YEScessary

I’m grown enough to know when to be there for someone, so I will relax this guardrail when I need to, but for the most part, I will not yap for more than 25 – 30 minutes. That’s enough time to catch up.

My parents get 40 mins. I notice the sentences don’t come out as fast when you’re older.

At work, I’m scheduling more meetings for 45 mins or 30.

Let’s power through folks.

What does “Limit and Lock in” look like?

Purposeful reduction. Instead of ten personal goals, I now have three.

For example, my swimming endurance is a work in progress. My goal is to hit ten lengths without stopping. I realized I was spending two plus hours each swim visit and not making progress on my other goals. So, I’m shelving my Olympic swimmer bod ambitions for now. Emphasis on “for now.” Still getting in the pool when I can.

“Limit and Lock in” has been the hardest tactic to implement; however, I’m seeing movement where I want to.

This checklist/metric reassures me that I’m fitting in what matters.

So how do I shoehorn in my yescessaries?
Let me tell you what’s been working lately.And I mix it up! Sometimes I get to the gym, sometimes I go for a brisk morning walk. Sometimes I slip in some reading or visit a friend.

HHH is my numero uno system to do what matters.Yescessaries help me feel supported, respected, genuine, conscious and strong. They matter to me, so they go on the to-do list now.

We celebrated a milestone birthday for my dad, and I’m still zonked.

Almost 90 guests, DJ, singer, poetry reading, catering, photographer, decorations, program, keepsakes. It was joyous!

A year ago, we had a scare, so it made my heart so happy to celebrate.

Go Pops!

Part 2 of my guide to doing what matters is live!

This one is about the doing — protecting your time, setting energy guardrails, building habits that stick, and letting go of what doesn’t deserve your effort.

If Part 1 was about clarity, Part 2 is about action.

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People always say, I don’t know how you do it. The truth is: I don’t.

I stopped doing it all.

I’m doing what matters instead. It feels like a completely different life.

I looked back at the goals I wrote in January, and for the first time in my life, I actually built the habits I said I wanted. Not perfectly, but consistently. That’s what intention does.

I realized I needed two purpose statements: one for my work and one for my personal life. Both reflect how I want to contribute, support, create, and connect. Both matter. Both guide me.

Writing my purpose statement wasn’t lofty or dramatic. It gave me a whole heap of clarity. Purpose is simply what matters to you, expressed clearly. It’ll become your compass. A guide. A grounding force. And a huuuuuge help as you figure out how to spend your time.

After the bubbles are sipped, the sequins come off, the twinkling lights dim, and the tinsel is tossed, I find a gentle post-mortem supremely healing, informative, and validating. I have crafted ten questions to look back on this year.

Just ten."Limit and Lock in" at play.

I feel these ten will do it for me.

1. Who went out of their way to help me, support me or truly saw me this year?

I made a list and sent personal, non-AI generated notes to thank them.

2. What were my three personal wins (big or small) this year?

3. What was my biggest surprise this year?

4. What did I bring from the year before into this year that worked for me?

5. What was my most memorable meal?

6. When and where did I feel most relaxed and at ease?

7. Where did I go that I’d like to revisit? This can be local or farther afield.

8. What (who) were my biggest interruptions? And how did I deal with them?

I live with three, but beyond the immediates…

9. What did I let go of this year?

10. What am I most excited about for the coming year?

C’est tout. Are there any questions here that resonate with you?

There are still a few days left in 2025. Who knows? My most memorable meal and biggest win might still be a coming!