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Honoured to have spoken with Heather, an intuitive eating dietician, on perfectionism and disordered eating.

Podcast | Behind The Plate

"Perfectionism LOVES black-and-white thinking, which makes it the ideal companion to diet culture."

How Perfectionism Fuels Disordered Eating (and How to Break the Cycle) Written by Stephanie Huls, MSW, RSWThis article is intended for educational and informational purposes only and does not replace personalized care from a registered dietitian, therapist, or healthcare provider. If you’re concerned about your relationship with food or your body, please reach out to...

Thanks to Heather from Behind the Plate for writing this great article on Intuitive Eating!

Intuitive Eating 101: Finding an Alternative to Diet Culture — Reflection Counselling Services When it comes to food and our bodies, many people feel stuck between two extremes: on a diet or not on a diet. But what if there was a third option—one that focused not on restriction or rules, but on trust and self-care?

A very vulnerable sharing about the impact of trauma-informed teaching in schools. (TW: Murder of a sibling and death of parent)

Trauma Informed Teaching | Dr. Meredith Fox | TEDxFieldstoneDriveED Re-thinking how we relate to and build relationships with students who have social-emotional needs, as well as connect with students who may have experienced...

ChatGPT has been a useful but controversial tool for many folks, including for mental health support. If you’re curious about the pros and cons of using it in this way, check out this month’s newsletter. Not signed up? Link is in the bio. 😊

Time to tackle some therapy lingo! “I let the intrusive thoughts win” has been floating around for a while now, but a lot of content uses it incorrectly. So if you’re curious what intrusive thoughts actually are and how to spot them, check out this month’s newsletter. (Link in bio).
[ID: A cartoon brain who is thinking has the words “I let the intrusive thoughts win” above him and “This month’s newsletter: How to spot an intrusive thought” below him].

I often hear the stories of the appointments and interactions that have gone poorly and have been triggering for clients. These types of experiences can deter individuals from reaching out to much needed services, asking for help, or receiving adequate treatment. They can also lead to retraumatization, relapses of substance use or eating disordered behaviour, flashbacks, dissociation, shame, self-harming behaviours, and suicidal ideation.

While my work has involved creating self-care and safety plans, it would be exponentially easier for clients if they knew they were interacting with professionals who are aware of not only the possibility of trauma, but also how it might impact their presentation and needs. (It ‘s likely to make it easier for the service provider, as well!)

If you think this would be beneficial for you or your team, feel free to reach out for more information.

"... I believed an old-fashioned narrative, which I think a lot of us are taught, about how desire works. We’re told it’s all passion and “spark” early in a relationship, and that lasts a couple of years maybe; then we have kids or buy a fixer-upper house or generally get busy with work and life, and the spark fizzles out, especially after 50, when apparently every hormone we ever had floats away on a sea of aging and we’re left, s*xless and neutered, to hold hands at sunset. Our options, we’re told, are either to accept the fizzling of our desire for s*x or to fight against it, to invest our time, attention, and even our money in 'keeping the spark alive.'" - Emily Nagoski

The Myth of Low Sexual Desire Great s*x over the long term is not about how much you want s*x; it’s about how much you like the s*x you’re having.

I’m all for setting goals and working hard to achieve them, but sometimes perfectionism gets in the way of self-recognition and positive experiences and just stresses us out instead.

Check link in bio for an article on “Aiming for Perfection” to learn four reasons why we try to be perfect and four subsequent pitfalls.

Co-regulation: What It Is and Why it Matters If you work with, coach, teach, or care for adolescents, this animation offers a brief introduction to co-regulation support rooted in evidence-informed stra...