Re/Write

The final episode of ‘The Rewriters Podcast’ Season 3 is out today!

👉 HOW TO REWRITE YOUR STORY FROM THE INSIDE-OUT

If I could describe in a single sentence what my business ‘Rewrite’ does: it’s rewriting stories from the inside-out.

If you feel like there is a disconnect between who you are and the work that you do, this one is for you. We’re going to close the gap between your inside story and your outside story to create more meaning, fulfilment and impact in work and in life.

The episode is broken down as follows:

1️⃣ Background & Context – Why bother rewriting your story AND What the research says

2️⃣ Rewriting Your Inside Story – Getting to know yourself AND Knowing what you want

3️⃣ Rewriting Your Outside Story – Connecting to others AND Creating what you need

4️⃣ Self-Coaching Questions – A framework for rewriting your own story from the inside-out

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In light of the 1000s upon 1000s of talented people having their jobs deleted overnight, I’m sharing an episode from archive ‘HOW TO SURVIVE REDUNDANCY: 4 Steps To Career Transformation’

💪 Solidarity and support for anyone going through it right now. It doesn’t feel like it at the time, but redundancy may end up being the most transformative thing that has ever happened in your career

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During the episode I share a 4-point framework for not just surviving redundancy but thriving after it.

The episode is broken up into the 4 points of the framework:
 
1️⃣ FORTIFYING – What does it mean to fortify during redundancy?

2️⃣ CONTROL – Controlling the controllable

3️⃣ CONNECT –The importance of sharing the load

4️⃣ ACT – Take time to breath and then take ACTION!
 
Listen to the episode and then join
for support, structure and accountability as you move forward into action.
 
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I read a lot about the psychology of people pleasing in preparation for the latest ep of (‘How to Stop Being a People Pleaser...’) and there was a word I’d never heard of that kept coming up:

SOCIOTROPY. Have you heard of it?

It’s described as a personality dimension characterised by EXCESSIVE investment in interpersonal relationships. Essentially too much concern with pleasing others at the expense of concern for oneself.

So much of the reading I did around people pleasing indicated strong correlation between people pleasing behaviours and higher cortisol, anxiety and depression. No surprises there but just to underline the point: people pleasing can be bad for your health.

It’s no joke.

If you feel like it’s having a significant impact on your happiness and health, a reputable and certified therapist with experience in this area is a safe place to start.

Coaching is not therapy. What a coach can offer though, is tangible and practical ways to challenge old thinking and behaviours (like people pleasing) and move forward into action with a new way of approaching work and relationships (including the one we have with ourselves).

I summarise what I read about the psychology of people pleasing and provide some self-coaching questions to help you explore your relationship with people pleasing in ‘How To Stop Being A People Pleaser (Without Being A D!ck About It)’

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📸 (pic of me in the role that sparked an end to my people pleasing)

People pleasing is a lose/lose game.

We think that by saying yes to everything, we’re being helpful and nice. But with all the best intentions, it’s actually not.

Stripped right back, people pleasing is really about controlling the narrative and other people’s opinions of you.

It’s DISHONEST: It doesn’t allow for depth or nuance in relationships (Enter insincere connection)

It’s SELF-ABANDONMENT: You contort yourself to others’ wants and needs at the expense of your own goals (Enter: resentment)

It can lead to BURNOUT: You’ll attract people who will happily have you prioritising their to-dos while you set yours aside (Enter: stress, overwork, exhaustion and… eventually… burnout)

IMO quitting people pleasing is an urgent gift to you, your career and to the people in your life.

I’m a recovered people pleaser and I finally quit it in a very unexpected way.

👉 Find out how I did it (and you can too) in the latest episode of “How To Stop Being A People Pleaser (Without Being A D!ck About It)”

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📸 by Sam McNamara via Unsplash (colour adjusted, my text added)

Community is sacred.

In the ‘The Rewriters Community’ we’re about honesty, vulnerability and some big (sometimes scary) dreams. We’re down to earth and we don’t take ourselves too seriously, but we do take our lives and dreams very seriously. The words shared on these tiles are from a member of our community based in Australia.

If you’re a professional woman with equal parts ambition and empathy, our community could be for you.

It’s an intimate and confidential community for smart, curious women inspiring and supporting one another as they rethink and rewrite how they work and live.

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📸 by Aditya Saxena via Unsplash (cropped with text added)

In 2016 I was a happily-pregnant work-addicted people pleaser in a job I loved with pretty much Entirely Externalised Self-Worth.

I knew the way I worked wouldn’t work once that baby arrived and so I set about trying to figure out how to get a handle on my time. I managed to shave chunks off my workload (which is another story) but something else entirely unexpected happened too ...

I stopped being a people pleaser.

I had set out to deal with the logistics of my boundary-less, work-addicted life - post-baby - and ended up relinquishing a multi-decade long tenure as a people pleaser and finally learning how to say NO.

Letting go of the fear of other people not liking you, of their opinions and reactions, is liberating and doable.

My take on people pleasing includes one very important clause though…

Don’t Be A D!ck About It.

Want to hear what else I have to say on the topic?

Listen to latest episode of – HOW TO STOP BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER. I share how I overcame people pleasing and how you can too…

PODCAST link in bio

You’ll also hear me hilariously trying to pronounce Sociotropy 🙋🏻‍♀️

Are you a recovered people pleaser too? What helped you get over it?

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THE REWRITERS COMMUNUTY is a privacy-first, judgement-free zone 🚫

No posturing, no dominating. Just very clever, very curious professional women inspiring and supporting one another as they build careers and lives that work.

In the interests of confidentiality I don’t share members names or faces, but I do share their words (with their permission). The words on these tiles are how one member describes what the community means to her and who she feels it’s for.

I created this membership in response to what I was seeing with my clients and also my friends, family (and myself) – a need for more connection and community and a move away from hustle and hyper-performance.

Make no mistake though, these women are still ambitious - they’re just approaching ambition and career success from a sustainable, values-aligned, long-term viewpoint.

If this sounds like your vibe click EXPLORE link in my bio or DM me to find out more.

Membership includes:

✔️Monthly Accountability Sessions (including your monthly goal and accountability trackers)
✔️Access to all Special Members Events and Workshops
✔️Weekly Accountability Check-ins
✔️Quarterly 1:1 private coaching interventions with me
✔️A private Resources Library
✔️Access to our online Swarm community space
✔️And to work and walk alongside our little global village 🌏



📸 br Jeffery Erhunse via Unsplash (cropped with text added)

Still love a talk track!

Here’s me this morning prepped and ready to go with my trusty talk track in hand.

I was running a ‘LIFE PIE’ session for my members ( ) and even though I’ve run these sessions many times before, I know the content inside-out, and it’s a gorgeous group and informal setting - I still always ALWAYS prep a talk track.

I do it for all of my workshops and presentations - if I don’t, my process feels incomplete.

You can take the girl out of bids and pitching, but you can’t take bids and pitching out of the girl 📣💃🏻🦚

Anyone relate?

These words came in from a member of our community in Switzerland (we currently have members based in the UK, Europe and Australia).

‘The Rewriters Community’ is exactly what I hoped to create – space, time and structure offering accountability, support, wisdom, empathy, and joy.

Because I have a privacy-first approach, growing a group like this and bringing other women in needs to be done very carefully.

The most sensible way I could think to share what our community REALLY is (beyond the check-list of benefits) is to simply ask members to explain it in their own words 🧡

If you’re looking for a private space for professional women rethinking how they work and live, at their own pace and on their own terms, ‘The Rewriters Community’ is it. It’s a very unique mix of practicality & rigour and warmth, openness & vulnerability.

Membership is £41 per month or £415.00 for the year.

This includes:

🌟 Monthly Accountability Sessions (including your monthly goal and accountability trackers)
🌟 Access to all Special Members Events and Workshops (our next one is a ‘Life Pie Workshop’ on 22nd April run by me – it’s an audit and reset of your time, energy and attention)
🌟Weekly Accountability Check-ins (I use these for any life admin I’m avoiding)
🌟Quarterly 1:1 private coaching interventions with me
🌟A growing catalogue of resources
🌟Access to our online Swarm community space
🌟And just to hang out with these brilliant and supportive women from around the world 🌏

To find out more click the EXPLORE 🔗 in bio


📸 by Priscilla Du Preez 🇨🇦 via Unsplash

Think about a situation at work when someone said or did something that caused a strong, negative emotional response in you.

You probably kept it under wraps at the time, but inside you raged.

No doubt you downloaded the situation to a trusted colleague as soon as you could, forensically picking over each detail and getting re-outraged all over again.

Reflecting back now, your response may feel a little out-sized.

You may even wonder why you reacted as strongly as you did….

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Understand what’s going on and how to deal with it next time 👉 READ THE ENTIRE ARTICLE via the link in bio 🔗