has been the latest dialogue you had with the little voice in your head?
Was it good or bad?
Did it propel you towards taking uncomfortable action, or, did it cuddle you into the safety of your very own, cozy, comfort zone?
The little voice inside our head can be our best friend, mentor or guide, or, it can be our worst enemy in the guise of "best friend and well-wisher", as we allow it to be.
The little voice will usually keep us chained to past or project bleak, dark future. Rarely if ever, it will root us to the present, where we ARE.
Transformation is about taking control of the voice and the dialogues it throws up in our minds. It is about becoming comfortable with the uncomfortable.
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Have you ever wondered why each individual in a group reacts differently to the same situation happening them? The reason is each creates an own version of “reality” from the incident. Each reality is shaped through individual filters of values and beliefs that are ingrained deep into depths of consciousness that are unknown to us but regulate the dialogues that repeats in each mind, continuously. Dialogues that define each individual’s thoughts, emotions and behaviour.

Becoming aware, thereafter controlling and altering these dialogues are the gateway to living and growing to your fullest potential.

Transformation is about altering individual realities – it is about Mind Process Reengineering.

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Over the last couple of days, I have had the opportunity to interact with a group of highly specialised, energetic young professionals engaged in creating and handling Social Media campaigns for corporates. Their approach to their respective fields of work within the larger bucket was appreciably professional.
Precise to the dot, exactly as every Social Media campaign is seen operating today. Exactly the way it is taught and practised.
And therein lay the handicap. The boundaries were deeply drawn - the proverbial "Lakshman Rekha"s etched. The web structure, the headings, the flow, the contents, all were to be "as per standard practice".
Who created the "standard"? What existed before the "standard" came into being? Who decided the boundaries? Why cannot the boundaries be challenged?
As we move deeper into technology dependent living at every step of our existence, we are being enslaved and chained more and more into smaller and smaller creative spaces. Independent thinking, challenging the boundaries, the "standards" are being driven out of our minds - human minds are being systematically killed off. MCQs run roughshod over free analytical mental processes.
Live by boundaries, by limiting beliefs, live in confinement, live with AI - human mind be damned. Are we hastening the death of the human faculties?
Let this be a call to all who believe in freedom of thought, of challenging boundaries, challenging limiting beliefs and creating a joyous, colourful life for themselves. Get your mind set free of etched beliefs, etched out "norms" of living and success parameters - join in for true transformational coaching that uncovers the human life of happiness, joy and boundless freedom that we are meant for.
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Continuing from where we left off, these days, people are so conditioned to look for happiness that they give up at the first sign something won’t be fun. They feel entitled to love every second of their job, and if they’re slapped in the face with something unpleasant, they pick up their bags and go home, or crib and remain, unhappy and frustrated. This seems a bit childish, but analyse and find that this is majorly true.
In our relentless pursuit to be happy and love what we do, we follow the advice of coaches and therapists who make big money by asking their clients this question: "What is your passion?"
The truth is this: Passion is the easy question. Let us admit, we can all find things that we love to engage in.
True transformation coaches will set you up to answer "What can you do with your life that is important?"
We need to find our “why.” When we know what we can do with our life that is important, we’ve found our purpose. When we lack direction in our life, it’s usually because we either don’t know what our values are or what we hold as our values are crappy ones. Unaware of our true values, we have ended up adopting ones held by other people and pretending they’re your own.
The result – you have ended up living a pathetic imitation of someone else because you have no clue of your “why.”
Passion and Purpose married is the life each is meant to live. It is the key to happiness within. Align your work with your deepest values. Values are the things you take with you, wherever you go. They’re not things you can buy, rent or trade in for the latest model or find out in social media, DIY, motivational speeches, laws or any else.

The hedonistic approach to life is popular right now. WIIIFM is our guiding “mantra”.
What is in it for me? I need to be passionate about my job, and if it doesn’t meet my expectations, then I’ll move on to something else. It is the same thinking about marriage and relationships that many people have these days.
Most of us have no idea what we want to do with our lives, and it’s a struggle almost every adult experiences on their way to maturity. We assume as we age, we’ll get the big picture of life and “abra-ca-dabra” -- all will be revealed. The reality is, age and wisdom don’t necessarily travel together. Mostly, age shows up all by itself.

I leave you with this trigger and shall be back soon with to continue from hereon.

Stay Safe.

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Our entire cognitive process since birth has been subject to and shaped by the environment, what we have seen and heard and what we have filtered and retained of them, the love, affection, anger, bitterness, scolding, regimentation, punishments, morality and ethics injected into our minds, our own observations and inferences thereof, our experiences and what we have chosen to have made of them.

Over time, these images, inferences, experiences and our internalised versions of these experiences, values taught to us and as seen by us, the indoctrinations of good and evil, right and wrong, black and white and the norms of society, the life that is "good" and "bad", the measures of success in life, - all converge and solidify to form our values and our beliefs.

They become our "dreams", our "fears" and constitute our view the world - OUR VERY OWN PERSONAL WORLD. This is the world that each of us live in.

Our own Augmented Reality - our very own AR.

Do we ever break free into the world of TRUTH? The REAL WORLD and face it?

Transformational Coaching is your journey from your own AR to REAL.

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Today, I share with you a story that I recently came across.

Nan-in, a Japanese master during the Meiji era, received a university professor who came to inquire about Zen.

Nan-in served tea. He poured his visitor’s cup full, and then kept on pouring. The professor watched the overflow until he no longer could restrain himself. “It is overfull. No more will go in!”

Like this cup, Nan-in said, you are full of your own opinions and speculations. How can I show you Zen unless you first empty your cup?

In these recent days, many of us have gone through and still continue to go through webinars, courses, ideas and thoughts propagated in numbers, quite often jumping from one input to the other.

The question remains - did we empty our cup?

Unlearning is perhaps THE MOST difficult of processes. It challenges us from within, from our core where we are deeply ensconced with our EGO, smug in our comfort zones.

Are we ready to empty our cup?

Whenever we find all reasons external as the cause of our problems, we are pointing outwards or "finger pointing". Everything happens because of causes external to self. It is comforting as we then remain "safe" within us.
What we fail to realise is that, with every such external reason, every such "comforting" thought, we are dis-empowering our own self. As we continue to tread down this path of "externalising" all problems with our lives, we gradually bring ourselves down to a state of mental wretchedness, weak and victimised.
It is only when we start to look inward, we embark on the path of taking responsibility. Responsibility for our thoughts, our actions and the way we lead our lives. And, we assume control of our world.
We start to live our life, our way to our dreams to our fulfilment.
Transformation coaches guide you to turn inward and you start to release your shackles of bo***ge as victims.

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A persistent pandemic, a very severe cyclonic storm (Amphan) and a lesser one (Nisarg), about a fortnight of "unlock" , two disease induced and one extremely unfortunate death - all being experienced by us, 2020 has been truly a great teacher for all of us. We are also witness to the ordeal and tribulations of migrant labour that has now been overshadowed by happenings at our borders in prime time news. Several have suffered job loss, several have and continue to endure pay-cuts, almost every item of regular use, including items of daily consumption are on continued gravity-defying price spiral - human existence has well and truly been under compelling forces of change on both physical and mental dimensions on hitherto unknown scales.
We have sought to equip ourselves and fight out the hurricane of change through more webinars, books, online and video courses that have become available in multitudes almost on daily basis, each seeking to promote new concepts, new techniques - all seeking to empower individuals for becoming "better versions". If we have not achieved results as promised or expected, we have mostly jumped on to the next idea and concept in the hope that things will work out. Yet, the issue may have roots in the fact that we may not have identified the problem correctly. This is where the role of coaching comes in. Coaching is not advising or just handing out steps to be followed. Coaching is interacting through personal connect and probing and questioning until the root problem is reached and our cocoons breached.

Transformation coaches equip you for facing yourself and winning your internal battles and become victors.

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The pandemic has underlined that except for the larger than life egos, most of us flaunting tags of Professionals (business, practice or service whatever), have only secondary value when it comes to subsistence of life as humans. Our fancy salaries and lifestyles are of little value before the paltry earners like garbage collectors, nurses and ward boys, vegetable growers and vendors et al who have braved the situation so that our fancy lives may go on. Yet they form the worst earners in society and we who live off them nurture our big egos and “know all” attitudes. Today, the world will well survive without degree-flaunting big shots but will depend on the lowly-paid, oft-neglected true-value, life sustaining contributors to society.

In a situation that has brought all strata of humanity to where we all have always belonged – as EQUALS, let us then drop our egos and rise as human beings with a mind-slate cleared of all baggage of crammed learning, of imposed “do’s and don’ts”, of the grossly left brained linear thinking education and degrees that we have been made victims of, and rise as newly born humans.

This unlearning is our new learning, our journey of rediscovery where humility not ego, equality not status, real education and wisdom not degree-based knowledge, passion and not profession, lead us to a more contributing, fulfilling, enriching life and we, each one of us, know within that we are well and truly adding value to society, to our colleagues, friends and relatives, to our family and enriching ourselves through it.

Maybe COVID 19 is asking us one and only one thing: to personally evolve be ready to become a better version of ourselves.

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WHEN LOVE AND SKILL WORK TOGETHER, EXPECT A MASTERPIECE :: John Ruskin

One needs to answer several fundamental questions about life before being able to embark on a desired new cycle of life. There is no start to this new cycle of your life until if don’t get the answers to those questions. You are asked to think about yourself today, to answer the numerous existential and crucial questions so that you evolve.

Answer those questions before they offer you a new cycle of your life and the opportunities that come with it:
What is your purpose in life? What is your mission?
What are your real hidden talents?
How could you improve your relationships with the others and especially with the ones you love?
How can you become a better version of yourself?
How can you really find happiness in your existence?
What are the professional fields which will fulfil you the most regarding your activity and your finances?

All these questions are fundamental and one has never taken the time to answer them remaining caught in the whirlwind of life. Today the pandemic has provided the opportunity, the choice, and at the same time the COVID 19 induced changed scenario imposes one to take the time to question oneself, to understand what are your true goals in life, to understand what is your mission on this earth, how you can succeed in some areas more than others, how to develop and thrive in your relationships with others, how you can gain total happiness in your love life, so that you can evolve and not make the same mistakes again and again.

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