Deepak Pandey

Dear Friends,
I am so excited to share this, after years of study in human psychology & NLP, and mentorship from various coaches and spiritual gurus, I have been able to design my own NLP-based system enriched with advanced techniques to create the fastest and long-lasting results.

NLP is the most effective method for changing the behavior, beliefs, and patterns of the human mind.

I would appreciate it if you could share this with someone who feels stuck somewhere and is seeking professional help.

𝐇𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐰𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐪𝐮𝐢𝐫𝐞 𝐞𝐟𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐟𝐨𝐜𝐮𝐬, 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐞 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐧𝐚𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲?𝐇𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐰𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐪𝐮𝐢𝐫𝐞 𝐞𝐟𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐟𝐨𝐜𝐮𝐬, 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐞 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐧𝐚𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲?

1) The Second Law of Thermodynamics states that the 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐩𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐫𝐞 𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐞, 𝐚𝐬 𝐚𝐧 𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐬𝐲𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐦, 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐛𝐞 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞.

What does that mean?

Entropy means, the degree of randomness. So everything in the universe will naturally be in the randomness (distracted/scattered).

Have you seen the stars at night? Why are they not arranged properly in lines? You throw a few stones on the ground, no matter thousands of times, they will never take positions in a straight line. Arranging clothes in a wardrobe requires effort, but they will be scattered naturally in a few days.

So our Brain is also part of this universe, how it can be focused naturally? It requires effort.

2) Our Brain was designed to save energy and it will always try to save energy. 𝐅𝐨𝐜𝐮𝐬 𝐫𝐞𝐪𝐮𝐢𝐫𝐞𝐬 𝐞𝐟𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐡𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐲, 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐢𝐬 𝐞𝐟𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬. So it will be naturally biased to distractions.

This is one of the reasons, why some people go into sleep while doing meditation because their brains prefer to sleep instead of putting energy to focus on one object.

3) We still carry an ancient brain that was developed to survive in the age when people had to struggle with wild animals daily. Distraction was useful at that time to be careful and protect oneself from wild animals. 𝐃𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐬 𝐢𝐧𝐯𝐨𝐥𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐲 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝. 𝐍𝐨𝐰 𝐰𝐞 𝐝𝐨 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐦𝐚𝐥𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝 𝐮𝐬, 𝐬𝐨 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐦𝐨𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐟𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐬𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝 𝐩𝐮𝐥𝐥𝐬 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐢𝐧𝐯𝐨𝐥𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐲 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧.

𝑶𝒖𝒓 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒅𝒔 𝒔𝒂𝒚 𝒂 𝒍𝒐𝒕 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒖𝒔. 𝑫𝒐 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒐𝒇𝒕𝒆𝒏 𝒆𝒙𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒔𝒆 𝒊𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒓 𝒗𝒐𝒊𝒄𝒆𝒔?

I have to do this.
I must do this.
I am supposed to do this.

𝑰𝒇 𝒚𝒆𝒔, 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒉𝒊𝒈𝒉 𝒄𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒄𝒆𝒔 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒍𝒊𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒆𝒍𝒔𝒆'𝒔 𝒗𝒂𝒍𝒖𝒆𝒔.

When you are living with your own core values, your statements change like this:

𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬.

Did you observe the shift in language?

Many times we can't align ourselves with the values of our organization and then every task becomes meaningless for us. There is no fun, living someone else's values. When you are not living your values, motivation can not drive you.

𝑯𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒄𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒗𝒂𝒍𝒖𝒆𝒔?

𝐃𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐢𝐜𝐞𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞?
𝐒𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 "𝐎𝐑".

Why do I say this? While it seems "OR" gives us two choices.

Tea or Coffee, Milk or Juice?

𝑾𝒉𝒊𝒍𝒆 𝒘𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒌 "𝑶𝑹" 𝒊𝒔 𝒈𝒊𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒖𝒔 𝒄𝒉𝒐𝒊𝒄𝒆𝒔, 𝒂𝒄𝒕𝒖𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒊𝒕 𝒃𝒍𝒐𝒄𝒌𝒔 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒄𝒉𝒐𝒊𝒄𝒆𝒔. 𝑯𝒐𝒘?

Should I exercise or take a rest?
Should I work or play?
Should I study or sleep?
Should I eat or lose weight?

Now you understand, that you have only one choice, and you also know what is that one choice.

𝑶𝒖𝒓 𝑩𝒓𝒂𝒊𝒏 𝒂𝒍𝒘𝒂𝒚𝒔 𝒈𝒊𝒗𝒆𝒔 𝒖𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒔𝒘𝒆𝒓𝒔, 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒌𝒆𝒚 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒂𝒔𝒌 𝒐𝒏𝒍𝒚 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒓𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒒𝒖𝒆𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔.

What if I ask:

𝑯𝒐𝒘 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝑰 𝒆𝒙𝒆𝒓𝒄𝒊𝒔𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒕𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒕?
𝑯𝒐𝒘 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝑰 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒌 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒚?
𝑯𝒐𝒘 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝑰 𝒔𝒕𝒖𝒅𝒚 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒔𝒍𝒆𝒆𝒑 𝒘𝒆𝒍𝒍?
𝑯𝒐𝒘 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝑰 𝒆𝒂𝒕 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒂𝒍𝒔𝒐 𝒍𝒐𝒔𝒆 𝒘𝒆𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕?

This reframing will open a lot of options for you. Let me know your answers.

Communication is not only how well you speak or write a language, communication is also about using the right words at the right places to get the right response from the Universe.

Do you use such sentences?

𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐚 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐝𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐢𝐧.

𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐨𝐦 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐈 𝐚𝐥𝐬𝐨 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐮𝐫𝐞.

It seems perfectly fine, right? But let me tell you the problem with this statement. This is the 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒇𝒍𝒊𝒄𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒅𝒆𝒔𝒊𝒓𝒆𝒔. When we use such sentences our brain completely discards the statement before "But". For our brain avoiding pain becomes important and it completely discards "𝒃𝒆𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒊𝒏 𝒂 𝒓𝒆𝒍𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔𝒉𝒊𝒑". So if you have two conflicting desires replace "But" with the "And".

𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐚 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐝𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐢𝐧.

It completely changes the meaning of your communication.

The meaning of communication is not what you want to communicate, the meaning of communication is the response you get.

Someone said this to me today "I am overweight". I asked him what is your name? He replied with a beautiful name. Then I asked again, why are you calling yourself overweight then? You may have a few Kg more than the average, but that doesn't mean you identify yourself with the name "overweight"

Someone who is suffering from Asthma says, I am Asthmatic. My question to them is, how many hours in a day?

You can be asthmatic for 30-40 min at maximum rest of the time you are healthy. Why don't you choose to say I have slight breathing issues. Never give fancy names to your diseases and never put them as your identity.

The message that I want to convey here is never associate a negative word with your identity, when we do so it is very difficult to come out of it.

Someone who puts fat as his/her identity, no matter how much effort they make to stay fit, In few days they will lose the momentum and their body will again match to their Identity.

So when you are making a shift in your life, please check what your inner Identities are and if any Identity is not aligned with what you are planning to be, first change your identity.

Identity is what you prefix after " I am".
So what is your Identity?

Are our electronic gadgets diminishing our attention span?

Are you someone who constantly checks your technological devices while reading or working?

We sometimes refer to this as effective working because we are accomplishing our major tasks while simultaneously keeping an eye on critical emails or text messages that come in. But how many times do we check our phones without receiving any notifications? We become anxious when we do not hear any notification sounds for an extended period of time and just pick up our phone to see whether everything is okay.

Dr. Larry Rosen, a research psychologist recognized as an International expert in the "Psychology of Technology," conducted a study on 260 middle school, high school, and university students and asked them to study at their homes for 15 minutes. He found that participants on average switched their tasks in less than 6 minutes of studying due to technology distractions like phone vibrations, mobile notifications, email alerts, as well as self-interruptions.

Dr. Rosen referred to this as task switching. These distractions take us away from what we were doing. Our brain's focus shifts away from the original task and toward our electronic devices. When we return to our original tasks, we lose time attempting to remember what we were thinking or doing.

Nowadays, the average human attention span is 8.25 seconds, which is less than the goldfish (9 seconds), which was thought to be the most distracted species on the planet.

One method for improving attention span and productivity is to take a technology break. We should take a short break to check our electronic gadgets after at least 15 minutes of productive work, and this should be extended up to 30-40 minutes, when we learn to constantly work for 15 minutes.

How do you see "Nirvana Shatakam" ?

I see it as a deep guided meditation. Essentially states, "I am Shiva" (Shivoham), composed by Adi Shri Shankaracharya. Should I thus think of myself as Shiva, or does it inspire us to embody Shiva's attributes?

Here, Shiva is a state of mind.

चिदानन्दरूपः शिवोऽहम् शिवोऽहम्
I am the Pure Blissful Consciousness.
I am Shiva, I am Shiva.

The Nirvana Shatakam explains how one can achieve the state of Shiva. Here, Shiva is the state of pure consciousness, nothing else.

Can anyone achieve state of Shiva permanently?
I'm not sure, nor am I concerned; even if I only experience this state for a moment, it will be pure happiness, and the longer one experiences the state of pure consciousness (Shiva), the more bliss they will experience in their lives.

मनोबुद्ध्यहङ्कार चित्तानि नाहं
न च श्रोत्रजिह्वे न च घ्राणनेत्रे ।
न च व्योम भूमिर्न तेजो न वायुः
चिदानन्दरूपः शिवोऽहम् शिवोऽहम् ॥

I am not the mind, nor the intelligence or ego, nor the organs of taste, smell, or sight, nor the fire or air, nor the sky, nor the earth, nor the fire or air. I am the ever-pure blissful consciousness. I am Shiva, I am Shiva.

The Whole Nirvana Shatkam describes how we are not a positive or negative state of mind, emotions, or social identities, and that we should not think of ourselves as a body. We should not feel attached or consider ourselves as free. We are not attached in any relationships and have no worry. Paap and Punya, happiness and sadness are irrelevant to me.

I am pure consciousness.
I am Shiva, I am Shiva.

May you all experience the State of "Shiva".

Check your glasses.

Sometimes we need to keep ourselves first.

In any relationship, effective communication is essential to preventing hurt and disappointment.

Remember, not all hurt comes from other people. Sometimes, it can come from ourselves. Be gentle with yourself and try to cultivate self-love and self-compassion.