Becky Rothstein Coaching

Three days. A room full of women. One decision each of them made: this time, I choose me.

Our Margoa retreat just came to a close, and I'm still carrying it with me.

I want to share a little of what we walked through together — because these three steps aren't just for a retreat. They're for a life.

Heal.
We began with the relationship each woman has with herself. The voice that says "not good enough." The image in the mirror that never matches the woman inside. You can't build anything real on a cracked foundation — so first, we heal how we see ourselves.

Rise.
Then we lift. New standards for what we accept, how we spend our energy, where our focus goes. Because the woman who heals her self-worth stops settling — for less attention, less care, less life than she deserves.

Shine.
And then we give it back. This is what leadership really is — not a title, but a woman so full she has something to share. When you shine, you light the way for every woman watching you.

To the women who were there: thank you. You made this what it was.

And to the women reading this from across the ocean — I see you too. Something is coming for you.

Stay close. 💛

Becky

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I thought a long time about writing this one.

We're going to talk about losing someone you love.

So if today isn't the day for that, close this.

Come back when you're ready. I'll still be here.

In Judaism we have a custom. When someone is grieving, we visit. And we stay quiet.

We don't walk in with advice.

We don't try to fix it or explain it or find the silver lining.

We sit.

We wait.

If they want to talk, we listen. If they don't, we're still there.

There's something powerful in that.

It tells the grieving person: I'm not here to minimize what you feel. I'm not going to pretend this isn't as heavy as it is. I'm just with you.

That's the whole message. You are not alone in this.

So in that same spirit, for you or for someone you love who's hurting right now, I want to give you three things.

Small things. T

hey can be the difference between moving toward the light and staying stuck inside your own mind.

1. Allow yourself to feel it. Don't shrink it. Don't hide it. This is going to be a painful stretch of road, and pretending otherwise only makes it longer. Let it be as big as it is.

2. Let the sadness move. Write it down. Talk to a friend you trust. Say it out loud. Grief that stays locked inside gets heavier. Grief that moves starts to soften. Don't close the door on people.

3. When some energy comes back, take one action that feels like you. Just one. Something that reminds you who you are underneath all of this. You are still in there. Loss changes the shape of your life. It doesn't erase you.

That last one matters most. Never stop being yourself.

If you're in it right now, I'm holding you in my heart.

Take your time with all of it.

And if you ever need to talk, I'm here.

💛 — Becky